That's a lot. I hate suggesting another appointment (because I know you are spread thin), but would a therapist for you be helpful?
xoxo
It would. I'm dragging my feet on it but I need to. I keep trying and coming up with roadblocks--cost, availability, etc--and giving up.
Plus I feel like the world's shittiest employee already. My boss is lovely about everything but I still feel guilty.
I am not trying to overstep, but your mental health is just as important as everyone else's physical health. Being a caregiver is draining. Can your H help you make an appointment? When I was really struggling with PPD, just having mine call and set it up removed a big roadblock. A lot of counselors have early hours or late hours. Could you set it up to go early before work one day a week and have him do daycare drop off?
Brie, is there any way we can help? Would it help to hire a nanny/ housekeeper (Alice on the Brady Bunch comes to mind)? Your mental and emotional health is so very important. Please be kind to yourself.
I'm so sorry, Brie. You seem to handle everything with such grace, but you can't carry all of this alone forever. The best way that you can take care of your family is to take care of yourself. Would it help if your H called and set up an appointment with a therapist for you? Is there an online support group where you can talk to other moms who have been through similar things? Obviously we're incredibly supportive of you here, but it's different when someone has "been there, done that" sometimes.
Huge hugs. And please let us know if there's anything GBCN could do to help you right now.
That's a lot. I hate suggesting another appointment (because I know you are spread thin), but would a therapist for you be helpful?
xoxo
It would. I'm dragging my feet on it but I need to. I keep trying and coming up with roadblocks--cost, availability, etc--and giving up.
Plus I feel like the world's shittiest employee already. My boss is lovely about everything but I still feel guilty.
There are therapists in town that do evening appts. The therapist I saw had appts at 8pm T-R and on Saturdays. I'm sure there are others. I didn't even look for someone with extended hours.
Do you need help? If you tell me your insurance provider, I'll see if I can find a couple of options in your neighborhood.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Oct 8, 2015 22:21:25 GMT -5
Do you judge parents who have their kids do growth hormone replacement therapy? Technically that's cosmetic.
What about parents who have their kid wear braces? Also cosmetic.
I know both of those examples are obviously incredibly less invasive, but we do cosmetic fixes to our kids. No one here would judge you for doing this surgery for your son. Will someone in real life? Maybe. But fuck them.
Thank you all. I appreciate the offers of help--it's nice to have you guys here as a distraction and support more than anything. I am in support groups on FB that are helpful, but his combination of issues are pretty rare which can be isolating.
I will call our EAP tomorrow. No excuses. I had a bad therapy experience as a child and am admitted a bit gun shy about it all. I need to though.
At times I wish I could SAH with him but I know that's not what I REALLY want. I would be miserable. I just hate having to half ass everything--I'm distracted at work and always leaving for appointments, I'm not able to do some of the therapy homework because I'm not with him all day...and so on and so forth. I am looking forward to him starting his therapeutic preschool in January and hoping that will relieve some of the guilt.
Thank you all. I appreciate the offers of help--it's nice to have you guys here as a distraction and support more than anything. I am in support groups on FB that are helpful, but his combination of issues are pretty rare which can be isolating.
I will call our EAP tomorrow. No excuses. I had a bad therapy experience as a child and am admitted a bit gun shy about it all. I need to though.
At times I wish I could SAH with him but I know that's not what I REALLY want. I would be miserable. I just hate having to half ass everything--I'm distracted at work and always leaving for appointments, I'm not able to do some of the therapy homework because I'm not with him all day...and so on and so forth. I am looking forward to him starting his therapeutic preschool in January and hoping that will relieve some of the guilt.
I forgot. Was going part time and option? Or did you decide against it?
If it helps, I think everyone feels they are half assing things. It's the nature of parenting. I had a long talk with a friend last night about it, about how we both end our days thinking of everything we fell short on or all the times we lost our patience. I am getting better about it through concerted effort but it's still hard. If you were a SAHM there would be something. There is always something.
You are doing the best you can and that is damn good. I am glad you'll be trying out therapy.
I know you're not necessarily looking for suggestions right now but maybe keep those in mind and if and when you are ready for them they will be there for you.
Hugs. You are a great mom, great advocate, great friend, wife, and person.
((hugs)) That is all so overwhelming. I hope you are able to get help for you and that the team of doctors finds a solution for P that will work for your family.