Just got an evite to a divorce party

[dvlish]

Is this wierd? We went to their wedding a few years back. It appears she moved out. She registered and the info for that is in the evite with a request for gift cards as well. Again, wierd?

I'm sad they are divorcing and am glad I already have plans with DH the day of because I don't think I could go celebrate this:(. I know it isn't a happy thing for either of them.

FWIW I know her through DH and the only time we have spent together was as couples. She and I have never socialized or talked even unless it was with the hubs present. She is a friend of his from work as is her ex. I guess if she was a dear friend of mine I would want to be there to support her but throwing a party seems so off to me. Is this common and I am just out of the loop?

[juris11]

Um she is registering for a divorce party?! That is straight up rude.

I also don't get the divorce party thing. I've only seen them on movies and tv.

[CloudBee]

WTF did she register for??

[picaflora]

A friend of mine threw a party to celebrate that she was finally divorced... but definitely didn't call it that! More of a "let's all get together and not have to deal with the douche" thing.

The whole registering thing is really strange though...

[BAMFMrsB]

I have to know what's on the registry. That takes some cajones. Cast iron ones at that!

[Deleted]

I want to know whats on the registry too.

I think its an odd invite. I think its fine between girlfriends without the registry but to make it all official is wierd.

[sporky]

lol. my sister did a divorce party, but it was more of a "having a few girls over to get drunk" night. no registries involved!

[purrbox]

WTF with the registry?! I wouldn't go either. That sounds too weird.

[Deleted]

That is very rude, and odd.

I've heard of divorce parties where the person goes out with close friends to celebrate finally being done with the process and moving on with life.

I have never heard of a divorce party where you invite every you know and ask for gifts. That is one of the tackiest things I've ever heard of (and I'm a pretty tacky person...)

[mego]

Rude! I can't believe someone would ask for gifts at a party like this. I would have half the mind to show up and request my wedding gift back lol! I can understand having some drinks with close friends after everything is finalized to celebrate the end of a bad relationship/new beginning but the gifts thing is beyond rude and tacky!

[psyck]

I'd go, just because I'd be curious what the party is like. Not a fan of the registry.

[womet]

May 17, 2012 9:14:28 GMT -5 v said:

I like the idea of divorce parties because I like that the person who is going through a hard time gets to have a fun time with friends. Might as well make the most of it.

But they are NOT gift-giving occasions, and registering for anything, let alone gift cards, is ridiculous and tacky.

I agree with v. How tacky of her to register for gifts.

[mbcdefg]

Ugh, so tacky. The party itself wouldn't be awful if she was just inviting close friends and wasn't asking for gifts.

If you decide to go, I'd wrap up an etiquette book with a bookmark in a page about not asking for gifts, then eat and drink as much of her food as you can.

[raangoli]

Wow. I guess I can see the idea of celebrating your "new" life and moving on. But registering for gifts and asking for gift cards is way over the line.

[iamali]

I had a "divorce party" with some very close friends. It pretty much consisted of us all going out and getting shitface, it was great!

I didn't know I could ask for presents too!

[keh2oblue]

So it's like a "Hey I'm getting divorced, some stock my new house" kind of party? Yeah, no thanks.

[cjeanette]

Divorce parties are becoming more common and I am okay with that. Registries? No.

[AHappierHour]

I had a small get together at one of my favorite local hangouts to celebrate my freedom but I think it's very rude and wrong to register for gifts.

[heyrebekah]

May 17, 2012 9:40:29 GMT -5 iamali said:

I had a "divorce party" with some very close friends. It pretty much consisted of us all going out and getting shitface, it was great!

Now that sounds fun! Registering is out of control.

[ECB]

I'm floored by this. A party, whatever you call it, w/ close friends just to kind of bring closure, as a sign you'r emoving on - go for it. I don't judge.

But to invite people you hardly know and then REGISTER for it???

of any party out there, this is NOT a gift giving occasion. I'd hugely side-eye a CLOSE friend if they tried to do this.

[dexteroni]

I was on board until the registry. That's ridiculous. I probably wouldn't go unless this person throws really good parties.

[housegeek]

You should call all the guests and tell them it's secretly a white elephant party

[RandZB]

My DH's cousin threw a party after a long, nasty, bitter divorce. She didn't register for anything, though. She had food and drinks and music and dancing.

[juris11]

I keep checking this thread becauuse I really, really want to know what is on the registry.

[Deleted]

What is on the registry?

ETA: and where did she register?

[vegas]

Is the registry a joke or is she serious? My friend had some close friends together for her "D" party the day her divorce was finalized. I could see her doing something silly like setting up a mock registry, or asking for liquor in lieu of gifts, but only as a total joke.

[Deleted]

Fuck etiquette. If I got divorced, I'd totally have a divorce party, and I'd make a huge-ass registry to earn back all the shit I bought for all of your fucking babies.

[vegas]

May 17, 2012 10:55:32 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Fuck etiquette. If I got divorced, I'd totally have a divorce party, and I'd make a huge-ass registry to earn back all the shit I bought for all of your fucking babies.

I laughed out loud at this one.

[formerlyak]

The registering part is totally weird.

I didn't have a divorce party when I got divorced. I was too busy worrying about a million other things. I did host margarita night on the day that would have been my anniversary the first year I was divorced. I didn't want to be alone and decided it was a good excuse to go out with the girlfriends. They called it my "anti-versary party." That was as far as I went.

[phunluvin82]

An old H.S. acquaintance had a divorce party...I only know that b/c he mass invited his entire FB friend list. Invite was complete with signed divorce paper PIP...and in the comments section, a mutual friend had written something like, "If you'd lasted 4 more months, I'd have won $x"...

He didn't have a registry though, just a get shitfaced house party. The registry thing is VERY weird IMO.