The only family I know that most resembles this family is not even a millennial family BTW. They are solidly gen X.
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Most of the parents I see that are like the extreme examples above are more gen x.Â
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Because I'm in the cusp I know parents from "both worlds." The millennial parents I know are way way way more chill than these people. It's the Gen X ones that have the extreme parenting down.
The only family I know that most resembles this family is not even a millennial family BTW. They are solidly gen X.
All 3 I know are likely millennials - a few years younger than me and I was born in '77. But the ones I know are like this, but not so weird about it. They are vegan or urban homesteaders who are passionate, but not judgemental and very sweet really. Plus, I know lots of hippie/hipster named kiddos - Arlo, Lupa, Sage (boys - two of them), Guthrie, Jamison, Astrid, etc.
I find the repeating of "vegan" as if my friend's hippie boomer 70's mom (and many others I'm guessing) didn't do the same, the weirdest part of these bloggers. It looks like the people in the time article might have realized their non-uniqueness and started posting less.
Unrelated somewhat, but now that I'm back in MT I also see this social media parenting surprise that others aren't as environmentally/socially aware as I am from those who have moved here and haven't found their people yet - so they are basically trying to shop vegan at Walmart and wondering why they feel out of place.
"On a playground in San Francisco, 4-year-old Astral Defiance Hayes takes a stick and writes his name in the sand. His twin brother Defy Aster Hayes whizzes around their father."
I don't believe these people actually exist.
And if they do, JFC. I can't think of anything more white privilege than naming your son Defy.
But I think these are fictional kids. Please. They must.
I'm related to someone who has kids with middle names similar. They have normal first names, though.
ETA: he's not a millennial, too. I think he's like late 30s/early 40s.
I so don't understand hanging on an identity based entirely on what food I will or will not put in my mouth. This is weird. Also, what is the name for the generation that shakes its fist both at "kids these days" and "fucking olds"? Cuz that's where I am.
I agree that we will all find ways to screw up our kids and no one has one right answer. My takeaway from this article though was that the generation of kids who we describe as growing up to be entitled spoiled brats are raising kids who have every chance of becoming entitled spoiled brats.
We are Millennial parents. I'm 32 and my husband is 34. We have a 4 and 6 year old. Bacon is our favorite family dinner and my Instagram feed is fucking awesome.
Post by irishbride2 on Oct 19, 2015 20:19:14 GMT -5
I'm 31 as is my husband and I'm so "old" i don't even HAVE Instagram. And snapchat? Nope. I have twitter but I only use it to communicate with the gen x parents of my students My students make fun of me for tweeting lol. But they have no problem sending me a selfie to tweet.....so?
I just got back from spending a week in DC with a bunch of kids born in 2001 (the end of Millenials) so I have lots of thoughts.
I'm '81 and I don't really fit Millenial or Gen X. My brothers are solidly Millenial ('83/'85). The one who was born in 1985 has a daughter who is almost 2, and he and his wife are totally reasonable/normal parents. I adore their daughter, and I'm super critical of kids that didn't come from my own uterus.
The parents I know who are self absorbed asshats with demon children are solidly Gen X.
As much as I enjoy making fun of millenials, my guess is douchebag parents like this are Gen Xers who waited until 38 to have kids, because IME, they are the worst.
But this article says millennials were born between the late 70's and the late 90's, and anyone born is '79 will turn 36 this year.
I think the thing that cracks me up the most about the millennial generation talk is that no one can agree what years actually make up millennials. And very few want to claim it too - even those born in the late 80's who have no sort of grounds for a "cusp" argument.
Also, I don't care what these people do or don't do with their kids. Naming them embarrassing names is not actually abuse*, nor is feeding them a vegan diet. And while I side eye the whole child led everything, at the end of the day, who cares? All this is demonstrative of is the pendulum swinging the other direction once again.
I'm so tired of the mommy/daddy/parenting wars - and I'm not even a parent yet!
*ok, we can probably think of some names that might qualify, lol
Agree with your entire post but especially the bolded.
One thing that makes me glad I can't have children is the fact that I don't have to interact with people who are parents on a parenting level. I don't think I'd make many parent friends with my "I don't care" attitude about all the things that some parents judge. lol
I also don't quite understand WTF a 'millennial' really is. It's like the terms 'hipster' and 'emo' for me. I notice that they are generally only used when describing something or someone unlikable or undesirable. I'm crotchety and set in my ways, so I still use the terms Gen X and Gen Y, although I'm firmly in the Gen W(hatever)T(he)F(uck).
I have four kids, and even I don't associate with other parents, on a parenting level, outside the groups and forums I'm on. Most of my friends, the majority Gen X, live elsewhere. I have no interest in getting involved with other kids and their parents. I've never done a play date or kid/baby meetup.
I'm also technically a millennial, but have little idea what that really means or what sort of traits are said to represent millennials. I've read some articles, and identify with virtually none of them. Terms like "millennial" weren't around when I had my first daughter, or the next four kids, so "millennial parenting" is lost on me.
True story. I was at a retreat and someone described me as a millennial. I was all " I AM NOT. WHY. BECAUSE OREGON TRAIL DAMMIT." I'm knocking on 40. I'm Gen X. The tail end of it, but GenX no less.