help with card wording - sensitive subject

[lightbulbsun]

I want to send my step-mom flowers for mother's day. Her son died last fall, so it's probably going to be really hard for her this year.  We're not very close, but I want to let her know I'm thinking of her. I am bad with words/emotions, and I have no idea what to say in the card. Any help?

[cabbagecabbage]

I would just tell her I was thinking of her and that I love her (if you do) and maybe even include a nice memory of her son. There is no pretending it's a pleasant day but moms always appreciate good memories of their children. I think it's OK to say you're upset and not sure what to say but she is on your mind.

[gizmo]

I think a "thinking of you today" is a thoughtful and appropriate message.

[W.T.Faulkner]

This is a nice idea. I don't think the card needs to be long. "Thinking of you today and always."

[FastHands]

"Just wanted to add a bit of brightness and let you know I am thinking of you today (and all days!)." with an optional something about being there to talk if she wants to, if that is something you/she would be open to.

[nahoku]

Agreed that a simple "thinking of you and your son" message is enough. If you feel this way, you could let her know that she was a great mother and her son is remembered.

[lightbulbsun]

May 4, 2016 8:36:53 GMT -5 cabbagecabbage said:

I would just tell her I was thinking of her and that I love her (if you do) and maybe even include a nice memory of her son. There is no pretending it's a pleasant day but moms always appreciate good memories of their children. I think it's OK to say you're upset and not sure what to say but she is on your mind.

Part of the reason I feel awkward about it is that I barely knew her son.  Her and my dad were only married a year when he passed, and I had only met him a few times.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions. I'll probably just keep it simple and let her know I'm thinking of her.

[ECB]

With what you just added - definitely don't overthink it. A simple "thinking of you" really is enough.

[karmasabiotch]

I should probably do this for my Dad's wife. I'm sure it's a hard day for her since she is estranged from her kids and my Dad is in a nursing home. Nice idea! Definitely a Thinking of You approach.