Post by sillygoosegirl on Aug 24, 2016 9:06:12 GMT -5
- Get up too damn early every single day. - Plan my life around naptime and bedtime. - Make LO her own meals. - Insist on wearing clothing and shoes. - Use baby talk (well, Motherese anyway). - Used containment devices a lot more than planned (though I am seriously considering getting rid of most of them before having another baby, because I do still think they caused us more trouble than they saved). - Had a baby with a food intolerance. - Actively encourage bad behavior (oops). - Stopped believing that babies always have a solvable reason for crying and that they only have needs, not wants.
The sleep and food ones especially still drive me batty.
Co-sleeping, BFing beyond 6 months, BFing beyond a year
TBH though I wasn't against any of these things just didn't think I would. In general I don't have any major "will do this/won't do this" expectations.
Post by chickadee77 on Aug 24, 2016 9:10:55 GMT -5
In my defense, before having a kid, I was pretty careful to never say never out loud.
The only thing I've caved on so far (we're still early, though!) is feeding her a separate meal. That is more because H and I cook and eat together after she goes to bed (which is ridiculously early - we just can't cook and have a full meal ready at 5pm so she can go to bed at 6). Right now, I'm okay with it, and we do all sit at the table (usually) to eat - it's just that we have a small snack while she has dinner. I'm hoping when (if) she starts staying up a little later, this will change; and, on the few days she HAS stayed up a little later, we absolutely start the cooking process with her around.
I still don't judge other parenting styles, though - kids are so different, and even if we have a second, I know that things that worked for L may not for hypothetical #2.
I was always like, "I'll just put whatever in front of her and let her choose" so as not to give her eating issues or whatever. Now I find myself begging her to eat a vegetable sometimes or rewarding her for eating a vegetable.
I was going to do BLW and mostly not do purees, turns out baby still mostly only eats purees at 10.5 months. I thought I would be more about a schedule, but because DD is pretty adaptable, I like having a looser routine. Bedtime is pretty set, but naptimes move around on the weekends as needed. I think a lot of the stuff I didn't think I would do is yet to come as she gets older.
I thought I'd lose the PP weight faster, but I'm still holding on to it. DS already gets some TV time as well. It's just PBS kids, but I didn't think I'd be doing that.
Bottles past 1 Ferber Have so much (needed & wanted) grandparent help EP for 14 months. I thought I didn't care about giving Dd breastmilk until I wasn't able get Dd to nurse. I always said I would give breastfeeding a shot and go right to formula if it didn't work out.
- Pump at work for any significant period of time - BF, especially EBF, after returning to work from ML - Hang onto baby weight for longer than I was pregnant
I swore we would eat "one family meal" or I would do the whole "you can have cereal" like my parents told me. HAHAHAHA. Most nights I just want her to eat something and will run down a list of options.
I thought we were past the co-sleeping point and yet here we are at 3, having her crawl into our bed sometimes at 4am, esp weekends. (I secretly love the snuggles, so I don't really GAF at this point.)
I thought I'd get back to my pre-pregnancy fitness level faster and at least be able to run a half marathon by now.
I also thought I'd be more laid back about pumping and if it didn't work out, whatever, I'd just give her formula. in reality I had no chill on this front.
never thought I'd plan my day around naps/bedtime.
and I thought we wouldn't use pouches or kid 'junk food' (puffs, mum mums, goldfish crackers, etc). she has consumed all of the aforementioned items and her afternoon snack usually consists of some kind of kid junk food + milk.
Post by moopoint17 on Aug 24, 2016 10:19:19 GMT -5
Cosleeping (I hate it, but at least I can sleep) Screen time (yay free babysitter) Start both kids in school before 3 (I'm delaying DS2 because of his food allergies and asthma - kinda irrational, I know)
Post by Queen Mamadala on Aug 24, 2016 10:35:15 GMT -5
There isn't much, really. I have a different attitude and understanding of certain behaviors now than I did pre-kids. Like I'd roll my eyes so hard when I saw kids throw tantrums, and did the typical "Not when I have kids" because that was just a knee-jerk reaction I grew up with. No giving Johnny to the count of five to pick up the cheerios he threw. I would have none of that 'cause my parents had little tolerance for that behavior. (my dad and stepmom are old school about their views on discipline)
My attitude started to change when DD1 was nearing 2.
I planned to co-sleep, nurse to sleep, cloth diaper, baby-wear, and other "AP" things because these were practices I observed when my mom had my sister and they were just normal to me. I'm pretty breezy as it is, and there was no real push against screen time back then, and even now, don't care.
I also paid $20 for a stupid rubber giraffe (Sophie). WTF?
Yep.
Wait. I thought I'd be more frugal than I am. Like pre-kids, paying $200 for a baby carrier or over $1500 on cloth diapers and accessories (for three kids), or older kids having their own tablets, gaming consoles, smart phones!? When I couldn't even get a pager at 16, and I had a tracfone at 17? Say what!?
I can hear my mama saying "I'm not paying x for that. Nope." I still do it, but it depends on what it is. Like DD1 eyeing a $17 three ring binder. No-go. But a $20 Sophie? Totally. Ruby still likes Sophie. She's all busted up now.
I can't think of many. So far, I parent pretty much as I expected. But, I did say I wouldn't spend a bunch of money on kid's clothes because they outgrow them so quickly. Which was true when they were babies, but by the time they hit about 18mos that changed and now I spend a lot more than I expected! But I love, Love, shopping for my kids!!
I also never thought I'd give them a happy meal at this age but Thursday night music class = get home late with 3 starving kids = pick up a happy meal some weeks.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Aug 24, 2016 11:10:38 GMT -5
So many things! I was surprised that things changed with each kid too. I guess I thought I had it figured out with dd1, but ds1 is a completely different person. Go figure.
Pacifier use past 1. I didn't take away ds1's pacifier until he turned 2. Cosleeping Sleep training. I haven't done this yet, but I'm looking into it. Having two babies that don't sleep is so hard. Yelling. Why do I have to lose my shit for you to listen dd1? Obsess about ebf Obsess about ebf again Not bf