I'm so mad at my H right now. So mad.

[cuddlyevil]

The last time it happened, I drove him to urgent care (we were at dinner and was ready to pass out from dizziness).

[eb777888]

Usually, yes. It has to be really bad for him to go and it takes convincing but he does eventually go usually (if it's like strep or possible flu).

I have to get ON HIS ASS and make the appointment for him to get routine check-ups and bloodwork. I have to go to my well exam every year and my endo four times a year but because H is so healthy, he never gets bloodwork or even just a routine physical. I have to really push him with that, it's just not on his radar and it worries me that he might have some underlying health issue. If I make the appointment, he will go.

[Deleted]

Yeah, my mom is dealing with this right now in regards to my dad. He hasn't been to a doctor in over 31 years.

[noodleoo]

Yeah, I can't remember the last time H saw a dr. What annoys me more is him being "sick" and complaining constantly but not doing anything about it. Last week he was whining about his back hurting and being super dramatic about it. I kept telling him to take some ibuprofen but he never did. I finally gave it to him in his hand and made him take it. An hour later he was fine. Seriously?!? He's the same way with a mild cold. Just take some medicine! I'm already taking care of the baby, I'm not going to be his mom too.

[marylennox]

Yeah. Men are stupid

[Elsa]

Ugh yes.

He hadn't been to a dr in 10 years....and one day he came home and was like "hey I'm going to join a gym with some guys at work and work out during lunch!"

I told him absolutely not until he got a full physical. That worked. He is healthy and now he will prob never go back. Lol

[FormerlyRR]

The worst part is they act like they are dying. Yet they refuse medical care. I think they are all afraid the Dr will say "man cold, deal with it dumbass."

[Eagles]

Yes. It turned out that he had fucking shingles.

[FormerlyRR]

Apr 30, 2016 20:46:31 GMT -5 loonylunalovegood said:

You guys remember the last time he didn't go to the doctor and got a freaking staph infection in his armpit?! Ugh. Just thinking about that is getting me more pissed off.

I do now. Blech. 

[starlily]

Yes. MH had unexplained, sudden numbness in one leg for DAYS before telling me. I made him call the advice line which recommended going to the ER in case of stroke. He resisted, then finally went. It turned out to likely be a pinched nerve, but I can't believe he was so blase about all of it.

noodleoo -- liking your post in solidarity.

[gizmo]

Yep, and then EVERYONE in the house gets it. His cough could register on the Richter Scale. So I hate him when he's sick.

[nsl]

My H IS a doctor, and it still takes an act of Congress to get him to walk down the hall and ask one of his colleagues to check out a bad cough, or the foot injury that has kept him from running for the last six months.

[Shreddingbetty]

Apr 30, 2016 21:12:53 GMT -5 nsl said:

My H IS a doctor, and it still takes an act of Congress to get him to walk down the hall and ask one of his colleagues to check out a bad cough, or the foot injury that has kept him from running for the last six months.

So is MH and I'm a PA and he is stubborn as hell. Everytime he gets sick the last couple of years it gets really nasty. I can prescribe the freaking meds and even then he is usually stubborn. Finally this last time I told him he had to get on his meds right away (albtuerol and steroids) instead of waiting until he is half dead4 weeks later. I'm tired of dealing with it when he wont try and help himself. He finally listened to me this last time (it only took many times before he gave in....)
i admit it takes a lot for me to go to the doctor as well but I mostly suck it up and deal with it and life and my responsibilities go on....I don't have the luxury of coming home and going to bed like he does and pout about the man flu.

[sparkythelawyer]

I stop doing anything for him or acknowledging his illness at all. Don't need a doctor? Then don't bitch.

[dancelnow]

Yes. Missing work because of the pain, but not taking it seriously enough to really get tested and the problems figured out for years. And then, dragging his feet so it ran over calendar years and cost us 2 high deductibles

[Bernadine]

No- he runs to the doctor as soon as he feels a tickle in his throat or a twinge in a muscle. Which also makes me crazy.

[themysteriouswife]

Yes. I had enough of his moaning and tossing from pain. It was 5:15 am. I picked up his clothes and threw them at him. I told him he had 10 min to get dressed and out the door or I was calling 911. He had a kidney stone. It was one of the largest his urologist had see in 20 years of practice. He ended up needing surgery to remove it.

ETA: the pain went on for over a month before this happened. I still feel like an ass for throwing things at him.

[snorky]

My h is the exact opposite. Every ache or pain is fucking lupus and the billing department sees him coming a mile away.

[kayl84]

Apr 30, 2016 20:46:31 GMT -5 loonylunalovegood said:

You guys remember the last time he didn't go to the doctor and got a freaking staph infection in his armpit?! Ugh. Just thinking about that is getting me more pissed off.

If you to take him + drag him into an urgent care, do that. How can he be so nonchalant about "oh I'll sometime between now and never?" After having that I'd be going the second I felt not normal for the rest of time.

[blondemoment123]

Apr 30, 2016 21:31:56 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

I stop doing anything for him or acknowledging his illness at all. Don't need a doctor? Then don't bitch.

This is brilliant.

[Gato]

No, my H runs to the emergency room as if he were on death's door if he has stomach pains or starts coughing in the middle of the night. This really didn't amuse me when I was like 45 weeks pregnant. You are not allowed to be this dramatic about a stomach ache!

[Bernadine]

May 1, 2016 18:39:07 GMT -5 Gato said:

No, my H runs to the emergency room as if he were on death's door if he has stomach pains or starts coughing in the middle of the night. This really didn't amuse me when I was like 45 weeks pregnant. You are not allowed to be this dramatic about a stomach ache!

Lol, I've already warned h that when I'm in labor, he better not even fucking think about saying he's tired or doesn't feel good.

[FastHands]

Yeah, I'm like sparky. Any complaint or request is met with, "did you call the dr?" You're a grown ass man and you need to take care of yourself. If you are THAT SICK, you need professional medical care.

I swear I am nurturing and loving with my toddler, lol, but I have NO PATIENCE for that bs from a grown ass man.

[residentdj]

Heh...my H isn't too bad about seeing a doctor when he needs to, although I still usually need to encourage him to do so. He will at least go though. My father, on the other hand, is the absolute worst and it seriously pisses my mother off. Any time he gets sick, he basically refuses to see a doctor - probably because he knows the doctor will get on his case about his unhealthy habits. What sucks now is the fact that he is now seriously ill - this discovered after my mother finally forced him to see a doctor the last time he was sick. I don't know much beyond the fact that his illness has no cure, but can be 'managed'....he has a follow up this week to see what course of action they will take and other general info.

[clairedunphy]

My husband always thinks he's on the brink of death, will go to the doctor (very frequently), get diagnosed, then 99% of the time completely ignore the doctor's advice. It infuriates me. Doctors prescribe him drugs he doesn't take, recommend tests he doesn't do, etc.
He even extends this logic to me; I had a horrible cough and sinus problems for months, and he kept insisting I see an ENT instead of my primary care. So I did, and the ENT, after performing tests, diagnosed me with asthma and said I needed sinus surgery. My husband thought that was insane. He doesn't understand why I take the meds I do, inhalers, etc. I do not understand why he insists on going to doctors, just to argue with their opinions. You have no medical degree, H!!!

[sparkythelawyer]

May 1, 2016 19:45:39 GMT -5 FastHands said:

Yeah, I'm like sparky. Any complaint or request is met with, "did you call the dr?" You're a grown ass man and you need to take care of yourself. If you are THAT SICK, you need professional medical care.

I swear I am nurturing and loving with my toddler, lol, but I have NO PATIENCE for that bs from a grown ass man.

My favorite was the time I asked if he had a fever.  

Him:  "HOW WOULD I KNOW THAT?!?!?!"

Me:  "Well, did you take your temperature?"

Him:  HOW WOULD I EVEN GO ABOUT DOING THAT?!?!?!?

Me:  Science has created these really cool things called thermometers.  We, in fact, have one in our medicine cabinet.  Perhaps you are familiar with them since YOU ARE A PARAMEDIC?

[oregonpachey]

I finally nagged my husband enough to get a physical. It had been probably 20 years since he set foot in a doctor's office.

Turns out he is diabetic, severe sleep apnea, low testosterone and has some weird liver function thing going on. I wish he had gone in years ago, dammit.

[panicfoot]

The only way I can get him to go is if I blow it way out of proportion.

Ex: He had a sore in his mouth that was disgusting for days. He couldn't eat or talk FOR DAYS. I finally told him I googled his symptoms and it looked *just like* this picture of mouth cancer I saw. He went to urgent care immediately at 8pm, lol.

He also had an inflamed and very sore testicle. I told him to go to urgent care and he wouldn't until I told him it could be testicular torsion and if so, he may need it removed, so he went directly to the ER.

[Serenity9]

My ex-husband used to do this. Key word: EX husband.

[pugz]

oregonpachey uggh that sucks. Is he taking the diagnoses seriously?