My MIL has called "dibs" on holding DS during my sisters wedding. In May. I get that we live far away and she won't see him between now and then, but she's commented on not wanting to share him with anyone either. Ummm all of my family/close friends will be at the wedding and have never met DS, not sharing isn't an option. I can't help but roll my eyes at this. First grandchild problems...
Don't worry - holding a 6 month old baby is nothing like holding the adorable, still newborn she sees now. Once he is squirmy and potentially getting ready to crawl and interested in everything around him, and pulling hair and necklaces and earrings, she will likely be fine handing him off!
It will be interesting! She's gotten more jealous and possessive over spending time with us the last year. Us moving overseas and having a baby seem to have brought out those qualities even more.
My MIL is planning to serve Thanksgiving dinner at 7 or 7:30. Which means it will be 8 or 8:30 because the ILs are always late. There are six kids between 2 and 8 yo in the family. It seems like it might be nice to eat before bedtime.
This is crazy. Do you eat lunch or other meals ahead of time?
DH and my mom are driving me nuts. They are all "you should be sitting down! Let us do the work." So I tell them the mashed potatoes need warmed on low. They go talk in another room. I smell burning, the potatoes haven't been stirred in 30 min, and they are on medium. So I do all the work to save them, they come in at the end and scold me for being up. So I ask them to start the dishwasher and wash the potato pan then I can finish some stuff up. 30 mins go by, I come back out. Dishwasher hasn't been started, pan is soaking but not clean (and I need to use it). So I start the dishwasher and clean the pan. Get yelled at again. I tell them, "look, I get you want me to sit, but I want to eat a nice meal. I don't mind having you help but you actually need to do what you say you are doing to help me, otherwise I am going to do it myself so I can enjoy dinner." Cue comments about being a hormonal pregnant lady. Seriously, hormones aside, it's rude not to follow through on stuff you are saying you'll do. It doesn't make me hormonal to care about that.
Post by timorousbeastie on Nov 26, 2015 13:37:00 GMT -5
H's sister is hosting Thanksgiving for her ILs. She invited us to come, but one of the ILs is an anti-vaxxer, so we don't go over whenever she's there. (That is absolutely my hill to die on.) So SIL told us to come over in the morning before everyone else gets there. Great, sure, we'll stop by for a few to say hi. This morning, H confirms with her that we'd stop by... Except now SIL wants us to come at 12. What time is the rest of the family coming over? 12. So, um, no thanks. We'll pass. SIL clearly doesn't get that we don't want to be in the same room as that particular family.
Post by countthestars on Nov 26, 2015 13:53:01 GMT -5
We have 37 people at MIL's house today and she has decided to dictate who can sit where based on how much she likes them. When I told her we could sit at the B table she got pouty and has now asked 3 times if I am mad at her. Omfg
We have 37 people at MIL's house today and she has decided to dictate who can sit where based on how much she likes them. When I told her we could sit at the B table she got pouty and has now asked 3 times if I am mad at her. Omfg
At least she didn't give you the TV tray in the hallway?
Post by chickens987 on Nov 26, 2015 14:20:48 GMT -5
My meal is basically cooked and the kitchen is spotless. Except my mom will "finish" making her stuff here when she gets here and will probably destroy it in the process.
MIL just sent the following text: "Would you guys rather just wait and eat the Thanksgiving food at noon tomorrow? We could just throw some burgers on the grill tonight. Pool is heated to 95. We could have a pool party!"
What?! Who the hell has a Thanksgiving BBQ and pool party?
My BIL's FIL just complained about when he went to deliver toys (Toys for Tots type program) he saw some kids that "didn't deserve it because their parents had cell phones and big screen tv's".
My BIL's FIL just complained about when he went to deliver toys (Toys for Tots type program) he saw some kids that "didn't deserve it because their parents had cell phones and big screen tv's".
Did they bring the big-screen TVs with them or something?
Mil bought J the Buzz Lightyear that we were going to get him for Christmas. And gave it to him today.
MIL does stuff like this, like giving DD an American Girl doll this summer when I was 38w pregnant as her "big sister" gift. Obviously did not consult with me.
She got DS a crapton of toys for Thanksgiving, but mercifully his memory is short and most of it is staying at my ILs' house.
MIL just sent the following text: "Would you guys rather just wait and eat the Thanksgiving food at noon tomorrow? We could just throw some burgers on the grill tonight. Pool is heated to 95. We could have a pool party!"
What?! Who the hell has a Thanksgiving BBQ and pool party?
<---- jealous
I hate turkey and sitting for long periods with people makes me anxious.
My mom who was supposed to be watching dd2 sucked at her job and she fell down 4 stairs. Luckily my niece who is 5 was down the stairs and ran up and held her down until I heard the screams I got her. My mom was no where in sight. I'm pissed. My mom said the niece was watching her. I yelled "kids don't watch kids!"
My BIL's FIL just complained about when he went to deliver toys (Toys for Tots type program) he saw some kids that "didn't deserve it because their parents had cell phones and big screen tv's".
Did they bring the big-screen TVs with them or something?
I guess they delivered the toys to people's homes. And if you have a big tv your kids aren't allowed gifts, apparently. *eyeroll*
MIL just sent the following text: "Would you guys rather just wait and eat the Thanksgiving food at noon tomorrow? We could just throw some burgers on the grill tonight. Pool is heated to 95. We could have a pool party!"
What?! Who the hell has a Thanksgiving BBQ and pool party?
My great aunt did spaghetti and meatballs one year for family Christmas. At least ten years ago. People still talk about it like it was yesterday.
No real complaints here. I mean MIL is a bit of a martyr when she hosts but even that's been subdued. V is doing remarkably well considering he napped maybe an hour.
We were supposed to eat at 5. It's nearly 6:30 and the turkey still isn't done. I'm pissed. I will fully admit it's part hangry and part annoyance. I have very,very,very little to say bad about my MIL but this sort of thing happens every year on Thanksgiving or Christmas. We plan our day and feeding DD around the time she gives and really in the end it means nothing. DD is losing her mind she's so hungry so now we're feeding her some chex mix and I bet she doesn't touch dinner. Whereas if we had eaten at 5 or even 5:30 she was hungry and would've eaten the actual meal food then. Not to mention I'm pregnant and starving. Appetizers were all things I don't like like salmon, chopped olive dip and something else I can't remember. Ugh.
Not to mention this throws any bedtime out the window and we have a 45min-hour drive home.
I'm off by myself in the living room trying to cool down. [deep breath] [deep breath]
Post by cincodemayo on Nov 26, 2015 19:48:42 GMT -5
It was relatively ok today until we started talking about refugees. And then people with "alternative lifestyles," aka gay people. Luckily my sister and I shut it down quickly.
My other complaint is that they only had gluten free pumpkin pie and nothing else for dessert. It was ok, but my grandma usually has a chocolate pie or something else!
My SIL/BIL/niece backed out last minute today...then other BIL shows up 2.5hours early & then leaves before eating. Then DD3 & 4 ate nothing. So I had 5 eaters...5 no show/non-eaters. Thanks assholes.
Post by yellowbrkrd on Nov 26, 2015 20:19:23 GMT -5
OMG, my drunk aunt (by marriage) made a huge scene at our house tonight. Apparently while I was busy hosting, she was conversing with my grandmother about my uncle (grandma's son) and going on about how he is an absent father and doesn't contribute to the family and how she and her mother had offered him money to leave his family. WTF? She then got upset and stormed out, taking one of our dining room chairs out in the rain to sit on our deck while the rest of us ate our dinner. None of us had any idea what was going on until after they left and my grandma told us. I feel so terrible for my grandmother. Of course drunk aunt finally came back in and was completely shit faced, talking loudly and trying to make awkward jokes. She kept coming up to my stomach and yelling at it....