Post by yourmother on Nov 26, 2015 10:51:22 GMT -5
She's awful for putting the onus on YOU to decide whether she attends or not. Play her game. Text her back and let her know you are not comfortable exposing your child AND yourself to this contagious illness. See what her response is.
Post by autumnfire on Nov 26, 2015 10:52:17 GMT -5
She also said her doctor told her children can still be very contagious even after symptoms have gone. That the lingering blisters can still be contagious..
Also, I would respond with "Great, thank you! Happy Thanksgiving!" lol
$5 says she finds a way to show up anyway
If she does I will fucking leave so fast. I'm absolutely pissed right now that we were even put in this position. It's very unfair no matter which way this went... I aslo told DH to tell his father he should have handled it instead of passing the buck back to me. This is not my family and it's not mine to fucking deal with.
Btw, what is it that your DH doesn't think is a big deal?
He didn't think the HFM was a big deal. After I reminded him of what our daughters mild case did to the daycare kids when we weren't aware she had it. He let off and came over to the dark side
She also said her doctor told her children can still be very contagious even after symptoms have gone. That the lingering blisters can still be contagious..
Wtf? Why did she even think it would be ok? I'm so annoyed on your behalf. People suck.
HFM is absolutely miserable, especially for adults. I'm not sure if you work, but when I caught it I had to miss a week of work so that I didn't infect my coworkers. I was miserable and felt almost as bad as the flu. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
Besides the obvious that she is an inconsiderate asshole, I don't know if hfm is one of those things that can be really dangerous when pregnant even if it is rare. Ds had roseola almost three months ago and because I'm not immune to it, the amount of extra monitoring I have had because of that (coupled with other things) has been absolutely ridiculous. Blood work and bpps by the mfm just to monitor the baby and make sure I'm not a carrier or coming down with it because it can cross the placenta. Hfm, if anything like roseola when pregnant would make me really really nervous.
I'm pissed for you that she put you in that position. Wtf is wrong with people?
Post by serendipity on Nov 26, 2015 11:46:13 GMT -5
Nope. Didn't read all the comments but just remember adults can get it too. Could anyone coming be pregnant? This could be an issue. Very inconsiderate.
I keep thinking about this. Her kid is 2. TWO. Not an age to really understand "don't touch". That kid will touch anything and anyone she (? Can't remember gender) wants.
Post by gibbinator on Nov 26, 2015 12:02:09 GMT -5
So glad she's not coming. WTF to putting you in the position to tell her not to come. Seriously, the pregnant lady with the little kid? Why was this your responsibility? HFM looks AWFUL. I wouldn't knowingly risk getting it or giving it.
Besides the obvious that she is an inconsiderate asshole, I don't know if hfm is one of those things that can be really dangerous when pregnant even if it is rare. Ds had roseola almost three months ago and because I'm not immune to it, the amount of extra monitoring I have had because of that (coupled with other things) has been absolutely ridiculous. Blood work and bpps by the mfm just to monitor the baby and make sure I'm not a carrier or coming down with it because it can cross the placenta. Hfm, if anything like roseola when pregnant would make me really really nervous.
I'm pissed for you that she put you in that position. Wtf is wrong with people?
That too! When ds1 had a rash caused by a different strain of the cocksackie virus a few weeks ago, the high-risk pregnant mom of his BFF got all kinds of extra monitoring just because she *might* have been exposed to HFM.
Dd had croup and has been back to daycare for a week. I still gave my family the option of uninviting us even though she is NOT contagious. If she were actually contagious, we would stay home no question.
DS and DH had HFM a few Thanksgivings ago- well DS had it prior (very mild) and DH had it during (it was horrible). I would honestly be more concerned about the older adults catching it than the kids. She shouldn't be brining her kid around. We quarantined ourselves that thanksgiving. I would have felt horrible getting the kids and adults it.
Edit- glad she's staying home and don't feel like an asshole!
We skipped thanksgovimg because I have an immune compromised grandparent and my son got HFM last weekend. I doubt he is contagious but I'm not risking my elderly grandparents.