That kind of city totally exists. Purely anecdotal evidence: Out of my 10 closest friends, only three have children-- and the other 7 or so are child free by choice, rather than circumstance. You can move to Seattle!
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Post by underwaterrhymes on Feb 10, 2016 19:14:39 GMT -5
That's so hard, scotty.
I have a lot of friends who don't have kids and they live all over the place. But it's definitely more common on the coasts.
While I think having kids is awesome (obviously) I also think not having them is awesome and I hate that it is just an assumption that he reason you don't is a physical reason rather than a choice.
Do you want me to find an email that a friend sent me back when we were thinking of not having kids? It really resonated with me and showed me I wasn't alone. I'm happy to send it to you.
Do you tell the people who ask flat out that you're just not planning on having children?
This. If they continue to question, tell them to fuck off. It's none of their damn business.
Okay, I couldn't do this. Don't get it twisted, I can handle them. I just don't understand the insistence, knowing how firmly in that camp we now are after fence-sitting, why that's the "answer" to life's problems. It's annoying.
I have a lot of friends who don't have kids and they live all over the place. But it's definitely more common on the coasts.
While I think having kids is awesome (obviously) I also think not having them is awesome and I hate that it is just an assumption that he reason you don't is a physical reason rather than a choice.
Do you want me to find an email that a friend sent me back when we were thinking of not having kids? It really resonated with me and showed me I wasn't alone. I'm happy to send it to you.
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Sure. Thanks. I think I should do the California move. As much as I love it here, I have been talking for years about this, and I think there's a place for me out there. I am a square peg in a round hole, here.
Do you want me to find an email that a friend sent me back when we were thinking of not having kids? It really resonated with me and showed me I wasn't alone. I'm happy to send it to you.
This. If they continue to question, tell them to fuck off. It's none of their damn business.
Misery love company? (kidding)
I know what you mean though. I have children myself, but I consider it bad form to grill someone who is childless. Some people who have children can't understand why a person wouldn't want children themselves.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Okay, I couldn't do this. Don't get it twisted, I can handle them. I just don't understand the insistence, knowing how firmly in that camp we now are after fence-sitting, why that's the "answer" to life's problems. It's annoying.
Misery love company? (kidding)
I know what you mean though. I have children myself, but I consider it bad form to grill someone who is childless. Some people who have children can't understand why a person wouldn't want children themselves.
Sometimes I wonder about that, honestly. Who wouldn't want to have free time to lay around like we do. Our life probably looks relaxing. lol. Realistically, we're burning time, sometimes.
Again, not a real problem, just don't understand why it's so weird for women to not have kids. I wish it was a non-thing.
Do you want me to find an email that a friend sent me back when we were thinking of not having kids? It really resonated with me and showed me I wasn't alone. I'm happy to send it to you.
I don't know exactly what to say, but I'm sorry that people are jerks, and can't stop asking questions that are none of their business. I hope you find the best place for you to be, you deserve to be happy
I can relate. It seems like the vast majority of people I meet or interact with have a lot going on with smaller kids at home. I'm lucky right now that I still have some childless friends, but I think most of them don't intend to remain that way. My BFF is taking a pregnancy test tomorrow and while I'll be SO thrilled if she finally gets pregnant after years of IF, I'm a little apprehensive because I know how much all my other relationships with people with kids have changed and I don't want that to happen with her. Maybe I overthink it, but I feel like I have trouble relating to a lot of people since I don't have or want kids. I'm also not very good with kids.
If you find this magical place where child free adults live, let me know and I'll move there too. We can hang out. It will be fun.
Post by bugandbibs on Feb 10, 2016 20:11:51 GMT -5
Being child free is common in my circle. We are the odd ones out in our group. We are the only couple in our group from pre-kid days that have kids. Our only friends with kids we met through our kids.
I don't get why other people care. There are lots of ways to be happy and have a fulfilling life.
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