Flameful confessions

[bullygirl979]

I am hanging out with a guy who is way older than me. I am not interested in dating him long term but he takes me out to nice dinners and pays every time. He also invites me out on his boat. So there is strong motivation to continue hanging with him at least until I get bored. I feel like a hoar. A HOAR I tell you! Lol...

[achase123]

I logged onto my match.com profile so I could show my mom that there are men in her desired age range who are cute and looking to date. It was fun because I think it gave her a lot of hope. I have a strong feeling that she will meet someone long before I do and I'm so happy for her because she deserves it, but I think I may be a little jealous too-haha!

P just started pre-school and I hate to brag but the kid is so.dang.smart! He has been singing his ABC's and counting to thirty (he gets some numbers wrong). We were over at BFF's house for dinner MOnday night and she was comparing him to another little boy his age that they know. She was saying that it's hard to understand the little guy when he talks and they're still working on potty training-which is totally normal. I told her that she's just comparing him to P, which kind of isn't fair because he's just advanced. And I feel badly for saying that about my own kid but everyone is always telling me that so I feel like it's kind of a fact. Still, I never want to be one of those braggy moms so I tend to not know what to say when someone remarks about it.

[Deleted]

My Dad bought me a trip, took me and my friends out to a fancy dinner and gave me cash to go shopping to distract me from my break-up from someone I was sort of dating for three months. The distraction totally works, but I recognize this is not a healthy coping mechanism, yet don't turn any of it down.

[emma245]

I feel the urge to email my EXH. One of my good friends and her boyfriend (who my EXH) loved got engaged. It totally made me all nostalgic and so weirded out that they are getting married now and the four of us used to hang out.....stop me!! hehe

[explorer2001]

I'm on codine. I have been in PAIN for over a week and the doctor's office response was if it hurts that bad go to the ER. I hate that response. You have my MRI results. You have seen me. You know what's going on. The ER is fucking expensive and they are only going to triage the issue anyway. So I self medicated with leftover codine from when I broke my leg. Go ahead flame away.

[Bernadine]

I still feel guilty for leaving xh. Like, his life will never be as good as it was with me, and I feel like I'm ruining his life.

[explorer2001]

Sept 5, 2012 11:45:01 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I still feel guilty for leaving xh. Like, his life will never be as good as it was with me, and I feel like I'm ruining his life.

You are likely right. Karma is going to kick his ass because he deserves it. That isn't your fault or your problem. Enjoy the good karma you earned. The universe has a way of sorting these things out. Pleased don't feel guilty.

[jojoandleo]

I took a coke out of our community fridge where you are supposed to throw like $.50 in or something. I don't have any money, so I STOLE it! I plan on putting 50cents in tomorrow, so it doesn't really matter, but I feel like a rebel!

The girl staying with me for a while told me she couldn't sleep last night and is soo tired, so she thinks she is sick. Uh...You didn't sleep last night, that's why you are tired! But, she has NEVER felt like this before. Yeah, welcome to the world of professional school-it's called stress, it keeps you from sleeping, makes you feel tired, gives you raging headaches, and that pit in your stomach. She stayed home form school. I rolled my eyes. Granted, she may very well be sick, but come on, who stays home due to being tired with a tummy ache when they are a freaking adult? Or, maybe I am just one of those people who can't call in.

*sigh* I am a bitch today.

[usedtobebear]

Sept 5, 2012 11:45:01 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I still feel guilty for leaving xh. Like, his life will never be as good as it was with me, and I feel like I'm ruining his life.

I feel like this a lot too, it sucks... thank goodness for counseling!

[usedtobebear]

I confess that I'm glad I haven't posted about my other indiscretions, you ladies are a tough crowd, lol!

[bullygirl979]

I just quickly scrolled through my FB feed and every other fucking post was a picture of the person's kid standing by the bus stop and the following caption "XXXXX is starting XXX grade today!"

That is awesome....but you know, I really don't fucking care. Flame away, flame away.

[bullygirl979]

Sept 5, 2012 12:25:37 GMT -5 usedtobebear said:

I confess that I'm glad I haven't posted about my other indiscretions, you ladies are a tough crowd, lol!

Now you have to. Thems the rules.

[chrissie3416]

My bff has been texting me and talking to me about the issues she is having with her bf, his x, and their kids. These are the same issues they have had for the last two years. While I love her dearly Im sick of listening about it...nothing is going to change unless you fools make some changes.

[doriswe]

Sept 5, 2012 12:26:29 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I just quickly scrolled through my FB feed and every other fucking post was a picture of the person's kid standing by the bus stop and the following caption "XXXXX is starting XXX grade today!"

That is awesome....but you know, I really don't fucking care. Flame away, flame away.

lmfao....well ignore my pictures later today!!!

[usedtobebear]

Sept 5, 2012 12:26:29 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I just quickly scrolled through my FB feed and every other fucking post was a picture of the person's kid standing by the bus stop and the following caption "XXXXX is starting XXX grade today!"

That is awesome....but you know, I really don't fucking care. Flame away, flame away.

Me too, I feel like every one on FB has a kindergartner!!

[bullygirl979]

Sept 5, 2012 12:39:11 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Sept 5, 2012 12:26:29 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I just quickly scrolled through my FB feed and every other fucking post was a picture of the person's kid standing by the bus stop and the following caption "XXXXX is starting XXX grade today!"

That is awesome....but you know, I really don't fucking care. Flame away, flame away.

lmfao....well ignore my pictures later today!!!

Dammit. As I wrote this I knew you would see it and respond. I am just being stabby Doris, don't pay attention to me. And post pictures of your cuties! They are cool kids so that makes it okay

[usedtobebear]

Sept 5, 2012 12:43:01 GMT -5 mp said:

For about 10 out of our 11 year relationship, exH & I were very unhealthy. I was loud & vocal, he was quiet & would go along with my flow (to a fault, there's nothing wrong with that if it works for some people). We've made pretty much everyone aware of the divorce, and I've gotten a lot of people doing the "poor ex" thing... defriending or blocking me on facebook and keeping him. I shouldn't care, but I do. His issues are quiet, hidden issues that I won't go around telling the world. My issues are visible for everyone to see, so everyone assumes I'm evil. The people that matter, know my heart. And I should be content with that. But I'm not. And I want to punch people in the face every time I get a "poor ex" look.

You know your own truth and that's all that matters!!

[usedtobebear]

Sept 5, 2012 12:26:51 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Sept 5, 2012 12:25:37 GMT -5 usedtobebear said:

I confess that I'm glad I haven't posted about my other indiscretions, you ladies are a tough crowd, lol!

Now you have to. Thems the rules.

I don't think I can take the backlash today, maybe another day when it's a Flamefree day instead of Flameful, ha ha!

[bullygirl979]

Sept 5, 2012 12:49:19 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Sept 5, 2012 12:46:58 GMT -5 usedtobebear said:

I don't think I can take the backlash today, maybe another day when it's a Flamefree day instead of Flameful, ha ha!

Confessions are never really flamefree. Or you know, you can just not to do things that are flameful.

Where is the fun in that?!?

[bullygirl979]

Sept 5, 2012 12:52:02 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Sept 5, 2012 12:49:55 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Where is the fun in that?!?

Confessions are only fun when they're juicy, not when they're all "woe is me, I'm not emotionally ready to date but I want to". Sex confessions never get old. Emotional confessions do. I'm tired of hearing people whine. I will never tire of truly shameful behavior

Yeah, I was more referring to sex and other types of debauchery

[Deleted]

Sept 5, 2012 12:52:02 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Sept 5, 2012 12:49:55 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Where is the fun in that?!?

Confessions are only fun when they're juicy, not when they're all "woe is me, I'm not emotionally ready to date but I want to". Sex confessions never get old. Emotional confessions do. I'm tired of hearing people whine. I will never tire of truly shameful behavior

Okay MCC I'll give you one, although it's not that juicy. So former dude has a friend who I am totally sexually attracted to and may have "accidently" made out with the same night dude and I decided to become physically exclusive (although it was before, by like an hour). So friend Facebook messaged me about something about wanting me to transfer my race registration I'm not doing to him. He was pretty friendly in his message and I sort of flirted back. I'm hoping he messages me back and at some point we have hot sex. (I promise this isn't to get back at Dude)

[usedtobebear]

Sept 5, 2012 12:52:02 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Sept 5, 2012 12:49:55 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Where is the fun in that?!?

Confessions are only fun when they're juicy, not when they're all "woe is me, I'm not emotionally ready to date but I want to". Sex confessions never get old. Emotional confessions do. I'm tired of hearing people whine. I will never tire of truly shameful behavior

Okay, I hooked up with an ex-BF from like 14 years ago way too soon after separating from my stbx and I really liked it and I think it actually helped me with my pending divorce and knowing I'm not sexually shut down forever and I am capable of being intimate with someone. I knew we would never be together, way too different but the sex was awesome and we were both on the same page. Zero regrets.
p.s. the funny part is I would make him park at the top of my street so my neighbors wouldn't get too nosey, he usually showed up after hours

[blondnearby]

I activated my account on POF the other day. I have no intentions of dating anytime soon but the flirty emails and the guys telling me I am beautiful is definitely a boost to my self esteem right now.

[achase123]

Sept 5, 2012 13:41:29 GMT -5 blondnearby said:

I activated my account on POF the other day. I have no intentions of dating anytime soon but the flirty emails and the guys telling me I am beautiful is definitely a boost to my self esteem right now.

Any updates with talking with the girls about what was going on?

[roselis]

Sept 5, 2012 12:43:01 GMT -5 mp said:

For about 10 out of our 11 year relationship, exH & I were very unhealthy. I was loud & vocal, he was quiet & would go along with my flow (to a fault, there's nothing wrong with that if it works for some people). We've made pretty much everyone aware of the divorce, and I've gotten a lot of people doing the "poor ex" thing... defriending or blocking me on facebook and keeping him. I shouldn't care, but I do. His issues are quiet, hidden issues that I won't go around telling the world. My issues are visible for everyone to see, so everyone assumes I'm evil. The people that matter, know my heart. And I should be content with that. But I'm not. And I want to punch people in the face every time I get a "poor ex" look.

Yea, That was me last year. My issues were very prevalent, while XH's were hidden. He could play people well, to the point people were supporting his affair. Then, he slipped up and people saw the real him and I got A LOT of apologies. You know the truth. Hold onto that.

[udscoobychick]

My parents are coming to visit at the end of October. I want them to meet BF. This time last year, they refused to meet him (we had been dating ~9 months at that point) because they didn't/don't approve of the relationship. BF and I decided that the best approach this year would be to assume that they will be meeting him and act like it, rather than making a big deal of asking them to meet him. So, I sent them an email that was all "BF and I are looking forward to your visit! We can't wait to go to the wine-tasting dinner with you." I received one back in short order that said "Please give us a call tomorrow night or this weekend...we need to talk about our visit." They're going to refuse again. I know it. I need to stand my ground, but I have never stood up to my parents before. I'm almost 26. This is flameful.

[redredwine]

I'm minutes away from (hopefully) selling XH's golf clubs (that I bought him) that he left behind. I finally got them out of storage when I moved...and they can now pay for the new snowboard I just bought myself.

Score!

[bullygirl979]

Sept 5, 2012 13:54:24 GMT -5 udscoobychick said:

My parents are coming to visit at the end of October. I want them to meet BF. This time last year, they refused to meet him (we had been dating ~9 months at that point) because they didn't/don't approve of the relationship. BF and I decided that the best approach this year would be to assume that they will be meeting him and act like it, rather than making a big deal of asking them to meet him. So, I sent them an email that was all "BF and I are looking forward to your visit! We can't wait to go to the wine-tasting dinner with you." I received one back in short order that said "Please give us a call tomorrow night or this weekend...we need to talk about our visit." They're going to refuse again. I know it. I need to stand my ground, but I have never stood up to my parents before. I'm almost 26. This is flameful.

Aww...Scooby, I am sorry! I really hope they don't refuse and show you guys the respect that you deserve

[bowies]

I fell asleep at my desk this morning. I'm here by myself today, so I didn't feel bad.

[dakotadangerdog]

Sept 5, 2012 13:54:24 GMT -5 udscoobychick said:

My parents are coming to visit at the end of October. I want them to meet BF. This time last year, they refused to meet him (we had been dating ~9 months at that point) because they didn't/don't approve of the relationship. BF and I decided that the best approach this year would be to assume that they will be meeting him and act like it, rather than making a big deal of asking them to meet him. So, I sent them an email that was all "BF and I are looking forward to your visit! We can't wait to go to the wine-tasting dinner with you." I received one back in short order that said "Please give us a call tomorrow night or this weekend...we need to talk about our visit." They're going to refuse again. I know it. I need to stand my ground, but I have never stood up to my parents before. I'm almost 26. This is flameful.

I think if my parents did that I wouldn't even meet up with them. Also, I had never stood up to my parents until I was 24 and was encouraged by my counselor. Believe me, it caused some tension at first but I feel a lot better now.