Hell no. I waited 5 months between XH and I deciding to divorce before I had my first FWB. I have a hard enough time going a few weeks without some fun. If I had to wait 6 months.... my friends would be begging me to go get laid.
Haha 6 months is ridic. I think it would be hard not to break up with someone if they insisted on waiting that long (I know that sounds bad but seriously). I the longest I have ever gone in a relationship before sex was 6 weeks and that was the one I lost my virginity in!
I waited 6 months before having sex with my high school BF. And it would have been a lot sooner if it hadn't been for that damn purity ring he insisted on wearing.
I always wonder if the people who wait til the night of their wedding ever discover they have absolutely NO chemistry with the person. I know that in some cases they don't actually kiss until their married. I think this was the case with Josh, the oldest Duggar child.
I always wonder if the people who wait til the night of their wedding ever discover they have absolutely NO chemistry with the person. I know that in some cases they don't actually kiss until their married. I think this was the case with Josh, the oldest Duggar child.
Yup, he saved his first kiss for the wedding day....and, well, everything else. I guess I just assume they'd have no clue if there wasn't any chemistry because they have nothing to compare it to, kwim?
Um, men can and do wait. Some people are not comfortable or ready to get into bed with folks they don't know and don't have a commitment with etc. If he's really into you, he will wait. Just like your mom told you back in high school. LOL
Gee thanks! More Ovaline please!
I think I just snorted.
six months is a long freaking time in this day and age. I'm just sayin'.
I'd like to see a man who would hang around while the woman held out on him for 6 months.
Um, men can and do wait. Some people are not comfortable or ready to get into bed with folks they don't know and don't have a commitment with etc. If he's really into you, he will wait. Just like your mom told you back in high school. LOL
I'm sure there are men out there who would and do wait, but as a sexually active woman, I wouldn't. If you are a virgin, yeah I totally get waiting, but it would be REEEEEEALLY hard if you are sexually active to be with someone SIX MONTHS without doing it. I guess I don't see the point. If it takes you 6 months to know someone, I think you are doing it wrong.
six months is a long freaking time in this day and age. I'm just sayin'.
Yeah, I'm sure there are people (men and women) who would wait 6 months, but I'm not one of those people and wouldn't want to date one either. As someone who had a passionless marriage, good sex is important to me and I'm not wasting 6 months on someone if there's not a good connection in bed.
I think someone thinks we're all a bunch of slores. Well if we're wrong, I don't want to be right.
D said he would wait as long as it was necessary... I'm calling BS, but I do think he would have easily waited three months. He said women really don't realize the power they have and should wait a bit more before putting out sometimes... the right men will respect it.
Yeah, I'm sure there are people (men and women) who would wait 6 months, but I'm not one of those people and wouldn't want to date one either. As someone who had a passionless marriage, good sex is important to me and I'm not wasting 6 months on someone if there's not a good connection in bed.
I think someone thinks we're all a bunch of slores. Well if we're wrong, I don't want to be right.
I guess my momma should have told me if a man respects me, he will wait. I had to learn that shit from Lifetime. No wonder I am a whore. I have no problem with OTHER PEOPLE waiting, to each their own, I just think it is unrealistic to expect MOST of the sexually active population to wait that long. This is how women start suspecting men of having a micro-peen.
D said he would wait as long as it was necessary... I'm calling BS, but I do think he would have easily waited three months. He said women really don't realize the power they have and should wait a bit more before putting out sometimes... the right men will respect it.
I think someone thinks we're all a bunch of slores. Well if we're wrong, I don't want to be right.
I guess my momma should have told me if a man respects me, he will wait. I had to learn that shit from Lifetime. No wonder I am a whore. I have no problem with OTHER PEOPLE waiting, to each their own, I just think it is unrealistic to expect MOST of the sexually active population to wait that long. This is how women start suspecting men of having a micro-peen.
The dreaded micro-peen. It's so terryifying. Thoughts of that or wondering if a guy is a virgin will and have caused me to break things off with someone before.
Post by udscoobychick on Sept 6, 2012 16:38:30 GMT -5
My sister has made her BF wait 4 years so far.... She's a virgin, but he's not. They've done oral and such, so it's not a complete dry spell, and I think you can get a decent sense of chemistry from sexual acts that don't necessarily have to include intercourse.
My sister has made her BF wait 4 years so far.... She's a virgin, but he's not. They've done oral and such, so it's not a complete dry spell, and I think you can get a decent sense of chemistry from sexual acts that don't necessarily have to include intercourse.
See, when I hear "wait 6 months" I included oral in that.
I was a virgin with my HS boyfriend for 3 years and he waited, but I think it is easier when one is a virgin, you can understand it more. If you are both sexually active it's like, "Well, why won't you sleep with ME!?! Is it something I did? How I smell? etc."
Yeah, I also tend toward not manipulating people with my vagina
He didn't mean it as a power play or that woman manipulate men with it... he meant it from the point of view that some women will put out in order to keep a guy interested, rather than respecting themselves and trusting in all of their other great qualities.
He has two daughters that he's trying to teach to respect themselves first and not put out so a boy will like you.
My sister has made her BF wait 4 years so far.... She's a virgin, but he's not. They've done oral and such, so it's not a complete dry spell, and I think you can get a decent sense of chemistry from sexual acts that don't necessarily have to include intercourse.
Out of curiosity how old is she? Being a virgin is more understandable, but as an adult I can't imagine 4 years without... no judging, just not for me.
6 months Hell naw! I don't think I have ever gone six months without sex after I lost my virginity. I don't have that kind of will power.
I've gone 2 years, thanks to the military for that. I haven't had any in over a year now.
It's doable and really not that bad, just sayin'.
I am sure it is doable, but for me, it really WOULD be that bad. Sorry, I like sex and I am not ashamed of it.
ETA-if my husband was deployed (he was discharged from the Marines in 2009 for an injury sustained in Iraq)-I would most certainly be able to hold out (with the help of BOB), but it would be hard and I would definitely jump him when he got home and expect to not leave the bed for AT LEAST a week.
Yeah, I also tend toward not manipulating people with my vagina
He didn't mean it as a power play or that woman manipulate men with it... he meant it from the point of view that some women will put out in order to keep a guy interested, rather than respecting themselves and trusting in all of their other great qualities.
He has two daughters that he's trying to teach to respect themselves first and not put out so a boy will like you.
Sorry about using the wrong word!
I totally get what you are saying here-it is NOT good to put out just because a guy pressures you. I can agree with that and it is a good lesson for a teenager.
However, as a grown woman, I should be able to choose when I have sex. Be that the first date, or six months (not me! lol) and a guy should respect that choice regardless of which I choose. I shouldn't be judged for being sexually adventurous and told that I should wait. (I get this was NOT what you meant, but felt the need to get on my soap box about slut-shaming being bad-so this is NOT aimed at you.)