I have a lot of kid questions today, sorry! we are taking a trip to the mountains with our friends in June. They all have older kids and are planning to leave them. I kinda want to leave ds but I'm worried he'll be sad. Lol. We would either leave Thursday or Friday and come home Monday. Either tell me to do it or tell me I'm a monster. I don't really wanna deal with bedtime and bottles and feeding him every few hours because my kid is a tank and eats a ton. I guess we could skype so he knows we still love him? Lol
Post by dragon's breath on May 2, 2016 22:14:07 GMT -5
My sister watched my son when he was six months old so then husband and I could get away for a weekend. It was great and they enjoyed having my son for a weekend. Leave the kid behind
I knew it! I'll bring him. My friends will watch him right? I mea they're not bringing their kids so they'll have plenty of time!
Im not breastfeeding and there are a multitude of grandparents that who'd watch him. I just don't want him to think I've abandoned him. Cause he totally has the cognitive ability to consider that. Haha.
Those who say to leave him if you're not nursing, is it really bad to leave a baby if you are nursing? Next month we're having our first weekend away since we had C. The girls will be staying with my parents. I'll still be nursing C (she'll be 7 months) and planned to pump while we're gone.
Now I'm questioning myself. Is it terrible of me to leave her two nights when she's used to mostly nursing? Now I'm feeling a bit guilty, but I'm dying for some time away, lol.
Those who say to leave him if you're not nursing, is it really bad to leave a baby if you are nursing? Next month we're having our first weekend away since we had C. The girls will be staying with my parents. I'll still be nursing C (she'll be 7 months) and planned to pump while we're gone.
Now I'm questioning myself. Is it terrible of me to leave her two nights when she's used to mostly nursing? Now I'm feeling a bit guilty, but I'm dying for some time away, lol.
I think they're just saying that because of the pita of pumping/storing milk? I, obviously, say go. Hahaha.
To be honest I probably would have FREAKED with my first kid if he was away from me that long, but I had no problem leaving DS2.
I 100% support a weekend away. Have fun!
He is my first and I'm worried I'll be crying and sad but we will only be like 45 min away and my friend said she'd drive back with me to get him if I hate it. Lol!
loira no he's a very spoiled shih tzu. The baby is probably more responsible than my a-hole dog. (Who will be boarded for this venture, since my usual dogsitters is one of the couples we are going with. Hahaha)
To be honest I probably would have FREAKED with my first kid if he was away from me that long, but I had no problem leaving DS2.
I 100% support a weekend away. Have fun!
He is my first and I'm worried I'll be crying and sad but we will only be like 45 min away and my friend said she'd drive back with me to get him if I hate it. Lol!
To be honest it probably would have been good for me to have a weekend away, I just know I would have balked. I was single parenting at that time (married, but XH was in another state) cosleeping, barely leaving the house, and nursing every hour, at least. With DS2 I had a much more healthy baby/life balance, I was working, he was taking bottles, staying with babysitters for date nights, etc. I highly recommend option 2.
To be honest I probably would have FREAKED with my first kid if he was away from me that long, but I had no problem leaving DS2.
I 100% support a weekend away. Have fun!
He is my first and I'm worried I'll be crying and sad but we will only be like 45 min away and my friend said she'd drive back with me to get him if I hate it. Lol!
loira no he's a very spoiled shih tzu. The baby is probably more responsible than my a-hole dog. (Who will be boarded for this venture, since my usual dogsitters is one of the couples we are going with. Hahaha)
You might cry at drop off, but the feeling will dissipate quickly. Have fun!!
I'm not worried about him being sad. The risk is more of you being sad. My parents left me for a week at 3 months and my mom cried all day every day. That was their first and last vacation without kids, lol.
Those who say to leave him if you're not nursing, is it really bad to leave a baby if you are nursing? Next month we're having our first weekend away since we had C. The girls will be staying with my parents. I'll still be nursing C (she'll be 7 months) and planned to pump while we're gone.
Now I'm questioning myself. Is it terrible of me to leave her two nights when she's used to mostly nursing? Now I'm feeling a bit guilty, but I'm dying for some time away, lol.
Oh, I just hated pumping so much that id rather just deal with the baby over dealing with the pump. There is nothing wrong with leaving a nursing baby, it's just less convenient.
Now I'm questioning myself. Is it terrible of me to leave her two nights when she's used to mostly nursing? Now I'm feeling a bit guilty, but I'm dying for some time away, lol.
If she takes a bottle, it's fine. It's more that you'll have to pump and that's a PITA. Also, I'd pump and dump, no need to carry breastmilk around with you. Plus at 7 months, it's not like you'll have to pump every 2 hours.
Post by cabbagecabbage on May 3, 2016 8:18:53 GMT -5
I wouldn't. I'm only answering so that new moms reading know that either way is ok. I got pressure for being too uptight about my parenting and it pissed me off. I didn't do an overnight for 2 years because that's what *I* wanted. You are not a monster if you want to do this. You need to take care of you too.
I left DS with my Mom for 36 hours for a wedding at that age ( actually he was 5 months same diff). He was FINE. I am so glad I did because I didn't get a night away from him for the next 4 YEARS. So glad I got away while I could.
Yes, I would. I believe we first left DD1 at around 6 months. She stayed with my parents, and all was good - no permanent emotional scars, lol. In fact, everyone was happier: we got a break, DD got non-cranky caregivers for a while, and my parents got DD all to themselves.
DD2 would have been a different story, because I nursed her through her first year. Man, I got guilted by my LC just for leaving her at 5 weeks to get a 2-hour haircut.