My in laws actually had this agreement. When they first married, FIL, who takes things very seriously and is an attorney, wrote up a renewable two year contract for them. His own catholic parents had stayed married, but not happily. He didn't want to commit to something lifelong and didn't want to lie about it. Some time when their kids were around 7 and 10 his mom said "really? Are we still doing this contract thing?" and they torn it up. They had been married for more than 40 years when he passed away.
I hope that this doesn't seem creepy but i can tell by the way you talk about your H that you are absolutely in love with him. You guys have been together a long time, correct? I love to hear you talk about him and your family.
To answer the question, yes, I would. H and I just got married in May but I would pick him again.
I hope that this doesn't seem creepy but i can tell by the way you talk about your H that you are absolutely in love with him. You guys have been together a long time, correct? I love to hear you talk about him and your family.
To answer the question, yes, I would. H and I just got married in May but I would pick him again.
Aw, thank you! He's really amazing. I'm very lucky.
We've been together for 10 and a half years and married for almost 7, so not that long. I didn't meet him until I was 30, for which I'm very grateful. Had we met earlier, I don't know that we'd be together today. We both had some wild oats to sow.
Okay it will now be my mission to find someone with whom I would always "renew."
During my first marriage I felt like we had more downs than ups, and know that we probably wouldn't have made it one year, let alone two if it had actually required a renewal.
Yep...been married 12.5yrs & have 4 kids. There have been days here & there where I might've been tempted but not many. He spoils me, I'd be dumb to want to do everything & do it alone.
Can we add an option to uncheck a box and opt-out of ILs? Or even write-in a new option for ILs, I'd totally take the family friends we met in Brazil over my current ILs. Lol
Okay it will now be my mission to find someone with whom I would always "renew."
During my first marriage I felt like we had more downs than ups, and know that we probably wouldn't have made it one year, let alone two if it had actually required a renewal.
I was so dumb I would have kept renewing for a few years, but it to would make the topic of getting divorced a lot easier. In fact, I used our lease renewal as my 'out' so it would have at least facilitated the conversation. lol
But at times I think he would be better off with someone else. Someone who he could have kids with and not have to worry about having all these losses.
I hope that this doesn't seem creepy but i can tell by the way you talk about your H that you are absolutely in love with him. You guys have been together a long time, correct? I love to hear you talk about him and your family.
To answer the question, yes, I would. H and I just got married in May but I would pick him again.
Aw, thank you! He's really amazing. I'm very lucky.
We've been together for 10 and a half years and married for almost 7, so not that long. I didn't meet him until I was 30, for which I'm very grateful. Had we met earlier, I don't know that we'd be together today. We both had some wild oats to sow.
I truly believe that age can make a huge difference. I'm 34 and H is 36 and we are both confident that we've done everything crazy we need to do. Lol
Yup! He's a keeper even when he makes me frustrated.
Your avatar is similar to a pic I've used for different profile pics/avatars before and lately I've been scrolling by thinking you're me. In this post, I was like, "What? I'm not even married, why did I post in here?"
This is the pic. I think it's the glasses and car selfie that throw me off.
ETA: I'm too dumb to post pics from my phone apparently.
Then he was quiet for a few minutes and said "I don't know, never mind, probable not, because I'd bitch about how much it cost every time and you'd get pissed that ALL I CARED ABOUT WAS THE MONEY and you wouldn't remarry me within the allotted time."
Yup! He's a keeper even when he makes me frustrated.
Your avatar is similar to a pic I've used for different profile pics/avatars before and lately I've been scrolling by thinking you're me. In this post, I was like, "What? I'm not even married, why did I post in here?"
This is the pic. I think it's the glasses and car selfie that throw me off.
ETA: I'm too dumb to post pics from my phone apparently.
Yes. H and I dated for 6 years before getting married, celebrating our 11th anniversary this New Years.
I feel like we have grown together and that the rough times while dating helped build the foundation of our relationship and preared us to better react to future situations (eg. financial struggles, job loss, making sacrifices, etc.).
Don't get me wrong, there are days I really want to rip his head off and I'm sure he feels the same about me too.
But at times I think he would be better off with someone else. Someone who he could have kids with and not have to worry about having all these losses.
I'm sorry.
I sometimes feel that way about H. He seems like he'd be a decent dad, the sort with two kids, who would like a more feminine spouse who is into making dinner and doing most of the child-rearing.
They stick with us. It's because we're awesome.
I know he will stay no matter what, and it's funny you say that because he calls me Mrs. Awesome all the time. (It maybe because he thinks he's Mr. Awesome though. Lol)
This time last year, I'd have said no way. This year, I'd say mostly yes. I pay our health insurance premium, and this time last year was time to renew. I only renewed for 6 months because I wasn't sure we'd still be together at the 1 year mark.
Post by mrsukyankee on Nov 30, 2015 3:40:37 GMT -5
Most definitely yes. I think getting married at 38/34 helped with this - we both knew what we wanted, took 1-1/2 years to get to know each other (including international travel) and we're extremely honest about everything and will work on things together.
I did offer to get divorced when we found out I couldn't get pregnant as I knew he really, really wanted kids (I was ambivalent in some ways) but he said he'd rather have me than anyone else, regardless. We also made it through a period of time when his parents refused to meet me due to me not being Indian - they were threatening to disown him and everything. After those two things, we basically knew we'd work on everything else.