I absolutely love my new job, but I'm kinda in the "wtf did I get myself into" mindset right now. I went from a cushy job where I barely worked to this crazy busy job where I normally work 12 hour days. 2 days ago I worked from 8am to 1am. I am exhausted. I can't believe I'm working so much more for only $2k extra per year.
My sister actually took a 15K pay cut to go work elsewhere so she wasn't doing 12-16 hour days for half the month (accounting). So I couldn't even imagine doing that for only 2K extra. Time to lean in if you love your job.
jerseyjaybird, I am so glad to "see" you! Hugs, I am sorry you and winnied, RockNVoll, and ssmjlm and anyone else I've left out are struggling at work. For everyone the group having a hard time with it all, I'm keeping you guys in my thoughts and hope it gets better soon.
My community here had a BLM poster stolen. We're also having a lot of conversations about food insecurity. All of this just makes my heart heavy. I desperately want to see the good in people, but I'm struggling to find that right now.
Archery is going great, I shot my personal best Saturday at a tournament. Arrow is just the cutest dog, but I need to find a trainer because she's showing a lot of aggression when I have someone come into my home.
We closed on our house refinancing 2 weeks ago. I persuaded DH not to put in quite as much $$ as he wanted to originally, so we only put in the minimum to qualify for the refinance. He says he is comfortable not making any more prepayments until we move out of this house, so let's see if that lasts. He has held up his end of the agreement to do regular monthly investments into ETFs, and has been doing that since we came to agreement. Though I'm concerned about the increase in our monthly "nut" as my dad fondly calls PITI, I think we'll be OK. I must repeatedly thank everyone on the board who responded to my questions -- DH read all of the replies and after he got over his "i'm not taking advice from internet strangers" nonsense, I think the advice really sunk in. I'm so grateful to have this board, for many reasons.
DD2 is due in 10 days. I'm still working through next Thursday, theoretically, because September is a 3 paycheck month for me and I don't want to "miss out" on that $$. I'm mostly concerned about DD1 and how she's going to handle not being the center of everyone's world like she is now. And, you know, I'm concerned about me surviving 2u2, especially because I've been questioning whether I have some ante-partum depression this time around. I just feel off in a way I didn't feel off with DD1. Even DH is noticing it so I'm trying to monitor myself. Given the news of late, I feel so sad to be bringing children into a world that seems so full of hate and ugliness. And trying to figure out how I can help them be better than me.
SAH vs. going back to work is still weighing heavily, but I'm letting it ride for now until the new year, when I'll have a better sense of myself.
In positive news, although we've been bleeding money recently, most of our major home improvement items have been ticked off and there's only a few small-ish project to tackle in 2017, so that will be a financial drain we won't have. And it looks like summer may finally be letting go here in NJ, and fall is such a lovely time to be outside and feel rejuvenated.
I think that I nailed that school interview that I posted about yesterday. I'll know Monday. I did pretty well at another interview last week and should hear from them next week as well, so I'm feeling slightly confident that I will be employed again soon.
We had our first dinner over at mom's new apartment.
Good things: babyniq and grandmother were happy to see each other
Things that were hard: mom's place is just too full of stuff. Lots of the stuff is a toddler accident waiting to happen. We'll see if things get better once she's done unpacking and placing everything. mom bought a book of kid's stories, but her eyesight wasn't good enough to read it with the available lighting I look forward to the day babyniq knows when it's time to be still/calm poor msniq had to lug a giant pizza box of leftovers on the bus home (I had babyniq in the bike trailer) She basically had no energy to do anything, but that was mostly expected. Again, hopefully that improves once she's done unpacking etc.
Basically it was the kind of night that makes me sad, in that I feel like our visits are going to be like this for the next 5+ years.
Lessons learned * bring containers for leftovers * get mom some large-print children's books and/or more lighting (well, she'll probably take care of the other one on her own)
steph96, is that something that absolutely HAS to happen? Those hours don't seem sustainable or healthy. I'm happy you like your new job, but I'd be really mindful to not set the precedent of working those hours.
I don't think it will be this bad when I'm on my own. Right now I'm still training with the CFO and everyone keeps interrupting us to ask questions so things that should take 10 minutes end up taking 30+ minutes. So once I can be on my own I don't think 12 hour days will be normal. The last few days have been really rough because it's our busiest time of year. I am pretty sure that I will only have 2 weeks a year where I have to work THAT much.
This is all really petty, especially in light of recent events:
The family event I mentioned last week went over well. My mom and brother got into a small argument but it really wasn't a big deal. MH helped me put a lot of things into perspective and kept me from being dramatic. And some aspects went over better than I thought they would.
We saw an RE last month. I have to call them soon to arrange an HSG test - I've heard it's quick but uncomfortable. We're both getting really frustrated.
That Lands' End dress I ordered recently (black sheath with pockets) was super unflattering. I'm going OOT to a conference next week so I have to return that dress this weekend and maybe look for something else.
MH is just the worst when it comes to keeping secrets. I mentioned maybe wanting to take up painting a couple months ago. Since then he's said several times that I ought to start painting. Then last night we were watching TV and someone mentioned the word "birthday" and then he spontaneously said, "Hey, you know what you should do? Take up painting." So I'll be shocked if I don't get a painting set for my birthday next month, lol.
I'm looking forward to my haircut appointment on Saturday!
@kirkette enjoy your weekend. I hope it is free of annoyances.
mbcdefg I was wondering this weekend how your event went. I am glad it went well all things considered. Hugs for having to take the next steps with the RE.
mbcdefg I was wondering this weekend how your event went. I am glad it went well all things considered. Hugs for having to take the next steps with the RE.
One of the "prizes" was my brother's friend, who volunteered to raffle off a date with himself and my mom provided a Visa gift card too. I was wondering how this was going to go because it seemed like an awkward idea, with either some random person winning the date or nobody bidding on it. My brother got up to introduce his friend and rib him a bit, then their other friend pulled out the winning ticket ... and my brother's girlfriend was the winner. LOL. That was actually the funniest way that could've ended. (She said the three of them will just use the money to go out together.) She also won the 50/50 raffle, lucky girl.
mbcdefg, OMG that's pretty funny how that worked out! I totally thought you were going to say that he ended up going on a date with a friend of your mom's or something.
mbcdefg , OMG that's pretty funny how that worked out! I totally thought you were going to say that he ended up going on a date with a friend of your mom's or something.
A couple of them really wanted to win, apparently!
Stan, I'm so happy you're loving SA, and I am outraged about your other post.
@kirkette, enjoy your trip! Santa Cruz is one of my favorite places. You're seriously going to one of the most beautiful regions on Earth. Even if you don't love hiking, just look around and take it all in and find peace.
Pom, sucks that there's continued uncertainty for Mr. P. Ugh. Hang in there.
idahome, that all sounds so ridiculous. I hope you get some resolution about the surgery soon.
bostonmichelle, you're a rockstar for even attempting to train for a marathon while PG!
raangoli, have you thought about seeing a therapist to talk out everything that's happened with BB? It's not too late and it might help you get some resolution.
Stan, I am so sorry. He can go fuck himself, and you're better off w/o him.
@kirkette, have a great weekend!
Hugs mbcdefg. Making the RE appointment is one of the hardest things to do, but I hope you're able to get some answers and a treatment path. PM if you have any questions, I've been down that path myself and feel quite the IF veteran.
Thanks everyone! I got through to the business office at the center where my procedure will be performed. The down payment is set up, but without any help from the person I spoke with on Tuesday. Why is that, you ask, because the woman went on vacation. I'm all for vacations, but she knew I planned to call the next morning. Why didn't she mention that fact. Plus her voicemail said nothing about vacation. I was hot, but it's fixed now. I will definitely talk about this on my customer satisfaction survey.
But, seriously, thanks all for the kind/supportive thoughts and words. They are much appreciated!
Post by mainelyfoolish on Sept 23, 2016 7:08:45 GMT -5
Trying to keep my head above water with the new school year normal and not doing so well. DD has after school activities on three to four nights of the week during the time our family normally eats dinner, so figuring out how and when to feed everyone has been challenging. I'm one of DD's Girl Scout troop leaders but my co-leader is having her own family medical issues to deal with so 100% of that work has fallen on me. DD is going to either her doctor, therapist, and/or orthodontist every week or two and it's almost impossible to get after school appointments, so I'm juggling taking her out of school with DS's three morning a week preschool schedule. Every time I turn around I am paying another co-pay for an office visit or prescription and we have no insurance coverage for orthodontia, so that's been a big money suck. Tiny MM win: I found a coupon online that saved me $20 off my co-pay for DD's prescription.
Hugs to everyone else going through a rough patch!
Post by ellipses84 on Sept 23, 2016 21:48:08 GMT -5
It's my birthday week, a big year, and I'm feeling a little depressed about it. I got the results of my genetic testing back and it was bad news. I tested positive for the BRCA2 gene mutation, which means I will probably need a complete hysterectomy and mastectomy in the next 5 years.
I'm probably going to make a poor mm decision and buy something nice to cheer myself up this weekend.
I thought DH would be working late and he called me mid-day and said the Good News is I'm on my way home...I was like what is the BAD NEWS?!!! I thought he was going to say he got fired or something. He was like, there's no bad news... I realized, so many awful things have happened this year that I'm just bracing myself for more bad news all the time. We are approaching my dad's bday and the anniversary of his death, which was the start of a terrible year, with four other family members/friends passing away, our house flooding and health issues with family members that led to the genetic testing. I'm really hoping next year will be a better year. I know I have two wonderful children to be thankful for.
I'm debating about taking a social media break. All of the awfulness of the past year has sidelined a professional goal of mine, and I really want to finish it before the end of the year. I'm thinking that could free up the time to work on it and be the motivation to get it done.
Post by ellipses84 on Sept 23, 2016 22:02:45 GMT -5
idahome That is frustrating. Is pre-approval the problem? If so, it may come through at the last minute, if not, they can probably put you on a payment plan.
idahome That is frustrating. Is pre-approval the problem? If so, it may come through at the last minute, if not, they can probably put you on a payment plan.
The pre approval part was fine. They don't take payment plans into account until after the bill has gone through insurance. The frustrating part: only 1 person sets these downpayments up and she went on vacation (failed to mention that when she called me). Luckily I talked to someone yesterday who was able to help.
alleinesein That is awesome! I often hired temps permanently and promoted them, so I will be crossing my fingers for you.
This is a political campaign so if our candidate wins I hope that they will keep some of us on to staff the local office or the dc office. I am keeping my fingers crossed!!