Hugs tillie. I wish I was off, but I have to work today and tomorrow. Tomorrow is more of a low key kind of day, but I have some training at our Public Works department to do this afternoon.
I am working today and tomorrow. Seeing as I still have my broken chicken wing (as I call it) and fingers, I am not really doing much TG prep, other than to buy apps and make sweet potato casserole. I bought a brie wheel for TG and it is so.damn.hard. not to eat it right now!!!!
Oh! great news! I lost another 2 pounds so I am up to 7 pounds lost. YASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!
I'm working today and tomorrow. I've already received a request to help someone hide a body, my reply was "I have a minivan and free evening, just say the word.".
I don't feel like going home to an empty house tonight, so I might take myself out to eat before heading home.
Post by starrieskies on Nov 24, 2015 8:59:21 GMT -5
I had a moment of panic yesterday that my dress for my brother's wedding next month wouldn't fit anymore. So I tried it on. It fits better than when I bought it! I guess I've lost some weight. Whoop!
tillie, I cried when I got the email that they had accepted my rental application. Full on tears of joy that spread into the following days. When I got the approval, I knew I was free. It's scary, but once you make that first step each step is easier and easier.
Post by bullygirl979 on Nov 24, 2015 9:15:38 GMT -5
We aren't getting a tree, chalupa, and I am kind of sad about it. We are also talking about not exchanging gifts as neither one of us can really think of anything major we want and we don't have room for anything, as it is. kind of makes me a little sad.
We aren't getting a tree, chalupa , and I am kind of sad about it. We are also talking about not exchanging gifts as neither one of us can really think of anything major we want and we don't have room for anything, as it is. kind of makes me a little sad.
We aren't getting a tree, chalupa , and I am kind of sad about it. We are also talking about not exchanging gifts as neither one of us can really think of anything major we want and we don't have room for anything, as it is. kind of makes me a little sad.
This makes me sad for you. The ONLY thing that makes winter tolerable for me is christmas decorations. I love nothing more than coming home to find my light-sensing christmas lights have switched on for the night.
P will put lights in his windows but we really don't have room for anything else. We are practically busting at the seams. Oh well, it should only be for one year. And the boat load of cash I am saving should make it worth it.
Thank you for the support. It's just so hard. I am not working (have income), my MIL is in the in law apt, Ido all of the accounting for DHs business, all of our financials, and we just broke growing on angina the renovation with 2 additions. Then there are my dogs.
I had 3 dogs with my XH. I took one and he took the other 2. I don't want to sound callous because I loved my dogs, but they weren't worth me being totally miserable.
And, you will find a job. You have the strength to do this. Trust me.
No, just not ready for that. I am already going to have to hide the apt from DH. I don't think there is any way I could consult a lawyer yet. I do have a connection to one.
I'm confused - how would you hide moving into an apartment from him? And how would you do that if you have no income? I'd recommend if you have a connection to a lawyer, that's the best starting point to understand your rights and what right to the shared income you DO have. I know all of it is overwhelming and there are so many emotions and you aren't able to do it until you know you are ready, but it never hurts to have knowledge in your back pocket.
tillie I also had to split the dogs with my XH. He didn't even want them - he just wanted to hurt me. He tried to "give" the 2nd pup back to me after our divorce was final, but I'd already signed a lease on an apartment that allowed 1 dog. It just reinfoced how I couldn't keep living with such an asshole.
x3 I also had to deal with splitting up our dogs in my divorce. Although his dog had been his since before I was around and our joint dog that we adopted together was always understood to be mine as he didn't really want him. He tried to get me to take his dog in the split, but I said no. It was time for him to take responsibility and stop saddling me with it.
I'm confused - how would you hide moving into an apartment from him? And how would you do that if you have no income? I'd recommend if you have a connection to a lawyer, that's the best starting point to understand your rights and what right to the shared income you DO have. I know all of it is overwhelming and there are so many emotions and you aren't able to do it until you know you are ready, but it never hurts to have knowledge in your back pocket.
THIS. Don't go making any financial comittments until you've met with a lawyer! Moving out of your house could also have some ramifications on what you'd be entitled to.
I forgot about giving up your rights if you move out of the house. Good point. Our state was tricky in that if you left, you didn't have to be allowed back by the other spouse, but you still retained right to half the amount of the property.
Post by starrieskies on Nov 24, 2015 9:53:19 GMT -5
tillie talking to a lawyer doesn't mean you're committed to that course of action. It means that you're simply researching your options. Talking with a lawyer gave me an immense amount of clarity and helped me eventually develop a plan.
Due to my illness, I am currently on disability. However, I hope to be able to resolve my health issues and get back to work full time. Also due to my illness, I cannot take my dogs with me. Luckily, I am very confident that will be well cared for by DH as he loves them very much.
I don't know the nature of your illness, but do you think it would be helped if you weren't under as much stress?
Post by esdreturns on Nov 24, 2015 11:05:06 GMT -5
I am very much enjoying my week off. I didn't get out of bed until 10:15 today (almost 11 yesterday!). It's going by too fast though. I want to go get my nails done, but I'm being too lazy to actually get off the couch.
Post by cuddlyevil on Nov 24, 2015 11:09:23 GMT -5
My hair looks fabulous, so I went and got my picture taken for my new ID badge at work. This means when I go get my University picture taken next week, I'll look like a hot mess.
I'm having a spectacular make up day, but my hair is awful. Ugh. I see a ponytail in my future. I really really want a haircut.
Me too! I haven't had a haircut since July 2014 when I cut off 11 inches to donate. You should make an appointment! (although I'm sure your hair looks great).
I'm having a spectacular make up day, but my hair is awful. Ugh. I see a ponytail in my future. I really really want a haircut.
Me too! I haven't had a haircut since July 2014 when I cut off 11 inches to donate. You should make an appointment! (although I'm sure your hair looks great).
I had my hair short for a couple of years and really like it, but I promised ds that I would grow it until his birthday. He wants to see how long it will get. I haven't cut it since valentine's day. It's at my shoulders now. But I have a ton of hair, and I think some layers would make a world of difference at this point.
I'm having a spectacular make up day, but my hair is awful. Ugh. I see a ponytail in my future. I really really want a haircut.
I'm waiting until after the holidays for my first official haircut since March.
I'm thinking with the wedding coming up, I should probably do something with it sooner. It's just getting long, and since it's mostly one length my curls are flat on the top of my head and fluffy toward the bottom. I'm not sure how I'm going to deal with this mop until May. I'm hoping layers is the answer. I just don't know when I'll be able to make it happen.
ETA: I've already surrendered to the ponytail. It's not even 9.
tillie my guess is that whatever he said, whatever promises he made to get you to stay the last time, are things he hasn't followed through on, or that he did and then let drop. I'm glad you're talking about all of this here and I hope you know you have our support.
I'm off all week. I've just been reading and chatting this morning. I need to shower and get ready for the day. I want to go to the tailor and I have a private practice session tonight. Tomorrow I drive to my parents' house.
I'm leaving tomorrow for our non-Thanksgiving and for my grandpa's funeral. My entire family will be there including all of the cousins and aunts and uncles. My immediate family I'm excited to see but some of the cousins and aunts I'll want to hulk smash within minutes of seeing them/hearing them open their shitbag mouths. Just to give you an idea of their shitty-ness here's a true story.
My grandma has always paid all the bills while my grandpa managed the money. So grandma would get an amount of money into her magic checkbook every month and would pay everything from there. While she knows where the bulk of the money comes from, she doesn't really grasp it and she doesn't understand long term money management. So even though she doesn't really have to worry about money, she's worried. It makes sense, her husband of 64 years just died and her whole world is turned upside down. My goal along with that of my Mom has been to make things as easy for her as possible. We've been taking care of everything that can be taken care of from a practical standpoint and letting her just focus on getting through the day with as little to worry about as possible. Welp, my aunt has spent every day since grandpa died voicing her concerns about taking time off work because she really needs the money. She worries out loud about how she's going to get her deadbeat son a plane ticket to Florida to attend the funeral. She complains she already can barely pay her rent (my mom gave her $350 to shut her up and still she whines), what on earth will she do since she'll be missing pay?!?!? She's a grown ass woman who makes the same effing mistakes over and over and over again, landing her in a life that has and will always be one lived paycheck to paycheck. What does she do? She calls up my grandma last week and asks if she can "borrow" her credit card because she's at work and just found the best possible deal for her deadbeat son's plane ticket (don't even ask about why a supposed adult - he's 32 - can't buy his own damn plane ticket) and she left her credit card at home. Yeah, right. If you even have a credit card, dear aunt, I'm sure it's maxed out. So now grandma is worried about paying off the $500 balance on the credit card that I just paid off for her right after grandpa died because the balance had her very worried.
It will take every bit of patience and grace that I can muster to not smash their faces into a bloody pulp.
tillie my guess is that whatever he said, whatever promises he made to get you to stay the last time, are things he hasn't followed through on, or that he did and then let drop. I'm glad you're talking about all of this here and I hope you know you have our support.
I'm leaving tomorrow for our non-Thanksgiving and for my grandpa's funeral. My entire family will be there including all of the cousins and aunts and uncles. My immediate family I'm excited to see but some of the cousins and aunts I'll want to hulk smash within minutes of seeing them/hearing them open their shitbag mouths. Just to give you an idea of their shitty-ness here's a true story.
My grandma has always paid all the bills while my grandpa managed the money. So grandma would get an amount of money into her magic checkbook every month and would pay everything from there. While she knows where the bulk of the money comes from, she doesn't really grasp it and she doesn't understand long term money management. So even though she doesn't really have to worry about money, she's worried. It makes sense, her husband of 64 years just died and her whole world is turned upside down. My goal along with that of my Mom has been to make things as easy for her as possible. We've been taking care of everything that can be taken care of from a practical standpoint and letting her just focus on getting through the day with as little to worry about as possible. Welp, my aunt has spent every day since grandpa died voicing her concerns about taking time off work because she really needs the money. She worries out loud about how she's going to get her deadbeat son a plane ticket to Florida to attend the funeral. She complains she already can barely pay her rent (my mom gave her $350 to shut her up and still she whines), what on earth will she do since she'll be missing pay?!?!? She's a grown ass woman who makes the same effing mistakes over and over and over again, landing her in a life that has and will always be one lived paycheck to paycheck. What does she do? She calls up my grandma last week and asks if she can "borrow" her credit card because she's at work and just found the best possible deal for her deadbeat son's plane ticket (don't even ask about why a supposed adult - he's 32 - can't buy his own damn plane ticket) and she left her credit card at home. Yeah, right. If you even have a credit card, dear aunt, I'm sure it's maxed out. So now grandma is worried about paying off the $500 balance on the credit card that I just paid off for her right after grandpa died because the balance had her very worried.
It will take every bit of patience and grace that I can muster to not smash their faces into a bloody pulp.