Happy Tuesday. What's on your mind?

[irene adler]

Apparently it's POPONS (point out problems, offer no solution) Tuesday! My (hopefully) stealthy side eye is getting an incredible workout. The ego in this room is astounding.

I am looking forward to October 16.  On that day, wedding season will be over, I will not have any house guests on the docket, and I have a bottle of champagne waiting for me in the wings.

Also, my legs have goosebumps on them because it is cold. I am so happy to finally feel cold!

[hamster]

I wish I could tell you all about the chaos of my job lately, but there's no way to do it without totally identifying my employer.

[Pom]

Having argued all morning with Mr P about considering the ramifications of taking a Step-down position at his company, I need a nap. Jesus, he can be so normal and then irrational about work. He clearly needs some "see the value in yourself" therapy.

[mbcdefg]

I don't even want to look at my CC balance right now. I went on a work trip last week and it hasn't been reimbursed yet; $250 on a vet bill; Shop Rite wouldn't take my debit card for groceries even though I had enough in my account so I just charged it; I had $100+ on there already from something else that I was hoping to pay off soon; and yesterday I used it for flowers and a repast deposit for FIL.

It's not unmanageable. We will pay it off together and I'll get money from work to pay off the trip, but the thought of even logging into the Citi website right now makes me want to hide under the bed.


 

On a positive note, MH has off for teachers' convention in four weeks, and I took time off as well. I hope we can go up to Montreal like we always do. Maybe I will call today and make a restaurant reservation to cheer him up. 

[Pom]

Oct 6, 2015 11:21:23 GMT -5 poundcake said:

I went to my PCP yesterday evening and she checked the pain in my armpit. She found a lump in the breast tissue.
I have been having pain in the breast a few days also. Pain the back, chest, etc.
I mentioned armpit pain last year to my old PCP, and this august to my GYN.
They both did nothing.

Now I have to go for an ultrasound and Mammogram. But they can't schedule until I get the films from my last mammo last November. Which take 48 HOURS.

I'm scared, anxious, crying. I keep thinking of my girls. Thank goodness I sit in a corner and don't face anyone.
I don't know what to do.

Omg I want to hug you so much. Keep breathing and can you call a friend?

[mbcdefg]

I'm sorry poundcake. I hope it's nothing. *big hugs*

[irene adler]

Oh, poundcake, I want to hug you. We are here for whatever you need.

[v]

I went out to dinner with a client last night and, three martinis in, he mentioned that he thinks that people and dinosaurs were roaming the earth at the same time, and evolution is a lie and we in fact "devolved" from dinosaurs. He also said that September 11 was a joke. And he was our ride home :/

The shocking part to me is that this is a man who had a degree from a top ten school!

poundcake, hugs

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Hugs, poundcake!

[raangoli]

poundcake I hope the next few days pass quickly and you get an appointment ASAP. Hugs.

mbcdefg - Is it wrong that I wondered if you get points on the CC at least? 

v What he for real or just trying to see how people would react?  :^)

[protozoa]

hugs poundcake

[v]

Oct 6, 2015 11:41:55 GMT -5 raangoli said:

v What he for real or just trying to see how people would react?  :^)

For real. We didn't engage him, but I asked my coworker who has known him for years about it afterwards and apparently both topics are ones he likes to discuss at length.

[audette]

*hugs* poundcake

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irene adler It's that kind of day here too.  I'm ready to yell at people that if they don't have a solution they may no longer speak to me.

poundcake I'm sending you lots of good thoughts.  I hope the time flies by for you.  

[konapoppy]

hugs poundcake. Thinking good thoughts.

I just registered for a professional exam. Gulp. I hope I can pass it.

[v]

Oct 6, 2015 12:02:43 GMT -5 Stan said:

Praying for you poundcake!

V - That sort of foolishness happens to me a lot with coworkers. One who went to Notre Dame Law, which is respected by your people, right?

Yes, you have to be very smart to get into ND Law!  Smart people are supposed to be smarter than this!

[heliocentric]

My China visa was delayed due to holidays that closed the embassy, so I had to change my trip and leave tomorrow instead of today. Fingers crossed it arrives at my house before I leave for the airport in the morning.

I am stressed with a work project I am leading. I feel clueless and overwhelmed.

Hugs to everyone here who needs them!

[mbcdefg]

Oct 6, 2015 11:41:55 GMT -5 raangoli said:

mbcdefg - Is it wrong that I wondered if you get points on the CC at least? 

It's a Citi DoubleCash card, so I at least get 1% for each purchase and another 1% once it's paid. 

I also Googled for eBates and promo codes when I was ordering the casket flowers. There weren't any, but still, MM4Lyfe.

[steph96]

My young coworker won't speak to me or even look at me. I kinda want to punch her in the face. You don't get to tell our manager that you are quitting because I am not friends with you and then all of a sudden refuse to respond to my hellos/goodbyes.

[Deleted]

Hugs poundcake!! <3


I kick ASS at my job!!! #selffive Seriously, I'm just over joyed with the direction that things are going. I have to having trust and faith but damn, it feels good to see hard work pay off and lead to AMAZING opportunities. I'm celebrating wins on Friday with some friends and I can't to share more of my good news. It feels so incredible to have people around me who support me and are doing INCREDIBLE things themselves. I keep thinking of the quote "you're the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with" and I think I'm in pretty good shape considering the people who surround me.

[raangoli]

Oct 6, 2015 12:14:52 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

Oct 6, 2015 11:41:55 GMT -5 raangoli said:

mbcdefg - Is it wrong that I wondered if you get points on the CC at least? 

It's a Citi DoubleCash card, so I at least get 1% for each purchase and another 1% once it's paid. 

I also Googled for eBates and promo codes when I was ordering the casket flowers. There weren't any, but still, MM4Lyfe.

(heart)

[Deleted]

Okay, it's been a week since my interview (last Monday). They've called my references, but haven't made a job offer yet. And this was after the hurry hurry hurry to interview. At what point do I call?

AND, given that my main point of contact was the former ED, whose last day was last week, who do I call?

[raangoli]

I've been reading a book, which is really wonderful and thought provoking, but holy moly it's also ... depressing? But realistic. I highly recommend it and I'm just over halfway through. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matter in the End.

[v]

Oct 6, 2015 12:18:52 GMT -5 raangoli said:

I've been reading a book, which is really wonderful and thought provoking, but holy moly it's also ... depressing? But realistic. I highly recommend it and I'm just over halfway through. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matter in the End.

Oh yes, it is a real eye opener.

[mbcdefg]

As long as I'm whining about other stuff, while my mind turns to mush this week ... anyone familiar with cats and antibiotics? 

FIL's cat* doesn't get along with ours, so she's shut in a room. Last week she managed to escape while we weren't home, and we came home to find that my tabby had a bite on his back. I took him to the vet last Wednesday - they said there was pus and an abscess, so they flushed it and gave him a 2-week antibiotics shot. He had to be sedated (gas box) because he's a real jerk at the vet's. The bite is on his right side, between his spine and thigh. 

We took him home and shut him in his own room. He was meowing to get out and was generally lively. Vet said to keep him separated from our other cat for 2 weeks. The next day he was really lethargic and wouldn't eat (he's a giant pig and is always eating) so we almost took him in, but he was using the litterbox OK so we decided to just keep an eye on him. He was much livelier the next day, Friday.

So he's on day 6 today. Yesterday and today he's back to being a bit lethargic again. He's still using the litterbox OK, doesn't look disheveled, and he's still eating but not plowing through his food as he typically does in normal circumstances (although I wonder if he eats fast normally because he doesn't want our other cat stealing his food?). He makes little happy meows when we open the door to check on him and he immediately purrs for us, and sometimes he jumps off the bed to greet us. When we pet him, though, he complains a bit when we touch a specific area opposite of the bite. He normally doesn't like the base of his tail rubbed and this spot is near there, but he doesn't complain as loudly as he does now. It doesn't sound like he's in pain, more of a "Leave me alone!" complaint. If I pet him very softly he usually doesn't complain. MH just left to run errands but said he rubbed him again before he left and he complained, and MH picked him up and he hissed. MH also said his belly might feel a bit hard but he isn't sure. 

TL;DR: The cat just seems more lethargic and irritable than usual after receiving a 2-week abx shot, and it worries me that one particular spot seems to be bothering him when we touch it. I don't know if this is just the antibiotics working through his system or if it's a severe problem. 

I called the vet - he's out at lunch but the secretary took a message and said he'll call back, so naturally I'm panicking while I wait. MH is available to take him in while I'm at work, and there's a 24-hour vet close by if needed. Ugh. We really don't need to deal with this issue right now. 

cohmom, I saw you talk about cats on another board and hope you don't mind if I tag you here. 

* I also have no idea WTF we're going to do with FIL's cat now that he's gone. She's only about a year old, she needs to be a solo cat and she probably can't be around kids. She can be sweet sometimes, but she bites at the drop of a dime ... frankly, we're a little afraid of her because she's unpredictable. She's shut in a bare room all the time and it's not fair to her. She escaped twice and immediately fought with our two cats and it was utter chaos. It was like pulling teeth to give away two of her sweet playful baby kittens so who's going to want a nasty adult cat? We're reluctant to bring her to a shelter because an unsociable cat like her could be euthanized, but I don't see any other option right now

[raangoli]

Oct 6, 2015 12:20:59 GMT -5 v said:

Oct 6, 2015 12:18:52 GMT -5 raangoli said:

I've been reading a book, which is really wonderful and thought provoking, but holy moly it's also ... depressing? But realistic. I highly recommend it and I'm just over halfway through. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matter in the End.

Oh yes, it is a real eye opener.

The first part of the book hit close to home with aging/ailing parents. I feel like I need to sit down and really talk to them about what they want rather than what we tried to get them to do which was make things easier for us. 

Somewhat related, I was pleased to see that more states are passing "right to die" bills with regard to those with terminal illnesses. It's a heavy topic and full of debate, but I hope it's something that continues to be accepted (for lack of a better word).

[cajunmom]

I'm just crossing my fingers that our passports come in on the shorter side of the projected timeline. Otherwise, H and DSS are going to Canada without me and the girls.

[justjen]

Sending healthy vibes your way, poundcake

[explorer2001]

Oct 6, 2015 11:21:23 GMT -5 poundcake said:

I went to my PCP yesterday evening and she checked the pain in my armpit. She found a lump in the breast tissue.
I have been having pain in the breast a few days also. Pain the back, chest, etc.
I mentioned armpit pain last year to my old PCP, and this august to my GYN.
They both did nothing.

Now I have to go for an ultrasound and Mammogram. But they can't schedule until I get the films from my last mammo last November. Which take 48 HOURS.

I'm scared, anxious, crying. I keep thinking of my girls. Thank goodness I sit in a corner and don't face anyone.
I don't know what to do.

This is so close to what happened to me a few years ago. Giant hugs! Not knowing is so stressful. I went through ultrasound, mammogram, biopsy, and then lumpectomy. They finally determined I had scar tissue build up from a prior surgery that was messing with the lymph nodes and ducts. They removed two lymph nodes and some scar tissue. I ended up in physical therapy for a while. But I was so relieved it wasn't cancer. Still I had break downs where I cried and was scared and leaned on a girlfriend who had been through thyroid cancer and had her thyroid removed because it is so hard for someone who hasn't been there to get it.

You are still early in the process. Give yourself permission and time to cry and be scared. That's OK to feel. Just remember to take care of yourself throughout the process. Whatever the outcome, the waiting and not knowing is so hard because you can't do anything but wait instead of fixing or fighting whatever it is.

Hugs! I'm going to PM you my number if you need to talk/text with someone who had been through it.

[cohmom]

Oct 6, 2015 12:32:17 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

As long as I'm whining about other stuff, while my mind turns to mush this week ... anyone familiar with cats and antibiotics? 

FIL's cat* doesn't get along with ours, so she's shut in a room. Last week she managed to escape while we weren't home, and we came home to find that my tabby had a bite on his back. I took him to the vet last Wednesday - they said there was pus and an abscess, so they flushed it and gave him a 2-week antibiotics shot. He had to be sedated (gas box) because he's a real jerk at the vet's. The bite is on his right side, between his spine and thigh. 

We took him home and shut him in his own room. He was meowing to get out and was generally lively. Vet said to keep him separated from our other cat for 2 weeks. The next day he was really lethargic and wouldn't eat (he's a giant pig and is always eating) so we almost took him in, but he was using the litterbox OK so we decided to just keep an eye on him. He was much livelier the next day, Friday.

So he's on day 6 today. Yesterday and today he's back to being a bit lethargic again. He's still using the litterbox OK, doesn't look disheveled, and he's still eating but not plowing through his food as he typically does in normal circumstances (although I wonder if he eats fast normally because he doesn't want our other cat stealing his food?). He makes little happy meows when we open the door to check on him and he immediately purrs for us, and sometimes he jumps off the bed to greet us. When we pet him, though, he complains a bit when we touch a specific area opposite of the bite. He normally doesn't like the base of his tail rubbed and this spot is near there, but he doesn't complain as loudly as he does now. It doesn't sound like he's in pain, more of a "Leave me alone!" complaint. If I pet him very softly he usually doesn't complain. MH just left to run errands but said he rubbed him again before he left and he complained, and MH picked him up and he hissed. MH also said his belly might feel a bit hard but he isn't sure. 

TL;DR: The cat just seems more lethargic and irritable than usual after receiving a 2-week abx shot, and it worries me that one particular spot seems to be bothering him when we touch it. I don't know if this is just the antibiotics working through his system or if it's a severe problem. 

I called the vet - he's out at lunch but the secretary took a message and said he'll call back, so naturally I'm panicking while I wait. MH is available to take him in while I'm at work, and there's a 24-hour vet close by if needed. Ugh. We really don't need to deal with this issue right now. 

cohmom, I saw you talk about cats on another board and hope you don't mind if I tag you here. 

* I also have no idea WTF we're going to do with FIL's cat now that he's gone. She's only about a year old, she needs to be a solo cat and she probably can't be around kids. She can be sweet sometimes, but she bites at the drop of a dime ... frankly, we're a little afraid of her because she's unpredictable. She's shut in a bare room all the time and it's not fair to her. She escaped twice and immediately fought with our two cats and it was utter chaos. It was like pulling teeth to give away two of her sweet playful baby kittens so who's going to want a nasty adult cat? We're reluctant to bring her to a shelter because an unsociable cat like her could be euthanized, but I don't see any other option right now

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Convenia can sometimes cause a localized reaction but occasionally it isn't the right antibiotic for the kitty. Sounds like a recheck is in order. I know age isn't your but maybe you can discuss a consult with a behaviorist may be in order. Cats can really benefit from a behavior plan just like dogs and sometimes medication is in order. Kisses to your kitty!