Post by estrellita on Sept 7, 2016 13:00:06 GMT -5
I was trying to type randoms and it auto corrected to that. I'm leaving it! Lol
We got tickets at our work meeting today and I got a bunch for recognition plus my team won our round of Family Feud! So I "spent" my tickets on a Fitbit Flex! Yay! My Fitbit was broken and I stopped using it a while ago so I'm excited about this!
Post by luv2rn4fun on Sept 7, 2016 13:09:45 GMT -5
Just got home from my appointment. My OB laughingly said nothing will be coming out of my cervix anytime soon. It was hilarious the way she said it...why am I not surprised. Sorry HoneySpiderMrsMB...i highly doubt this LO will be sharing any WC birthdays. I told my OB I will see her in 3 weeks (she is OOT for my next two appointments).
She also said a tubal is a possibility of I have a RCS. I thought it was something they would not do so it has been off the table. DH says he is firmly done and would love for me to have this done. Now I am debating what to do (and whether to even mention this to him)...i don't feel done (but maybe will once LO is here) but DH is not budging on in his stance so it seems like a mute point...and we can't agree on BC (condoms are not an option and I would prefer non hormonal) and I can see this being an issue where we don't have sex, which is not something I want long term. Ugh...decisions decisions.
Just got home from my appointment. My OB laughingly said nothing will be coming out of my cervix anytime soon. It was hilarious the way she said it...why am I not surprised. Sorry HoneySpiderMrsMB ...i highly doubt this LO will be sharing any WC birthdays. I told my OB I will see her in 3 weeks (she is OOT for my next two appointments).
She also said a tubal is a possibility of I have a RCS. I thought it was something they would not do so it has been off the table. DH says he is firmly done and would love for me to have this done. Now I am debating what to do (and whether to even mention this to him)...i don't feel done (but maybe will once LO is here) but DH is not budging on in his stance so it seems like a mute point...and we can't agree on BC (condoms are not an option and I would prefer non hormonal) and I can see this being an issue where we don't have sex, which is not something I want long term. Ugh...decisions decisions.
that is a hard decision. one thing I want to mention, and it won't make it easier... my state has a requirement that you have to sign a sterilization consent 30 days prior to it being done. so something to think about, or check your state's regs on that.
Just got home from my appointment. My OB laughingly said nothing will be coming out of my cervix anytime soon. It was hilarious the way she said it...why am I not surprised. Sorry HoneySpiderMrsMB ...i highly doubt this LO will be sharing any WC birthdays. I told my OB I will see her in 3 weeks (she is OOT for my next two appointments).
She also said a tubal is a possibility of I have a RCS. I thought it was something they would not do so it has been off the table. DH says he is firmly done and would love for me to have this done. Now I am debating what to do (and whether to even mention this to him)...i don't feel done (but maybe will once LO is here) but DH is not budging on in his stance so it seems like a mute point...and we can't agree on BC (condoms are not an option and I would prefer non hormonal) and I can see this being an issue where we don't have sex, which is not something I want long term. Ugh...decisions decisions.
that is a hard decision. one thing I want to mention, and it won't make it easier... my state has a requirement that you have to sign a sterilization consent 30 days prior to it being done. so something to think about, or check your state's regs on that.
Thank you...she said it is a 3 day consent process. Still something to think about since I can technically go into labor at any moment (37w2d).
ETA: I just googled...there is a 30 day wait but I can waive it as little as 72 hrs. I can also decide at the last minute not to have it done. Still not an easy decision.
remember that you can always have it done later. my sister wasn't 100% sure they were done done until her daughter was 2. she had a tubal last summer. it was a day surgery, so she was back home that night. granted, she had 2 vag deliveries, and I know the thinking when it's a scheduled c/s is "well, while we're in here..." but don't let the fact that you'll already be open on the table make your decision for you. if you/your DH is not ready to make that decision, then delay it.
I am going into work at 530 tonight until 9 training the new girl again. I've been lounging all morning. I need to get my ass in gear and be productive!!!!
remember that you can always have it done later. my sister wasn't 100% sure they were done done until her daughter was 2. she had a tubal last summer. it was a day surgery, so she was back home that night. granted, she had 2 vag deliveries, and I know the thinking when it's a scheduled c/s is "well, while we're in here..." but don't let the fact that you'll already be open on the table make your decision for you. if you/your DH is not ready to make that decision, then delay it.
I guess the hard part for me is believing DH when he says he is done. Even though I am not, the fact that he is and is adamant makes it feel like we are done regardless of I am not.
And, if we could agree on a BC method then I would easily go that route. Maybe I just need to suck it up and do an IUD and push him for a vasectomy if that is what he wants. We need to talk more...i tried this weekend but he keeps dancing around the issue and not really making head way on a decision (outside of no more kids...which I can see leading to no more sex if we can't figure this out).
Post by estrellita on Sept 7, 2016 15:14:46 GMT -5
luv2rn4fun Honestly, I wouldn't do something permanent unless you're sure. Not just of not having more kids, but being ok with using alternate methods if you do want more after (adoption, surrogate, etc). I hope you're able to come to an agreement!
Post by melsamoony on Sept 7, 2016 15:31:39 GMT -5
luv2rn4fun that is so tough! I have skyla (low dose mirena) and it is really easy. I dont have the side effects i had with the pill.
I am going through withdrawal from a series I just finished the last book of. I think there will be more books but they havent been written yet. It bums me out
luv2rn4fun I commented on GP but I agree with pooh8402. I say wait, wait, wait! If you're not 100%, then the answer is no. There are TONS of scenarios that could involve you having another child. Sometimes unthinkable things happen like men change their mind or marriages dissolve and women want a child with a new man (I know that's a super awful thing to say but I've seen it happen often enough).
I know BC in general sucks but there are options like copper IUDs.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Sept 7, 2016 16:43:36 GMT -5
Thank you ladies, really appreciate your support and feedback! It's funny because before we started TTC, for years I said I would have my tubes tied if given a chance after two kids. I was adamant about two, DH and I talked "but what if we had two girls" (He knew I was biased towards boys before our losses, then it REALLY did not matter gender wise), etc. I was firmly done with two. And then we had two losses and at some point along the way I was open to three (if we did IVF I wanted to transfer 3 in the hopes of having 2- 3).
I have to admit I was more ok with being done with just C than I am right now. Not sure why and have a feeling that if this one was a girl it would be easier to say we are done, even though I am thrilled to be having another boy and can't really imagine being a girl mom. I think closing the door completely feels like a lot right now.
MrsAggie- I have thought about copper IUD and then I am scared my periods will suck. Any insight?
melsamoony- I will ask and see if that is an option as well. Thank You! Right now my options are diaphragm, mirena, copper, or abstinence. As confident as I feel in my NFL skills I would hate for an oops knowing DH is admamently against a 3rd.
Thank you ladies, really appreciate your support and feedback! It's funny because before we started TTC, for years I said I would have my tubes tied if given a chance after two kids. I was adamant about two, DH and I talked "but what if we had two girls" (He knew I was biased towards boys before our losses, then it REALLY did not matter gender wise), etc. I was firmly done with two. And then we had two losses and at some point along the way I was open to three (if we did IVF I wanted to transfer 3 in the hopes of having 2- 3).
I have to admit I was more ok with being done with just C than I am right now. Not sure why and have a feeling that if this one was a girl it would be easier to say we are done, even though I am thrilled to be having another boy and can't really imagine being a girl mom. I think closing the door completely feels like a lot right now.
MrsAggie- I have thought about copper IUD and then I am scared my periods will suck. Any insight?
melsamoony- I will ask and see if that is an option as well. Thank You! Right now my options are diaphragm, mirena, copper, or abstinence. As confident as I feel in my NFL skills I would hate for an oops knowing DH is admamently against a 3rd.
I have heard they can make your periods heavier and some people cramp a little more but it's dependent on the person. I couldn't pull the trigger on a BC method after W but this time I figure I'm going to give one a try and if I don't like it, I'll just have it removed and try something else. I'm leaning towards Mirena because the hormones will treat my PCOS symptoms but my doctor strongly recommended Paraguard (copper) last time.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Sept 7, 2016 17:11:23 GMT -5
MrsAggie- we did not use anything either and DS2 was planned. I really liked not having my period for 9 months (due to BFing). But now with 2 so close in age and DH feeling how he is then we need to decide on something. Mirena is appealing since I have heard no periods over time. Diaphragm makes a little sense since we hardly have sex anyways. I was on the pill before TTC and did not have issues but really do not trust remembering it every day, same time of day when i am sleep deprived and busy taking care of 2 kids.
I think I will email my OB and ask her advice given breastfeeding etc (she also said some methods would not work for me because they could make PPD/A symptoms more intense and I struggled with that after C).
Post by melsamoony on Sept 7, 2016 17:37:07 GMT -5
MrsAggie and luv2rn4fun i had skyla inserted 6 weeks postpartum and did not have any problems with supply after it was inserted. It is lower dose hormones than mirena and only lasts 3 years vs 5.
I still get a light period and mild, mild cramping. I havr had it for almost 2 years.
That's a tough decision luv2rn4fun. Even though H and I are both sure we are done are two, I'm still nervous to make such a permanent decision. I hope that you're able to find a solution that works for both you and your H.
And for those who want to know, I had the mirena inserted at 7 weeks pp. No effect on my milk supply (it's been great). I had a light period at 5.5 months pp, then spotting off and on for a few more months, and now at 13 months pp, I haven't had any spotting in at least 2 months. No emotional/mental side effects I'm aware of, though my sex drive is low. Not sure if that is IUD-related or breastfeeding-related. I do have mild cramps every few weeks, I'm assuming those are PMS.
luv2rn4fun - If your only concern with hormonal BC is remembering to take a pill every day, you might want to look into the Nexplanon implant. I've had mine for two years and it's been great (aside from issues that are directly related to my other health issues and wouldn't be applicable to you).
luv2rn4fun - If your only concern with hormonal BC is remembering to take a pill every day, you might want to look into the Nexplanon implant. I've had mine for two years and it's been great (aside from issues that are directly related to my other health issues and wouldn't be applicable to you).
My friend has (had?) this and she liked it, but she thinks it made her gain weight. I personally think it was the tons of Mountain Dew she was drinking every day, but who knows
luv2rn4fun : I know I'm basically reiterating what everyone is saying but don't do anything permanent if you're not 100% sure. I do agree with MrsAggie in the unfortunate case of partner death, some people want to have more children with their next partner. When I was researching BC, a diaphragm was my preferred method. I unfortunately couldn't use one so we settled for condoms (sorry not very helpful) but if the rest of the BC methods make you nervous, it might be worth a shot.
travelbug ,MrsMB : It's a profile setting. You can show or hide your sex/gender.
*pregnancy related* Sneaking this in here because I feel like I've been holding out on you guys... I'm pregnant and due in March!