WWYD Regarding Testing?

[konapoppy]

It is almost like we are twins. I am in the same spot.

I am thinking about just getting the HSG and SA done. If those are issues, I don't want to keep spinning my wheels. Relatively speaking they are pretty cheap, so it feels financially like a no brainer, but a bigger issue from an emotional standpoint.

[bina]

Oh man, that's so hard when you feel brushed off by the Dr. I personally would do the tests, and while you wait for those results keep trying to get healthier, but if they do uncover a problem you'll know and it could save a few months hoping.
Fwiw, I'm about the same situation and the Dr told me to wait and if I'm still not pregnant in 6 months he can do some test.

[konapoppy]

Jan 28, 2016 11:34:46 GMT -5 suzv said:

Thanks!

I'm going to think about it a bit more. I have some time to decide about the HSG. My doctor told me to call to schedule it on CD1, so I at least have the rest of the cycle to decide what I want to do.

Is it weird that I feel bad asking my H to do the SA? He would absolutely do it, but I feel bad asking him too, even though I've been poked and prodded and do all the other work to hopefully get pregnant.

DO NOT FEEL BAD. After the hell I went through with the first m/c, H had already agreed to do a SA. By the time I had the second loss and surgery, he has no choice but to say yes. 

[kellikans]

I would go ahead and do the testing. FWIW, I started testing 10 months into TTC. That way if there is an issue, you'll know about it. Just be prepared that everything comes back normal and you end up falling into the undiagnosed camp, which absolutely sucks because you feel like there is nothing to "fix."

Eta: you never know what changes after a miscarriage, either. I had my initial HSG done and everything was clear. After we had moved on to IVF and I had a BFP and subsequent miscarriage with my second transfer, my insurance required another HSG before we could continue treatment. I ended up having a hysteroscopy with removal of tissue most likely left over from my miscarriage/d&c. So having a miscarriage may actually result in issues trying to get pregnant again and I would want to check it out and give myself the best chance possible.

[simpsongal]

I'm sorry about your doc. I don't think primary care and OBGYN docs are equipped to handle fertility issues. I felt fortunate that my OB was concerned along with me after we had 8 months of perfectly timed intercourse and no baby (12 months now).

I would go ahead and do the tests too. It all takes time to coordinate. Be prepared for some out of pocket costs even if it's insurance covered (I think the HSG was $250 OOP). I think I had to schedule my HSG over a month in advance, I just used my chart to predict the best time (after AF but before fertile window) and called to confirm the appointment after my AF showed up.

I would get the SA set up ASAP. DH had a 2 month wait for one (we're in the DC area) - he could have brought a sample sooner but w/traffic in the area there was no way to get it there on time.

Good luck! We're meeting an RE next week - all our tests were fine.

[tiptoetulips]

I would go on with testing.
You may want to check with your insurance mine wouldn't cover an HSG until my H had done the SA

[knx9211]

I'm sorry about your doctor I would move forward with testing, but this is only based on my own experience. We had our HSG done and it wasn't until an RE looked at it that he saw that was our problem.

[knx9211]

suzv Please do!! I will rave about him because I just got my BFP last week

[annabear07]

Hugs to you@suzv ! That's a horrible appointment. I have no experience with IF but feel that any dr should listen to their patients and not brush off a single concern.

As for the testing I would get everything scheduled and I the mean time work on getting to a healthier weight. For example, If sperm is the problem than your weight has nothing to do with it so why wait? Good luck with all the tests. I hope you find an answer (or even better a BFP) soon!

[megkat]

I'm sorry your dr was so dismissive, that's terrible.

Personally, I would absolutely move forward with testing. I made my "why am I not pregnant yet" appt with my dr at exactly one year of trying, and we started testing at that appt. I was also in the same boat of working on losing weight as well, but I wanted to see if there were any other issues. As it turns out, my DH has severe MFI- and I'm so glad we found that out early. Plus my HSG was NBD at all, so I wouldn't hesitate to get that scheduled

And I'm super side eyeing that your dr thinks no issues will show up just because you got pregnant once before. Like I said, my DH has severe MFI and I have a 2 year old DD that we managed to conceive without any interventions. A prior pregnancy, in my mind, is no way indicative that there can't still be fertility concerns.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!