Back on April 14, she said she was shipping them two-day mail and added that she owed me money for supplies because she would use them at some point.
But I've told her repeatedly I don't want the money back, so if I don't get it back, that's totally on me.
She's indicated a few times she would be shipping to me either that day or the next, but I've never gotten a tracking number and I definitely haven't gotten the clothes.
I haven't heard anything more since yesterday.
that is NOT on you. Any decent human being would return the money.
Back on April 14, she said she was shipping them two-day mail and added that she owed me money for supplies because she would use them at some point.
But I've told her repeatedly I don't want the money back, so if I don't get it back, that's totally on me.
She's indicated a few times she would be shipping to me either that day or the next, but I've never gotten a tracking number and I definitely haven't gotten the clothes.
I haven't heard anything more since yesterday.
No, it is not on you. You hired her to make a quilt. She did not provide the service for which you contracted. Therefore, she needs to return the money and the clothes. It doesn't matter if she already spent the money on supplies (she didn't, but even if she had) because you got no benefit from those supplies. It doesn't matter if you told her not to worry about the money. It's not like you have the ability to make a fair decision when you know that by asking for it you decrease the chances of getting the clothes back to 0.
Wasn't ML ready to send some 17 y/old to prison over embezzling $5 last week? This is not one bit different, except Squirely is a grown adult and she took a hell of a lot more than $5 from you.
My feeling (which I pray I am wrong) is that the clothes are gone. and all this backpeddling and false promises are her way of buying more time and hoping sweet UWR will just drop it. That being said should that be true... the very fucking LEAST she can do is send her money back. say "I fucked up. I sold them/destroyed them/lost them. Here is your 80 and a free quilt plus a gift card for X for your troubles"
I pray you get the clothes back. but my gut says they were sold at her garage sale or lost. I hope I am wrong.
Post by underwaterrhymes on May 21, 2016 19:00:24 GMT -5
I'm sorry other people didn't get stuff they ordered. That really sucks.
A lot of my patience went out the window when the etsy store started ramping up and she was constantly posting about it. Since she was bad about responding, I would try to message her when I saw her here since I know she would see the notification pop up.
We were gone all day and I was hoping we'd come home to a box, but nope.
Post by killercupcake on May 21, 2016 19:29:10 GMT -5
It's just so fucking ballsy. I'm surprised how angry this is making me.
I can't get over how much gall you have to have in order to essentially ignore someone for two years. Just own the fuck up like an adult. To whatever happened. In what world was this the better outcome to being truthful?
Everyone has issues. Life is hard. Harder than it should be sometimes. That is absolutely zero excuse for taking advantage of people who consider you a friend and who have basically taken care of you for the last however many years. Fucking a. That is some basic bullshit.
I know this is an acorn, but if I scroll to fast I think! Woah, *big* dog!
ETA: UWR, you are a really kind and generous person. Anyone here would be lucky to have you in their corner. I really hope the clothes are on their way home.
I'm not sure if this has been noticed/mentioned already, but it seems as though the original posts in all of the threads she started have been deleted.
I'm not sure if this has been noticed/mentioned already, but it seems as though the original posts in all of the threads she started have been deleted.
I think pretty much all her posts have beenshe deleted pretty much all her posts, period. She had like 11k.
ETA: I FTFM before anyone else points it out. I think flex said mods can only delete "all or nothing", not "some or most but not all".
We PM'ed about her making me a quilt a few years ago. Mine are still there.
I never did it because I was scared to send my baby clothes to her. I totally get why UWR is so upset. I get that they have a history and she totally trusted her, though. I didn't really know her then at all.
Post by MixedBerryJam on May 21, 2016 21:00:22 GMT -5
Yes, I just looked and my messages from her are still in my box. I wonder if it's because they were all exchanges that I initiated, so maybe she can't delete anything from them? Dunno.
Me too. I almost never come here on weekends, but I keep checking in to see if there has been any resolution or the box of clothes - ALL OF THEM - showed up.
UWR, you have been considerably too sweet to this person.
Oddly I did get the free stuff she was giving people a while back, but didn't place an order at all. I hope you get the clothes back. Shitty things happen, but you're continuing to run an ETSY shop + possibly leave your job to do so? No.
UWR, I 2nd or 3rd verycontrary's skill. She sent me a hat that I forgot to take a picture of in, but love. You, yourself UWR are really sweet as everyone has echoed. Get your baby's clothes then pull a "bitch better have my money" on her.
She asked me to delete her post history on May 12th, which is why so much is gone.
Well, this makes sense because on May 11 I posted this:
Ughh, I am sorry. I looked at my messages - she actually PMed me May 11th but I didn't do it until the next day. So yeah, she must have messaged me when she read your post. She gave me an excuse about wanting to protect her son's privacy. So freaking shady.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
squirrelymom, shame on you for being more concerned about covering your ass than making things right with UWR. I cannot believe you took such advantage of her after all the care and compassion she has shown you. Make this right. (And yes, that includes returning her money, even if she told you it's ok not to.)