In the U.S., we usually end up splitting the bill. But I think it's culturally required to fight over the check in Japan. The birthday person most often paid.
Post by browneyedhunni85 on Feb 6, 2016 8:22:31 GMT -5
We always pay our own bill and the birthday person usually gets a free meal. If I was going to have to pay for everyone, I would not go out with friends. I'm cheap and it's my birthday. Give me money and let me shop, screw food!
Post by ivegotthemunchkins on Feb 6, 2016 9:05:26 GMT -5
Oh, hell no. I'd be pissed.
If it was just going out to dinner, everyone pays for themselves. But if it was a big party sort of thing, I know of people who paid for it all themselves. And I'm sure it was discussed and budgeted with the spouse ahead of time.
And we have to bring in our own birthday treats at work. Someone posted a list of everyone's birthdays, so there is no scootin' around that, either.
So do you think the people ordering bottles of veuve knew he'd pay?? This is pissing me off lol
Yeah, if they knew then...wtf. If they didn't know he was paying, then they should be falling over themselves to reimburse! I would be mortified if I ordered expensive drinks expecting to pay for my own treat and then someone else covered it.
So do you think the people ordering bottles of veuve knew he'd pay?? This is pissing me off lol
Yeah, if they knew then...wtf. If they didn't know he was paying, then they should be falling over themselves to reimburse! I would be mortified if I ordered expensive drinks expecting to pay for my own treat and then someone else covered it.
This is exactly what I was thinking. Did they at least offer to pay?
In our group of friends, we would all chip in so the birthday person didn't have to pay
Nope, American style is you get treated on your birthday. I've noticed that a lot of my European friends pay for everyone on their birthday, especially Germans and Scandinavians. Is that a thing?
I don't know about all Europeans, but for Greeks the birthday person always picks up the tab.
I think it was generous of your H to pay, but I don't blame you for being pissed! I'm mortified no one put up a fight either about chipping in, at the very least.
I would be PISSED. My MIL paid for everyone on my Hs birthday once but she was very upfront about it (a dave and busters party). I wouldn't go out if it was going to be over $1k.
If be pissed over a couple hundred bucks. We pay for our parents sometimes, but the bill usually isn't over $150. For $1300, I'd be furious! I know cost of living over there is higher, but still!!! And I'm also wondering why they wouldn't at least chip in.
So do you think the people ordering bottles of veuve knew he'd pay?? This is pissing me off lol
Yeah, if they knew then...wtf. If they didn't know he was paying, then they should be falling over themselves to reimburse! I would be mortified if I ordered expensive drinks expecting to pay for my own treat and then someone else covered it.
From what I could tell the men had a minor discussion but it didn't look like any strong objections!
If it was the normal thing in our group then fine. But no one has ever done this on their bday, to my knowledge, in the past, we always split dinners evenly with other couples.