Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Aug 29, 2012 22:24:02 GMT -5
XH was very resistant to texting up until this year. It's so much easier to talk about anything pertaining to Babycakes over text, though, so I'm glad he finally got on board. I have always hated talking on the phone. Even as a teenaged girl. He would rather chat on the phone because you get answers immediately. Technically I guess I could ignore a text for hours if I wanted to. But anyway, he's the only person I know under 40 who held off for a long time.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Post by basilosaurus on Aug 29, 2012 22:35:18 GMT -5
I don't find that texting has led to less conversation. I guess I use texts for more logistical type things. Like, hey, let's get coffee, you free? What time? And then we go have an in person conversation.
I still talk on the phone with long distance family and friends. A recent text from my sister asking about her upcoming visit just meant I called her back when I had time to fully discuss. If it was a quick answer, I would have just texted in response.
If I'm out with H, I generally put the phone away, unless I'm trying to reach someone to join us. A texting plan isn't what makes for bad manners.
I also hate when people text or are on their phones when they're in someone else's company. I think it's so rude. It's like being out to dinner with someone and pulling out a book and reading it in the middle of dinner.
I don't know anyone who doesn't text. My 73 year-old father texts me and the other day he signed a text <3 and I nearly died laughing that he even knew what that meant, let alone used it!
I don't know anyone who doesn't text. My 73 year-old father texts me and the other day he signed a text <3 and I nearly died laughing that he even knew what that meant, let alone used it!
But texting is good in many cases. For example, if you are somewhere loud and trying to meet up with someone. I have no clue how I would ever meet up with H at a sporting event without texting.
I also think its more polite in many cases. For example, my DCP sends me a text at night to tell me what supplies I'm running low on, like diapers. That way I have a written message so I don't forget, but calling me at night for something so simple would interrupt my night and we would have to fill it with small talk.
I also, as a new mom, found it nice. I was flustered enough dealing with a baby, that when people called when I was busy with dd, it stressed me out (and I was raised its rude to not answer the phone if you are home). Texting let me deal with it when I had time, instead of going on someone elses time.
I guess I'm doubly annoying because I'm old school about my phone and manners. I never answer it when I am in public with other people unless I am expecting an important call. I never even check my phone if someone calls when I forgot to turn the ringer off. I think it's rude. I think it's just as rude to text in public or while you are engaged in a conversation with a real person sitting across from you.
I agree with you here to a large extent. I hate when I am with someone at dinner, walking, whatever, and they are constantly checking their phone for text messages or actually answer their phone. it's just rude to me. If someone says to me "I'm expecting to hear from my husband when he picks up the kids" or something then I understand. But often it's just because the phone is there and it's a habit for many people. and I HATE when people answer their phone in the car. If I'm in the car with you and you are on the phone, my options are limited. My SIL does this all the time and I loathe it.
There are some situations where texting is much easier than calling, yes - Wawa touched on some of them - just letting people know you are running late, or if you are at a loud event sometimes texting is easier. But I do think the excessive texting and even calling in our society is just obnoxious. H laughs at me bc I scream at people in cars (who are driving other cars)if I can see them texting - besides the fact that it is dangerous and illegal here in maryland - because I think, how are you so important that you can't go a half hour withotu checking your phone?!?!?
now that I've ranted about that, I'll admit that checking my phone is a bad habit of mine so if I'm out somewhere I have to just leave it in my purse, or else I'll put FB just out of sheer habit.
Post by penguingrrl on Aug 30, 2012 7:14:41 GMT -5
I can think of exactly one person I know who doesn't text, of any age. Honestly, while I agree people tend to abuse it I really prefer texting at this point because I don't have to interrupt what I'm doing to take a phone call.
my dh doesn't. he has a basic flip phone and has never texted anyone.
however, the only people my dh talks to on the phone are me and his parents I usually call him or we email each other.
he also does not have facebook or check his personal email, just his work email.
my husband doesn't really have any friends though...he is a serious introvert.
My H has a small group of close friends, but otherwise this is him. He is devoted to his flip phone, doesn't do FB or any chat boards, and checks his personal email about once a week. I've learned to email his work address if something needs to be reviewed in a relatively expeditious manner.
Everyone I know texts. And thank god, cause I HATE talking on the phone with 99.9% of people. Dyl and my Mom are the only people I call.
Same here. I hate talking on the phone, especially when I don't have much free time as it is. I love texting because I can keep it simple and to the point without having a long conversation.
My parents don't text and when I talk to my dad, I have to make sure I have an hour free because that is how long our conversations last.
My parents don't text and when I talk to my dad, I have to make sure I have an hour free because that is how long our conversations last.
OMG, yes. My father was a college professor and he can just talk and talk and talk and talk. I have had conversations with him that last two hours and he's the reason I bought an earpiece for hands-free conversations. I've told him I need shorter conversations but the man cannot help himself. Frankly I just don't take his calls anymore because he has the nerve to get all butthurt if I try to end a conversation because I'm busy.
my dh doesn't. he has a basic flip phone and has never texted anyone.
This is pretty much my DH too. I'll send him texts sometimes but never expect a response. Some of the guys from work will send him texts sometimes and he'll usually hand me the phone and ask me to answer them. I wonder if it would change if he had a phone with an actual keyboard.
We both despise texting and had no plan until very recently - we have the lowest plan available so we don't have to pay should we need to text. I have a few employees that will text quick messages instead of e-mail, so that was costing us money. It also comes in handy when one of us is in a meeting and the other one needs something important or if there is something going on with DS. Those are the only times we use it. We both hate that our siblings try and have full on convesations via text. FIL does this, so does BIL and my youngest sister.
Basically, I'm slow. In the time it takes me to reply to some text that requires more than a yes, no, or I'm here - I could have had a phone conversation and been done. DH really loathes it. He feels people have become poor communicators because of it and he constantly says people won't verbally talk at all in 20 years (he has a flare for the dramatic). That said, I can't remember the last time BIL or my youngest sister have actually called us to chat. It's always texts. I also think chronic texters (like BIL) are more compelled to text every insignificant weird thought that pops into the mind. I don't give a shit if BIL has a craving for a burger in the middle of the day, I'm trying to work. He'll text that sort of nonsense and I don't get the point. However, we normally suspect he is drinking or drunk when he does these things, so I guess he's not exactly the norm either.
I don't know anyone who doesn't text. I have a friend (who's kind of a jerk) whose voicemail says "Save us both some time and trouble and don't leave a message; just send me an email or a text."
Texting is great, and there is no less value to it as a form of communication just because it isn't spoken. I still use correct grammar and spelling, and I send and receive texts that are funny, cute, sweet, important, dumb or pointless. Just like phone chatting yet without the pleasantries or small talk.
Texting is great, and there is no less value to it as a form of communication just because it isn't spoken. I still use correct grammar and spelling, and I send and receive texts that are funny, cute, sweet, important, dumb or pointless. Just like phone chatting yet without the pleasantries or small talk.
Yeah, I have to put on my old-fart hat here and say that text-speak makes me crazy.
Texting is great, and there is no less value to it as a form of communication just because it isn't spoken. I still use correct grammar and spelling, and I send and receive texts that are funny, cute, sweet, important, dumb or pointless. Just like phone chatting yet without the pleasantries or small talk.
Yeah, I have to put on my old-fart hat here and say that text-speak makes me crazy.
MY MOM uses txtspk. I've told her just to spell out the friggin' words. She has an iPhone, FFS. It's not hard.
It's a losing battle.
I love texting. I generally don't take personal phone calls at work, but my mom can send me encouraging texts during the day. Or my friend can say to meet her at 7. Or whatever.
Also, it's GREAT for use on public transportation. Because bus cell phone talkers should be summarily executed. FACT.
Also...IIOY you should try my mom's favorite line when she's tired of talking on the phone.
Tell him your ear is sweaty so you have to hang up.
she says that to me. And means it. I talk a lot.
Dude. I cannot even get him off the phone when I tell him I have to use the bathroom! I have learned not to drink anything within an hour of calling him. I'm not kidding - he could talk forever.
I have a friend who is legally blind and she doesn't text or use Facebook. But other than that everyone I know does...even my parents and my ILs (and that's saying something because the ILs are way behind the curve on technology).
I have a close friend who does not text. I'm not annoyed by it, but I wish she would because I think we would be more in contact if she did. We live 5 hours away from each other and I'm just not one to talk on the phone much.
My coworker was the lone holdout on texting-like you, AW, she didn't even have the plan on her phone. Eventually her phone died, and she decided to get an iPhone for ease of having updated pics of her kids on hand whenever someone at work asked...so she technically does have a texting plan now, but rarely texts because she's not used to it and we're used to not texting her
Post by StrawberryBlondie on Aug 30, 2012 19:03:07 GMT -5
Add me to the "I absolutely hate talking on the phone" bandwagon. In fact, I kind of get annoyed if people call me over stupid stuff that could've been sent in a text that would've taken two seconds of my life.
I spend at least 60% of my work day on the phone. I don't want to be stuck on the phone in my personal life, too.
That said, know exactly two people who don't text - my dad, who only turns on his phone when he needs to make a call, and my grandma, who is 92 and only has a landline.
I don't know anyone who has a cell phone that doesn't text. I prefer texting because it saves me from having to have a several minute conversation about absolutely nothing when a one line text would have sufficed. I hate talking to people on the phone.
I just reread what I typed and realized that I'm turning into a misanthrope.
Sits down next to publius (at a respectful distance so we won't have to make small talk ).
Also, I prefer having a written record of directions and numbers, as well as what I was told to do/not do/get etc. To say nothing of the fact that I work in a public record room with 100+ people, and if we all called in instead of texting we'd stab each other in the face within a day. Loud talkers are despised behind their backs. We text about them. No, seriously.
My dad uses text speak more than anyone I know. For some reason, I find it endearing, mostly because he's been texting long before me and he does it to try to be funny.
The only two people I know who don't text are over the age of 70. Everyone else in my life does.