How do you feel about being called hon, honey, etc?

[glynn]

Feb 4, 2016 13:58:31 GMT -5 squirrelymom said:

ETA, by someone you don't have a close relationship with.

Hate it !!!

[ninjabridemom]

Totally condescending when there isn't a relationship behind it.

[snowflurry]

Doesn't bother me

[calle28]

If it's from a woman, I usually don't mind. If it's from a man, I think it's creepy.

[cabbagecabbage]

Diner waitress older than me? Fine. Man or young person? Hell to the no.

[eb777888]

Hate it!!!! The girl who was about 20 at the drive thru kept calling me hon. It was weird.

The person has to be much, much older than me or I find it condescending.

[malibu]

It doesn't bother me unless it's obviously condescending.

[SwimDeep]

I'm from the South so I hear it a lot. I try not to mind it unless it's obviously patronizing or degrading (condescending is the word I was looking for here). My older brother has a way of using "sweetheart" that will set my nerves on such an edge they're sharp enough to cut heads off.

I feel like if it comes from a woman I don't mind it as much. If a man says it to me my hackles go up.

[Bernadine]

I think I've used hon here before. H and I use it all the time for each other. I wouldn't use it with people I don't know or at work, and I wouldn't expect to be called hon or honey in those situations either.

[waffletime]

I hate it. Grew up in the north, moved to the south as an adult. It's been an adjustment in a lot of ways lol.

[knx9211]

Feb 4, 2016 14:01:24 GMT -5 malibu said:

It doesn't bother me unless it's obviously condescending.

Co-signed.

[juliachild]

Don't like.

[jamich]

As long as they're not being condescending, it doesn't bother me.

[ZoeHart]

I don't love it. Extra annoying when the person who is saying it looks younger than me.
But I also don't want to be called ma'am. So I'm just hard to please.

[georgeharrison]

I'm with @tambcat. If a nice lady calls me hon, doesn't bother me one bit. If some creepy dude was doing it, yes, I'd be bothered.

[spellingbea]

I work in a nursing home and get called stuff like that all the time. I don't mind it. Anyone else and I don't like it.

[miso]

I assess on a case-by-case basis.

[So_Fetch]

California checking in - I like the way it sounds when someone is being comforting "Oh honey, I'm so sorry!" even if it's not a close relationship. I'm going to go with diner waitress with a southern accent being okay - otherwise, it would strike me as definitely odd and probably condescending.

[rex]

I hate it from anyone, even my h.

[eb777888]

Feb 4, 2016 14:16:08 GMT -5 freedom said:

Feb 4, 2016 14:01:02 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Hate it!!!! The girl who was about 20 at the drive thru kept calling me hon. It was weird.

The person has to be much, much older than me or I find it condescending.

Better than ma'am

Do you live in the south? I forget. I live in Dallas and I've been "ma'am" since I moved here at 16, lol. It was a weird thing to get used to!

[VeryViolet]

I grew up close enough to Baltimore that it hardly ever registers unless it is obviously patronizing.

[circa1978]

I hate it, particularly in combination with being touched on the shoulder or something.

[themysteriouswife]

Feb 4, 2016 13:57:45 GMT -5 squirrelymom said:

I grew up all over the South, so I don't even notice unless I'm in a professional setting. In that setting, it doesn't even register unless it's obviously patronizing. Then you'll get the look that let's you know it better never cross your lips again.

I try not to do it here, e.g. I'm so sorry hon. To me it's a term of endearment, but I also wonder how regional of a thing that is.

Ditto

ETA: we also grew up in the same area. That could be why it doesn't bother us.

[revolution]

It depends upon who is saying it and how they say it.

[Gato]

It' doesn't bother me.  If a man did it, that would annoy me, but I can't recall that happening.  It's usually older ladies who call me "hon."

[lexxasaurus]

Feb 4, 2016 14:00:24 GMT -5 @fkasmace said:

I don't pay attention unless they're yelling at me so I'm going to go with I don't care.

Just don't bless my heart bc I know what that means. Lol.

"Bless your heart" is just the cover for "you're a fucking idiot".

I *hate* hon, am slightly less hateful with honey, but it depends on the person also.

[themysteriouswife]

Feb 4, 2016 14:16:08 GMT -5 freedom said:

Feb 4, 2016 14:01:02 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Hate it!!!! The girl who was about 20 at the drive thru kept calling me hon. It was weird.

The person has to be much, much older than me or I find it condescending.

Better than ma'am

Oh god. Is this a true issue? I'm asking in non snark. We are teaching the kids to say ma'am and sir. Damn south and our nice manners!

[gummybear]

I would bristle but it would be completely out of the norm where I live. I cannot think of a single instance where I would find it appropriate outside of a nurse comforting me in a hospital bed. Even then, it would be weird.

[themysteriouswife]

Feb 4, 2016 14:24:39 GMT -5 lexxasaurus said:

Feb 4, 2016 14:00:24 GMT -5 @fkasmace said:

I don't pay attention unless they're yelling at me so I'm going to go with I don't care.

Just don't bless my heart bc I know what that means. Lol.

"Bless your heart" is just the cover for "you're a fucking idiot".

I *hate* hon, am slightly less hateful with honey, but it depends on the person also.

Bless your heart is also a context situation.

Me: The baby fell today.
A southerner: Bless his heart. Is he okay?
Legit concern


Me: the woman at the store was rude
AS: bless her heart.
Fucking idiot

[sandyapples]

I like ma'am. I hate "miss".