What kinds of things make you jealous?

[wanderingenough]

Brought to you by the twinge of jealousy I have when talking to a friend about her family. She is one of four siblings who all live within a couple miles of each other and their parents, get along grandly, kids play together, spouses get along, and they travel together and have activities all the time.

[travelbug]

Mine is kind of the same as yours wanderingenough. Only mine is with IL's instead of my own family. I see other families In-laws all get together and are involved in each other's lives etc. My in-laws just aren't like that including SIL, BIL's and what not. I get sad that when we start having kids they won't have a lot of cousins on that side or actively involved grandparents/aunts/uncles.

[HoneySpider]

Lots of things, I get jealous easily. Of course, I can't think of examples off the top of my head.

I do agree it's hard to not have a family that is physically close to one another. I realize I am the main reason this is the case in my family - I moved away and married someone from another part of the country. Our families are never going to live near each other and chances are we will never live right by either one and so we are always going to have to divide our time. I wish I could just have one big holiday gathering with both families (they get along!) I don't see my immediate family ever living in close proximity to one another although hopefully my parents are moving next year and will only be 2 hours away instead of 4.

[wanderingenough]

HoneySpider - we moved away too, so I understand that part. My jealousy comes from the fact that I'm not sure our families would act like that even if we lived in the same place. I mean, H and I both get along with our siblings and love them...but I don't think we would hang out all the time or plan fun events.

I also get jealous of women who seem super confidant when addressing a large room at work and women who seem to be able to keep up on fashion styles more easily (i.e. Lots of $).

[travelbug]

Oh, another one is when people have so many awesome plans with friends all the time. I don't have any friends in our current city yet. I have people I know but no one who I would have to go have drinks with or get ice cream. So I'm always jealous of that.

[Deleted]

I feel envious when people have lots of friends that they see often. I've accepted my lack of friends at this point, but it still would be nice. It would also be nice to have ILs that weren't so catty. H's relatives seem to get off on other people's misfortune.

[amaranth]

1: People whose friends actually initiate getting together. I have friends, but I am always the one planning. I get sick of it, and question whether they're really that into the friendship or do they just suck at planning.

2: Nice cars. I've never had a car newer than 10+ years old. I'm grateful for reliable transport, but boy do new cars look nice!

3: People who actually enjoy and excel at eating healthy. It feels like such a chore to constantly make sure meals are well balanced, low in sugar, and track vitamin/mineral intake. I try my best but I'm so jealous at how effortless it comes for a lot of my friends and family.

[katespade]

People with the freedom to be spontaneous, to travel, to make plans, to enjoy adventures, and to not have to worry about their health 24/7.

[bk1]

I get jealous easy.

First two that come to mind:
People who seem to have it all together.

People who go on frequent vacations.

[bk1]

Oct 13, 2015 12:43:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

People with the freedom to be spontaneous, to travel, to make plans, to enjoy adventures, and to not have to worry about their health 24/7.

All of this!

I can't imagine how hard it is for you health wise. I feel stressed enough with DH's health issues.

[katespade]

Oct 13, 2015 12:47:39 GMT -5 bk1 said:

Oct 13, 2015 12:43:14 GMT -5 katespade said:

People with the freedom to be spontaneous, to travel, to make plans, to enjoy adventures, and to not have to worry about their health 24/7.

All of this!

I can't imagine how hard it is for you health wise. I feel stressed enough with DH's health issues.

Confession: I feel really awful for my H that he has to deal with me and all of my issues. I had to wake him up last night after I'd been awake for an hour and a half or so, because I needed a heating pad and I was in too much pain to walk across the house to get one. He shouldn't have to deal with stuff like that.

[Alyssa]

People who make enough money to afford a house in my area.   Friends who can afford to go on big vacations more than once a year.

[MrsMB]

Vacations period. DH isn't really all that into them...and that's OK. I'm hoping he warms up a little once little girl is born. I'd like to take some small family vacations. After our huge vacation a few years back, I don't NEED to go anywhere exotic (although Ireland is on my dream list), but just a cheap(er) hotel on the beach where we can crash a few days and go to some campy beach restaurants with the kids ever so often....That would be nice One day we'll go!

[anyastroud]

Flameful  probably BUT I can't help it some times
I get jealous of people with "Normal" kids I love my kids to death. I would not change a single thing about my life. SN skid are really hard sometimes and I get sick of peoples lack of empathy.

[grover]

People who don't have student loans.

People who can afford new cars and vacations...we can only afford one, which is H's car. My car is old, sucks and desperately needs to be replaced. But that's on hold due to student loans.

People who are lucky enough to get PG and become moms.

[Deleted]

Another vote for people without student loans.

I'm also jealous of people who seem to have it all. House, kids, vacations, nice cars, etc. It makes me wonder what I could be doing better.

anyastroud Definitely not flameful. My 7 year old nephew has Down syndrome. He is my most favorite person ever. I can see how stressed my sister and BIL are from raising him.

[wanderingenough]

Ohhhh grover, that's a good one. I'm also jealous of the SL free.

[estrellita]

For sure those without SLs, either because they paid them off or didn't go to school.

People who could BF

People that are naturally outgoing and have lots of friends

People that know what they want to do with their lives (especially if they're doing it)

People that don't deal with depression and anxiety all the time

[estrellita]

Oh I thought of another - People that get time off around the holidays. Even just black Friday and Christmas Eve would be nice without fighting to take PTO!

[travelbug]

Oh man, I thought of another one. People with perfect skin. I break out all the time. I'm always so jealous of people who never have to wear cover up or makeup because their skin is flawless. I've basically tried everything. I might have to see a dermatologist. Cause I'm getting annoyed.

[amaranth]

Oct 14, 2015 9:14:28 GMT -5 travelbug said:

Oh man, I thought of another one. People with perfect skin. I break out all the time. I'm always so jealous of people who never have to wear cover up or makeup because their skin is flawless. I've basically tried everything. I might have to see a dermatologist. Cause I'm getting annoyed.

Oh this is a good one. Specifically, I have a cousin whose skin I want. It's literally flawless.

[HoneySpider]

Oct 14, 2015 9:14:28 GMT -5 travelbug said:

Oh man, I thought of another one. People with perfect skin. I break out all the time. I'm always so jealous of people who never have to wear cover up or makeup because their skin is flawless. I've basically tried everything. I might have to see a dermatologist. Cause I'm getting annoyed.

OMG yes. I am 34 years old and still break out but I'm also starting to deal with wrinkles. Not fair. 

[HoneySpider]

People who don't have to worry about money/budgeting

People who don't have to worry about their weight

People who can get pregnant easily/plan their family

People who work in job fields that are in-demand and can get a job when they want/have companies recruiting them

[pooh8402]

People who LOVE their ILs. I like mine but don't love them.
People who have family in town who can help with childcare. Our closest family members live 90 minutes away.
People who get (and stay) pregnant easily and don't have to spend thousands of dollars. Yes, I'm still a bitter IF.
People who haver large families (I want 4 kids but DH will likely draw the line at 2).
People who LOVE their jobs.
People with disposable income. I want to shop!
People who enjoy exercising and running and stuff.

I know I can think of more.

[katiek]

People with lots of disposable income. Or any, haha. I see posts like "what have you bought recently?" and my answer is always "groceries? maybe shampoo?" This is why I don't participate in those threads, lol.

That's the only thing I ever find myself being jealous of IRL, but I read a lot of yours and agree with them.

[rockinrobyn]

Those who are close with their in-laws and genuinely like doing things together.
People with a group of really close friends.
The lady I saw yesterday with the amazing outfit. I wish I could dress myself better.

[awick14]

People who don't worry about money like we do.

People who love their ILs. (I like mine, but only in moderation.)

People who don't struggle with IF, or losses.

[estrellita]

Oh oh.. people that are good with hair and makeup. I fail at being female in that regard, lol. I can barely put my hair into a ponytail half the time (although right now it's barely long enough but still!).

[awick14]

Another one is people with fast metabolisms, my SIL eats whatever she wants and never exercises and she never gains weight. (She's also not so skinny that she is unhealthy.)

[Alyssa]

My younger brother was sort of a fuck-up in high school and barely passed out of his alternative school.  Not one day of college under his belt and he mooched off my parents for an additional 5-10 years.  He is now making 6 figures growing weed for dispensaries.  He's currently in Belize for 3 weeks hanging out in a nice house on the beach with a group of friends.   He just texted me that he went cave tubing on Sunday and they were going diving in the "big blue hole" down there.

He makes more money than both my husband and I combined and goes on these long trips several times a year.  I feel a slight twinge of jealousy, I can't deny that.