Post by HoneySpider on Apr 11, 2016 10:37:15 GMT -5
So, we are now toying of the idea of moving in June, which was not in our plans.
Our current lease is up Nov 30. We knew when we renewed it last year (before we knew I was pregnant) that we would definitely be moving after the year was up. We love living here - great apartment, great location, easy commute for DH. But the flip side is that it is small and a 4th floor walkup, which sounds like no fun with a baby (it's already no fun, haha).
Our original plan was to go into a bigger rental outside of the city (can't afford a 2BR in this area or we'd already be in one). Then we started looking into the idea of buying. But, after weighing a bunch of factors, we think continuing to rent is better for us right now. In looking at some rental listings over the past few days, now we're like hey, maybe we should try and move now before the baby comes so we're all settled and don't have to deal with the stairs/moving/being super cramped without space for stuff. I talked with the owner of the property to see what our options are - if we move out early we can sublet but they will also help find a new tenant - because let's be honest, it's going to be easier for them to try and get someone in for say July 1 vs Dec 1 (we know, we moved in during the off-season in Nov 2014 and there wasn't much competition).
The risk is that if we/they don't find anyone, we're on the hook for the rent until the end of our lease which we just can't do. There's currently no availability in our building and I feel optimistic that someone would be interested, but can't guarantee it. So, we have to think long and hard about what to do and really look at some of the rental listings for us. The idea of being settled is so, so appealing but we also have to be smart.
My office is a bunch of cliques. The women are very gossipy about each other....always. I try to stay out when I can...today, I feel one of them was chatting about me. I had just had my door closed while finishing up a call and heard it. Sigh...oh, well.
Post by HoneySpider on Apr 11, 2016 11:12:37 GMT -5
Thanks guys. Of course, the flip side is that if we wait to move, we don't have to worry about finding a tenant AND we might be able to get a better deal on a new rental because it will be off-season. Too many factors to weigh.
Post by estrellita on Apr 11, 2016 12:42:45 GMT -5
HoneySpider my totally biased opinion based on baby is to move. I *think* they recommend little to no stairs for a while after birth and walking up that many stairs would have killed me with the carrier, lol. But then again, could you deal with it for a few months and have your H carry baby up and down the stairs until you're healed and take it super easy? Obviously there are more factors but that's just my thoughts
H and I got into kind of a big fight last night. Basically stemming from me asking him to do 3 particular things yesterday and he only did one. Then I mentioned it and he was slamming things around and I was mad because I didn't want him to wake E up. Things are kind of a mess right now but hopefully our talk last night will help. My headaches are starting to get better so I'm hoping this will give me a little more energy to get things done. I'm so sick of the mess we have going on, both literally and figuratively!
I'm so frustrated with my coworkers. The nature of my work being what it is, if I can't work, someone else needs to fill in. That's why it's a PITA when someone calls in sick, because we are scrambling to find coverage.
So one would think that if I give a few weeks' notice, that I could find SOMEONE who can work for me/switch shifts. Especially since I often switch with them, often to my inconvenience. Because I like to think I'm a team player and I expect that someone will return the favor, right?
I need off in a couple of weekends because we've been asked to be godparents and the baby's baptism is on a day that I'm scheduled to work. I can't find a single soul to cover my shift, even when I explain the reason and am giving as much notice as possible. I sent out a mass text last week when I learned of this, and am now talking to people individually.
Post by wanderingenough on Apr 11, 2016 13:03:32 GMT -5
HoneySpider - That was why we moved earlier than planned. Moving pregnant was a hassle but I wasn't interested in setting up a space for the baby only to potentially move and do it all over again 6-12 months later.
MrsMB - That's annoying! Luckily we only have a few women on my team, but I definitely still hear gossip from time to time.
pooh8402 - That IS frustrating. The grumpy teen in me would definitely remember that when one of those fools asks you to cover for them in the future. Fingers crossed someone will step up and be a team player!
Post by HoneySpider on Apr 11, 2016 13:09:24 GMT -5
estrellita I definitely keep having this thought of being stuck in the house/being reliant on other people to go places....we live in such a walkable neighborhood but I feel like I'd never be able to buy anything at the store or carry anything to the post office because I wouldn't be able to manage that plus baby going up/down the stupid stairs. So annoying!
I think we're both leaning toward moving soon but we just need to start looking to see what's out there and make a good decision, not a hasty one.
Post by HoneySpider on Apr 11, 2016 13:13:05 GMT -5
pooh8402 That is sooo frustrating. I really hate when people can't help someone else out (but will undoubtedly turn around and ask for a favor of their own)
I'm pretty flexible also, but there are some people I refuse to swap with because either they never reciprocate or they want you to work like a Saturday all the time and they pick up your Tuesday.
I'm ON TO YOU!
Yep, one person in particular is coming to mind. She's saying no because she doesn't want to work back to back shifts. Well shit, neither do I, but you do what you gotta do. Her excuse is her 4 month old. Well I've got a baby too.
I called out my one coworker on it. I worked Good Friday for her, and it really inconvenienced me (daycare was closed, we had to travel to see family, etc). I told her that I was sorry to hear that, I don't like working back to back shifts either, and I was really hoping for some help, since I helped her out.
Oooh, good luck with the move! Hope you guys find something and everything works out.
There is someone on my FB that is a huge racist and bigot. Like, I can't even fathom how they get away with posting this stuff. I would unfriend, but I interact with this person regularly IRL so maybe I will have to settle for hiding their posts.
Having a fairly productive work from home day. Other than our house is being attacked by ants which is all the more noticeable when I'm here all day long. Ants all over the outside of the house plus enough inside to be annoying. I'm not comfortable using pesticides so I need to find some other way to combat them.
pooh8402 This is exactly what I'm dealing with at work too... It's SO infuriating. There are some people I will not help out again due to this happening. I rarely need to cover swap but when I do no one helps! Annoying! I'm team you!!!
Oooh, good luck with the move! Hope you guys find something and everything works out.
There is someone on my FB that is a huge racist and bigot. Like, I can't even fathom how they get away with posting this stuff. I would unfriend, but I interact with this person regularly IRL so maybe I will have to settle for hiding their posts.
Having a fairly productive work from home day. Other than our house is being attacked by ants which is all the more noticeable when I'm here all day long. Ants all over the outside of the house plus enough inside to be annoying. I'm not comfortable using pesticides so I need to find some other way to combat them.
Lurker, but a good way to combat ants is instant grits. If you can find their hill outside, pour a packet of instant grits around it. When they eat them, they swell up in their stomaches and make them explode. But it's non toxic to pets/kids.
Also, boric acid (borax), can be sprinkled around doors and window thresholds to keep them from coming inside. Borax can be dangerous to pets though.
I am feeling so left out. Two of our siblings and 4 or 5 other couples are all going to Mexico on a big group vacation this week. These are people we hang out with literally every single weekend. We didn't even receive an invite or "sure wish you guys were coming!" statement. I know we can't go because of S, but it'd be nice for it to feel like they wanted us to. And of course I'm jealous. A group vacation with no kids and a ton of friends sounds awesome.
stategirl08 thanks for the tips. Last year we had awful ants and I assume they'll be returning soon.
pooh8402 sometimes being a team player sucks because no one else appreciates it. I hope you find a switch soon.
HoneySpider I vote trying to move now for the stairs reason. The second bedroom will also be nice to settle in, but the stairs sounds awful for the last two months of pregnancy and first month of baby. I know, we lived on the 6th floor and the elevator broke more than it worked...
Post by luv2rn4fun on Apr 11, 2016 15:44:22 GMT -5
HoneySpider- I hope everything works out and you can move before the baby is here! Much much easier to do it before if possible (we are in a similar situation but mainly want to move so we have more help and things to do...and not have to deal with our neighbors with a newborn again!). Good luck friend!
pooh8402- sorry about your co-workers. Hope you can find coverage. I would be frustrated too.
awick14- appointment time! Hope all is going well! Thinking of you!
Appointment went well. Because of my last loss being so early she wants me to also take progesterone.
I am also getting blood work done for a beta right now. Unfortunately I am here late so I may my get the results until tomorrow. Edit: will give more info when I get home
Ok, so after a wonderful lunch with dh we were 5 mins late to the RE appointment, finding parking was horrible. (I'll called 5 mins before the appointment and said I would be a couple mins late.)
The re said that all our test results that we did were normal, except DHs motility it was 40% (>60% is normal) but the rest of his SA numbers were all on the very high end of normal. (But she did laugh and say that his lazy sperm are not a problem, clearly.)
She is going to monitor this pregnancy including ultrasounds until the end of the first tri, and we will see what happens from there.
So I will be taking progesterone vaginally 2x/day and then the heparin injection 1x/day until further notice.
She was very nice and I'm glad we liked her as she is the only RE within a 5 HR radius.
Update: Today's beta was a STAT beta I guess so they put it through already, it is 120! That's higher then I think I've ever had my first beta at.
Post by wanderingenough on Apr 11, 2016 19:15:44 GMT -5
awick14 I did the vaginal progesterone until 13 weeks, I think (+aspirin until 36wks) with R. So I'll keep all my fingers crossed that that will do the trick for you!!
awick14, that's a wonderful update! Yaaaaayyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're pregnant!
Fwiw, I did the vaginal progesterone for the first 12 weeks (and for 2 weeks after every IUI), and it'snot so bad. Depends on the kind you have, but the 3 different kinds I used weren't bad. Stock up on pantiliners, lol.
awick14, that's a wonderful update! Yaaaaayyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're pregnant!
Fwiw, I did the vaginal progesterone for the first 12 weeks (and for 2 weeks after every IUI), and it'snot so bad. Depends on the kind you have, but the 3 different kinds I used weren't bad. Stock up on pantiliners, lol.
We made a trip to Costco on the way home. (It's the pharmacy I use) I now have enough pantyliners to last through to 12 weeks if needed.
Me: "Twerk Time" Lol. DH: Is that like "Brazil Bum Bums"? Me: What are you talking about? I'm pretty sure you're making this up. I'm googling and calling you out.