M doesn't seem to care at all (as in I had no idea), but it broke my heart to find this out today. Dave went to her Valentine's day party.
He didn't think it was significant either.
M has been struggling this year listening at school. She pulls cards weekly. We've tried everything we could with concequiences at home, no consequences at home, positive reinforcement, etc.
Her teacher keeps assuring me she's a "good" kid, but sitting alone doesn't translate to good kid to me.
I feel really bad because her teacher is pregnant, and it has been insanely rough. That also means she's been out so much M hasn't had her teacher for a full week ever. The subs are different each time.
Even though M does best with routine, I still always expect M to listen.
I don't know how to help my kid, and that sucks.
M's teacher was supposed to talk to the guidance counselor 2 weeks ago, but I think I'll call myself next week to get her opinion.
Post by balletofangels on Feb 11, 2016 19:56:25 GMT -5
I keep telling myself I won't participate in these posts lol but, sometimes sitting by themselves is just what's best for the kiddo. They don't get distracted or distract others and are often happier with their own space. It looks exclusionary, but often is more comfortable for the kid. Did she say how she feels about it?
I keep telling myself I won't participate in these posts lol but, sometimes sitting by themselves is just what's best for the kiddo. They don't get distracted or distract others and are often happier with their own space. It looks exclusionary, but often is more comfortable for the kid. Did she say how she feels about it?
I always love that you do.
M doesn't seem to care at all. She's never mentioned it.
I wonder if it was recent. Just seems strange it was never mentioned. We get an agenda home every day.
I keep telling myself I won't participate in these posts lol but, sometimes sitting by themselves is just what's best for the kiddo. They don't get distracted or distract others and are often happier with their own space. It looks exclusionary, but often is more comfortable for the kid. Did she say how she feels about it?
I always love that you do.
M doesn't seem to care at all. She's never mentioned it.
I wonder if it was recent. Just seems strange it was never mentioned. We get an agenda home every day.
It is strange she didn't mention it, but it may be a trial thing. The fact that M hasn't mentioned it is a good sign IMO
Just as a caveat, I have a student in one of my classes. He's in third grade and had a rough year. He's been highly unsuccessful in most specials. He asked if he could sit alone in my class and I complimented his advocating for himself. I have zero issues with him in his new seat. He is quite literally a model student. Obviously, at least one teacher tried this for him and he liked the results.
Post by hopecounts on Feb 11, 2016 20:13:08 GMT -5
It is probably for the best but I know it must be hard to see/know.
Given that she hasn't responded to typical corrections have you considered having HR evaluated for ADD (inattentive type)? The inability to listen and needing routine can be trademarks of female presentation of this type of ADD. If that is the cause she really and truly can't help this behavior. If so then knowing can help you help her do better by knowing what she needs to focus.
I don't have an issue with kids sitting along during instruction time in the classroom. But during party time? They should be included by either being allowed to sit at an empty desk with the group, pulling up a chair and sharing, or bringing their desk over. It's one thing to separate a student for educational purposes, but it's entirely another to do so during social events.
You know, maybe this is what I couldn't articulate. That really made me sad that she wasn't in group for the party, but apparently a lot of parents were there, so the kids were distracted anyway.
While it would bother me I wasn't told about it I could see this being good for my kid. She always comes home from school starving because she talked all through lunch and didn't eat.
It is probably for the best but I know it must be hard to see/know.
Given that she hasn't responded to typical corrections have you considered having HR evaluated for ADD (inattentive type)? The inability to listen and needing routine can be trademarks of female presentation of this type of ADD. If that is the cause she really and truly can't help this behavior. If so then knowing can help you help her do better by knowing what she needs to focus.
I do wonder sometimes. I'll bring that up to her teacher and guidance counselor.
We used to joke she was almost OCD with her need for order as a very small child. Maybe there always was something to that in regards to attention/behavior.
While it would bother me I wasn't told about it I could see this being good for my kid. She always comes home from school starving because she talked all through lunch and didn't eat.
oh bless it! Lol our girls would love each other, but starve to death.
It is probably for the best but I know it must be hard to see/know.
Given that she hasn't responded to typical corrections have you considered having HR evaluated for ADD (inattentive type)? The inability to listen and needing routine can be trademarks of female presentation of this type of ADD. If that is the cause she really and truly can't help this behavior. If so then knowing can help you help her do better by knowing what she needs to focus.
I do wonder sometimes. I'll bring that up to her teacher and guidance counselor.
We used to joke she was almost OCD with her need for order as a vevery small child. Maybe there always was something to that in regards to attent5/behavior.
And that's why I mentioned it she's at a really good point to check and see and because if it's there she's young enough to start using some behavior mods (and if you choose meds) and get the best results long term but old enough for the Vanderbilt scale to be appropriate and accurate.
While it would bother me I wasn't told about it I could see this being good for my kid. She always comes home from school starving because she talked all through lunch and didn't eat.
oh bless it! Lol our girls would love each other, but starve to death.