Post by jdnotbyrider on Nov 26, 2015 17:26:22 GMT -5
My three brothers joined us for the holiday today, and two out of the three brothers:
. Cracked racist jokes OFTEN (yelled at one African American football player to go back to the jungle)
. Explained to me that there's a difference between "true black people," the ones who work hard and don't use their race as a crutch, and *the N-Word*, ones who steal and riot and loot all of the time.
. Said that The Black Lives Matter movement is one of the most racist disgusting things they have ever seen, and that I'm a "brainwashed loon" for supporting it.
. Talked about how Donald Trump may be disrespectful, but he'd get more done then a woman who "can't handle a kitchen, let alone an office. (One of them is MARRIED mind you)
. Talked about how the word cracker is equally as bad to say then The N-Word
. Talked about (get ready for this richness): We should not have a female present anytime soon, because it would inspire groups like ISIS to attack us, because they see women as weak.
I cried foul ( EDIT: originally written as fowl) to my parents to say something about it, and their response to it is: "What do you want us to do about it? They have the right to their opinions."
Yeah.... the inspiration to build up some money and find a place of my own has reached AN ALL TIME HIGH as of today.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Inside, the whole time, I was pissed at them. LIVID. Miraculously, I only really screamed at them toward the end, but I was telling them that they were being rude, classless, and flat out racist, to which they replied "we're joking around, we're not actual racists.... *follows up statement by making a joke about Asian people's eyes*" The thing they were trying to say with that was that as long as you don't actually hate the race, you can joke about them as much as you wish.
I brought up a whole bunch of Trump's dirty laundry to them, and surprisingly, they agreed with some of the points that I was making about it, but they tried to pull the whole "can you repeat the word that you said before immigrants? What was that, ILLEGAL immigrants?" bullshit on me, and then talked about how "Donald Trump is only saying what most people in America are thinking, and you'll come to realize that when you are older."
Once they all left, I was stressing how pissed off I was about it to my parents, and their general reaction to it was "Guess what they are doing right now? Talking about Football, laughing, having fun. What are you going to be doing? Probably complaining about it to us and the Internet (they don't know about this site, but they do know that I complain about a lot of issues on Facebook) for the next week at least. This is why you are never happy in life anymore, because you can't lighten up about people having opinions."
Inside, the whole time, I was pissed at them. LIVID. Miraculously, I only really screamed at them toward the end, but I was telling them that they were being rude, classless, and flat out racist, to which they replied "we're joking around, we're not actual racists.... *follows up statement by making a joke about Asian people's eyes*" The thing they were trying to say with that was that as long as you don't actually hate the race, you can joke about them as much as you wish.
I brought up a whole bunch of Trump's dirty laundry to them, and surprisingly, they agreed with some of the points that I was making about it, but they tried to pull the whole "can you repeat the word that you said before immigrants? What was that, ILLEGAL immigrants?" bullshit on me, and then talked about how "Donald Trump is only saying what most people in America are thinking, and you'll come to realize that when you are older."
Once they all left, I was stressing how pissed off I was about it to my parents, and their general reaction to it was "Guess what they are doing right now? Talking about Football, laughing, having fun. What are you going to be doing? Probably complaining about it to us and the Internet (they don't know about this site, but they do know that I complain about a lot of issues on Facebook) for the next week at least. This is why you are never happy in life anymore, because you can't lighten up about people having opinions."
I'm glad you spoke up and called them out on their B.S...even if your feedback fell on deaf ears. You did your part, and that's all you can expect of yourself.
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I hate to break it to you, but I'm still told to lighten up, have a sense of humor, etc. to dismiss my justified offense at offensive stuff. Guess is has only gone home for holidays only about 5 times in 15 years. It does get better as you mature and get some distance. Now its a 5 min phone call and on to the friends who treat me better than family and the menu /cards against humanity i want to play.
Um I almost threw my phone across the room reading this. I commend you for tellin mom and dad to fix their sons. Sometimes tellin mommy is all you can do. I sure hope they change their tunes one day.
For all of you saying "get a job", while I expect jdnotbyrider will be happier and healthier when out of his parents house, how many of us have also complained about feeling duty bound to visit cruel and racist family members for the holidays?
I'm thankful both that I have a pretty non-offensive family but also that I've gained the years and maturity to cut the bad ones out of my life. Doing so can be a struggle, especially if you're young and it's all you know.
For all of you saying "get a job", while I expect jdnotbyrider will be happier and healthier when out of his parents house, how many of us have also complained about feeling duty bound to visit cruel and racist family members for the holidays?
I'm thankful both that I have a pretty non-offensive family but also that I've gained the years and maturity to cut the bad ones out of my life. Doing so can be a struggle, especially if you're young and it's all you know.
Yeah, I don't get it, either. I'm 35 and have just under 2 years of cutting out my mom entirely and an still juggling the ability to see my grandparents.
When I was 18? No way. I still had years of therapy ahead. Oh, and college.
Post by jdnotbyrider on Dec 6, 2015 13:36:04 GMT -5
Those same two brothers came over to watch football today, and in case you were wondering if perhaps they had changed at all, they bought pocket knives with The Confederate Flag design on them, and tried to explain to me that they aren't racist just because they own these.