It finally happened

[drloretta]

Someone asked if I was DD's grandmother

[CrazyLucky]

I'm sorry. That happens to me more than I like. I don't really mind the first time they ask. "Is she yours?" "Yes, she sure is!" It's the follow up. "Really?" Yes, really, asshole. I had her at 36, I'm not ancient. So far, I have not blown up at anyone, but if someone asks me on the wrong day, it's going to happen.

Try not to let it bother you!

[hisno1girl]

Luschek, more power to you girl because I'm turning 48 in a few weeks and the idea of having a little one like that makes my uterus clench!

[TBM]

Aug 18, 2016 8:49:19 GMT -5 CrazyLucky said:

I'm sorry. That happens to me more than I like. I don't really mind the first time they ask. "Is she yours?" "Yes, she sure is!" It's the follow up. "Really?" Yes, really, asshole. I had her at 36, I'm not ancient. So far, I have not blown up at anyone, but if someone asks me on the wrong day, it's going to happen.

Try not to let it bother you!

I used to have people ask me that about my youngest, but it was because she looked nothing like my older daughter and I, and wasn't an age thing.




My older daughter's classmates in school all seemed to have parents that were at least 10 yrs older than us, and we were snubbed a lot and comments made, like we must have been teen parents or something, when really we were close to mid 20s when we had our kids (not that it should have made a difference).  They never seemed to get asked if they were grandparents though, so maybe it was the area.  I know people were surprised that I was not my grandsons mother when we lived in CA, because so many mothers were around my age, and my daughter was in her 20s, so it wasn't like I was that young.

People are stupid.

[drloretta]

It blew me away, because it was an older man, so he should have known better. He started out with, "Is she your daughter?" And then HAD to keep going with, "Or granddaughter? I never can tell these days." He should have stopped while he was ahead.

I'm 47 but look 10 years younger, so it felt doubly insulting

[mryrcn]

Oh my I'm sorry. People just don't think before opening their mouths sometimes.

[mrsukyankee]

That stinks. I would hate that. He clearly has no clue.

[Gato]

Eh.  I'm 47 with a 4 year old.  I wouldn't blame anyone if they assumed I'm the grandmother.

I found it way more insulting back when I was 19 and a nanny, and people would give me dirty looks because they thought I was the mother.

[barefootcontessa]

what a moron.

[Deleted]

My mom had me at 38. My sister was 15. People routinely thought I was my sister's baby. My mom had full gray and a white streak by the time she was 35. Once she started dying her hair, people didn't ask if I was her granddaughter. My mom looks much younger than her age now. It's like she stopped aging at 45/50.


ETA: I'm lost. Wrong board! 

[kittycatlove]

People suck.

Though I'm pretty sure it will happen to me at some point since I'm 47 with a 5 year old.

[Shreddingbetty]

Where I live a lot of women are dying to be grandparents at the age of 40 (and lots of them are).. I'm 43 with a 6y/o but I look pretty young so haven't had anyone say that so far. Interestingly enough despite all the really young mothers in this town most of DD's friends' parents are older so that's kind of nice

[moolarkey]

We ran in to some long-time friends this weekend. They whipped out their phones to show us their grandchild, they thought they would never be grandparents. Their 48 year-old daughter just gave birth 10 days ago. She does look great, young for her age. She's the 2nd woman I know to give birth at 48.

[missyny]

That sucks. I feel your pain. Been there.

FUCK THEM!!!

[Pom]

Why don't people have filters?