Brought to you by my H unexpectedly footing the bill for 8 people last night. It was a nice restaurant, everyone had 3 courses, multiple bottles of champagne, wine, etc. You get the picture.
I got snippy with him in the car as we might be buying a house soon and the bill was pretty huge.
They are our close friends, which I don't begrudge. But none of them has ever done this on THEIR birthday, that I know of. We eat out a lot with other couples, but we always split the bill evenly per couple.
Thoughts?
ETA: his defence was it was "a nice gesture" and also a tax deduction "work expense" (DRUNK!)
Did he invite everyone? So maybe it seemed more like a party and that's why they thought this was okay? This is weird to me
I'm also poor and wouldn't even be able to afford this so maybe I'm off base
Yeah, it was his "birthday dinner" But it's not like we rented a private room or anything to suggest it was set menu, like for a party. We just went to a restaurant with these 3 other couples.
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
I honestly didn't think it was an aussie "thing". Plus my H is American ffs.
Did he invite everyone? So maybe it seemed more like a party and that's why they thought this was okay? This is weird to me
I'm also poor and wouldn't even be able to afford this so maybe I'm off base
Yeah, it was his "birthday dinner" But it's not like we rented a private room or anything to suggest it was set menu, like for a party. We just went to a restaurant with these 3 other couples.
Yeah I wasn't trying to excuse just thinking out loud..
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
I honestly didn't think it was an aussie "thing". Plus my H is American ffs.
I thought he was! Yeah, must've been some good booze
Post by TrudyCampbell on Feb 5, 2016 23:16:03 GMT -5
At my bffs 30th birthday dinner we were all invited to an expensive place, private room, and her husband footed the bill. I was shocked! We all chipped in for tip.
Normally, the birthday person doesn't pay and everyone chips in for them. I definitely always expect to pay for my own meal.
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
My BIL says they buy everything for everybody on their birthday in India. So it's a thing at least there lol.
Yeah, it was his "birthday dinner" But it's not like we rented a private room or anything to suggest it was set menu, like for a party. We just went to a restaurant with these 3 other couples.
Yeah I wasn't trying to excuse just thinking out loud..
Oh I know, sorry:) I'm still residually annoyed from last night
"I" paid for my friends on my 21st birthday and they fought pretty hard to pay for me instead. But only bc my parents gifted me a nice dinner with friends. I haven't heard of the birthday person paying.
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
Yes. You're also expected to bring cake to work or school or whatever on your birthday.
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
Yes. You're also expected to bring cake to work or school or whatever on your birthday.
Actually H did this at his work yesterday. He also took his team out for lunch. Havin a birthday is $$$$!!
Post by The Foozzler on Feb 6, 2016 7:04:07 GMT -5
If you invite people for a formal birthday party, you pay. If you invite people to join you for dinner for you birthday, people should pay their own way. Especially if expensive drinking is involved. I would be pissed at H if that happened.