Post by AHappierHour on Feb 12, 2016 12:58:04 GMT -5
He's 17. We got into an argument this morning and he stormed off and left in his truck. I have his phone and laptop. And it's been almost 2 hours and he didn't go to his dad's or grandmas. I don't know what to do right now.
Try to remember what it was like when you were 17. It may take more than a couple hours for him to cool off. You've done everything you can, now all you can do is wait and worry.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I'm sure he'll be just fine. I did the same thing around that age and this was before cell phones. I went to a friend's house. Finally my dad tracked me down and threatened to take my car if I didn't come home. That worked. I did move in with my mom for a month b/c of it, but it was hell, so I moved back in. I know you're worried, rightfully so, but please try to remember this is pretty normal for a teen. ((hugs))
Post by speckledfrog on Feb 12, 2016 13:15:51 GMT -5
I'm sure it's scary as hell, but 2 hours is relatively short. I would try to hang tight. You might want to try seeing if the police department can help you in anyway. They may be able to look for the car but they might not depending on if they want you to report it as stolen first.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Feb 12, 2016 13:18:27 GMT -5
I'm sorry, AHappierHour. I think this is one of those "just sit tight" moments. The more actions you try to take, the more you risk him reacting negatively (a la, Why did you call my friends? Why did you look on my computer? etc. ad infinitum). You know he'll be back, and remember that he acts worst with the people he trusts the most. Because he knows you love him. Sorry that's trite, but it's so true.
It is a sit tight thing. I still do this to my H sometimes when I get overwhelmed and don't want to escalate the argument. Just give it some time.
You disappear without telling him where you are going or when you are coming back?
I do. I get in my car and I drive. I can't tell him where I am going or when I will be back because half the time I don't know. I just drive. Sometimes I go someplace, sometimes I don't.
I will throw in the caveat I almost always grab my phone and my purse.
Post by karmasabiotch on Feb 12, 2016 13:46:05 GMT -5
Depending on your state you can make a police be on the look out for him.report for a 17 year old who leaves the house without permission. That way they can be on the look out for him.
I can't imagine what this is like as a parent, because my son is only 5, but when I was 17, I did that all.the.time.
I'd be worried if you don't hear anything by tonight. But an hour or two? He might just need some space. He could be at a movie or taking a hike. Unless there is some underlying mental or medical health situation, I would try to not be too concerned.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by themysteriouswife on Feb 12, 2016 14:30:16 GMT -5
I did this more than once as a teen. I went to Wal-Mart and walked around. I would come home hours later. My mom would be furious and I knew it would get to her. As stupid as it sounds you need to stay calm and rational. He knows he is upsetting you. He will be home soon.