Post by deanlicker78 on Feb 13, 2016 13:56:15 GMT -5
My oldest Dd's bff died in a car accident last night. He and another kid were driving around smoking weed. No one knows for sure what happened, but it was a single car accident so it was most likely due to their impairment. The other kid was taken by life flight and no one has heard anything about his condition.
She is devastated. I am so sad for her and sick for this kid. He was this big hulking kid born with fetal alcohol. He hated that people treated him like he was stupid or were afraid of him because of his size. He was a good and loyal friend to everyone who could see past his limitations. She loved him so much. I'm so angry that he made such a stupid decision. His death was so preventable.
I lecture her and lecture her that if she's going to drink or smoke or whatever, I understand but by God...park your ass someplace safe. Stay there. Do. Not. Drive. Do not ride with someone else that has been. This is why.
It's not fair and I'm angry right now. It's not fucking fair.
She was supposed to hang out with him last night. Since they were just going to drive around, she went out with some other friends who had more fun plans.
My anxiety level that she was supposed to be with him is indescribable right now.
It's so common around here, as you know, to go driving around on country roads doing whatever. There are so many adults around here even that don't see it as a big deal. I just hope if anything good can come from this it's that Viv and all her friends see what a big damn deal driving under the influence really is.
Post by hisno1girl on Feb 13, 2016 14:12:09 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for this loss
We all try our best to teach our children to be smart but they will still make poor choices. I'm just sorry that young man paid the price with his life.
Post by samanthamkm on Feb 13, 2016 14:14:48 GMT -5
Keep asking questions or get your daughter help. I lost my best friend when I was in high school and it really shook me. I wish my parents got help for me.
Keep asking questions or get your daughter help. I lost my best friend when I was in high school and it really shook me. I wish my parents got help for me.
They had grief counseling available at the HS today. She is there now.
We will absolutely make counseling an option for her. Thank you for that suggestion.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Feb 13, 2016 14:41:07 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. This has to be my biggest fear as a parent. My lecture to my kids goes something like this: "I don't want you to, but I know you will anyway, so, whatever you do, just call me and I'll make sure you all get home safe." How terrifying for you to know that she was planning on hanging with them last night, too. Your dd and her freind and his family will be in my thoughts.
Post by miniroller on Feb 13, 2016 14:50:24 GMT -5
Oh my gosh deanlicker I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine what you're dealing with today. I agree with your hope that this tragedy causes a turnaround to this scary trend. (Former country girl, here, who's very familiar) I really hope you can keep the conversation with your daughter open, & help her find someone with whom to talk if she thinks she needs that. Sending so many hugs! *And just a word of warning to watch out for after service 'hangouts' during which kids sometimes take out all these feelings they don't know how to handle in substance abuse. I'm sure you know this- just wanted to send a loving reminder for you & the other parents, as I'm sure everyone's pretty shocked, right now.