Post by frozentoes on Apr 21, 2016 18:29:24 GMT -5
I think it's totally up to you and when you feel comfortable. I've seen people announce right away, after the first tri, at 20 weeks, and some who didn't announce at all until the baby was born! We did 12 weeks for both.
Post by callmehales on Apr 21, 2016 19:31:47 GMT -5
My best friends knew right away. Parents we told after 2 good scans at the RE (about 7 weeks). Told my boss at 9 weeks because I needed to take it easy because of a SCH...then we did a FB announcement after 12w and a good NT scan. It was also our first-date-aversary, which I liked.
I was nervous, but I also wanted to feel like I could celebrate this awesome thing and make it feel more "real" for me. There's no right or wrong.
Close family (parents) - early, 5-6 weeks Extended family - 8 weeks or more FB announcement - 18 weeks (I added a bump picture and that's when I first had a small bump)
That was with our previous pregnancies.
This time around I'm 9 weeks and we've told our parents, my brother and grandma, and our closest friends. We'll tell BIL's famliy and other extended family after our next ultrasound.
Not sure when I will put it on fb. Once I get past our next ultrasound I think I would be comfortable, but I'm in no rush.
So personally, I would fell comfortable at how far along you are to tell whoever you want to. It's really just what you are comfortable with. There is no rush if you don't want to do it now.
Post by littlemisssunshine on Apr 21, 2016 21:43:38 GMT -5
I told family (including parents) at 16 weeks, Facebook announcement at 22 weeks and my best friend at 6 weeks.
Do what feels comfortable for you. For me I knew my MIL was going to be a pain in the neck to deal with so we held off telling family as long as possible.
A very few select of our clisest friends knew from the very beginning (like they knew we were doing a FET and we told them about the BFP within a few days). We waited until our first ultrasound at 6w5d to tell family.
I told my boss around 10 weeks when I had to stay home from work for two weeks due to m/s.
DH was really eager to share the news with everyone early on but I wouldn't let him. After the NT scan at 12 weeks I gave him the go ahead and within minutes he had posted on fb/ig. That was maybe a little faster/bigger than I had planned but it was ok. I think he felt this was the one thing were he could be a part/feel involved. So much of pregnancy and especially early on leaves the dad very much on the outside so for him to be able to do that was very important.
We plan to go completely public after my 12 week scan. My boss and a few close friends knew at like 4 weeks because we did IVF and they knew that was going on. I told my parents/in-laws at 7 weeks.
We told immediate family within days of finding out. Work (just bosses & direct coworkers) and BFFs got told at 8 weeks and FB announcement at 13 weeks. H was so over the moon excited to tell everyone that it was a struggle to get him to wait until 13 weeks to go fully public.
We told our parents when we first found out because they knew we were going through infertility and have had miscarriages. We told DD after we saw the heartbeat for the second time and felt reassured that it was going to be a viable pregnancy. We didn't offically announce to everyone else until we had hit 2nd trimester.
Immediately: Family and close friends After NT scan came back good around 12 weeks: other people told in person, including work Around 16 weeks: social media and generally public knowledge
We told family and coworkers pretty much right away (the latter b/c I get awful morning sickness and my CWs are close friends too). Anyone else we saw in person we'd tell. I'm an over-sharer and I would be very open if something went awry. That's just me though.
As for FB, I usually wait until 20 weeks so we can announce the gender too. I prefer to make 1 announcement on FB, so I prefer to save it for gender + baby on the way.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Apr 22, 2016 8:17:08 GMT -5
** loss mentioned **
My first pregnancy, I told family and best friends right away. I told my boss at 7 weeks because he asked me to help in a heavy lifting file move. The next day I miscarried at work. It was pretty terrible and I wish I hadn't been so open.
With DD and this baby, I felt comfortable telling family and close friends after a dating ultrasound with a heartbeat.
I announced on social media at 12 weeks and 14 weeks approximately.
I told my close family right away both times... 6 weeks with DD, 5 weeks this time. Extended family at about 9-10 weeks, friends intermittently in between that period. We went public on FB at the beginning of second trimester.
Post by theluckiest1 on Apr 22, 2016 10:19:00 GMT -5
Whenever you feel comfortable, there isn't a wrong or right! We told our families immediately since everyone knew our journey and that we were doing IVF. I told my best friend right away too. I told work at 12 weeks and have been slowly filling in other friends/extended family as I see them. I am 16 weeks and we haven't done a fb/ig announcement but we'll probably do that this weekend after our gender reveal.
I told my parents at 10 weeks only because they were visiting from out of state. I just told work this week (at 15 weeks) because I feel like I'm starting to show (3rd and 4th babies) and we finally got the results of our 1st trimester screening back. We haven't told our daughters or other family yet, will probably do that this weekend.
Will not do any sort of social media announcement, but will probably email a fun announcement to close friends who don't live locally in a few weeks.
Post by icedcoffee on Apr 22, 2016 11:01:32 GMT -5
I told my sister and a friend who went through IVF at 4.5 weeks. I told my boss at 9.5 weeks because of a SCH that required me to work from home for a week. We will tell my parents at 11.5 weeks (would have been earlier, but they are on a month long vacation so this just works out). Will tell my IL's and BIL/SIL that same weekend since I wanted my parents to know before them. Haha We will slowly tell friends after our NT scan at 12 weeks and probably go public on FB around 20 weeks. Not sure when I will go public at work since my boss already knows, but probably around 14 weeks or so. They already know something is up.
I'll be exactly 12 weeks on Mother's Day, so we plan on telling immediate family then. Not sure exactly when we'll decide to start telling everyone else but it's likely that will happen near the end of May.
I had pretty strongly wanted to wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone, but Christmas was around 8 weeks and DH really wanted to share the news. It was too perfect of an opportunity, so we told both of our immediate families then. Work I told around 13, and extended family a week or two after that.
I told my mom and ILs around the same time last time, 7 weeks or so. I never announced on FB because I wanted to do an April Fool's joke since M was due not long before April Fool's Day... sadly, people didn't fall for it and claim I had a fake baby, haha. This time, we haven't told our folks yet, and I'll be 8 weeks tomorrow. We're trying to figure out how to announce it to them at 10 weeks. I'll put it on FB this time at 12 weeks, maybe with M wearing a BIG BROTHER shirt and no other text.
Post by melodramatic26 on Apr 22, 2016 21:30:19 GMT -5
DD1 we told our families at 8 week. Asked them not to tell, and they did. Lesson learned. Went public around 14 weeks.
DD2 waited until we were 12 weeks to tell family and went public then too.
This one- we told the girls and family at 11 weeks because it was Christmas Day. We found out on NYE it was a boy and then went public when we had the Panarama test results back and heard the heartbeat. Plus we knew if we didn't go public quickly, our families would spoil it.
My family and several friends knew right away because they knew about IVF. DH's family was 14w or so. I told my boss early because of IVF. Some of my coworkers found out early when I got sick in a meeting. The rest at 20w. The rest of friends we told as we saw. We were announced on FB by my maternity pics -- someone saw them on my photog's page and tagged me. I think I was 36w?