M, such huge hugs for you and the kids and M. How can we help you? You do everything for everyone, please accept help Can I pay my babysitter to come give you a break? I actually have 2 there now (sisters!)
Post by thedahliharpa on Oct 20, 2016 9:32:02 GMT -5
Oh gosh, Cream, my heart sunk when I saw the preview of the post. I'm so glad you guys made the decision to seek this type help but I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm sorry he's going through this. He is such a loving husband and father and all around great guy and I hope he is back home with you soon. He and your kids are so lucky to have you. You guys will be o.k. Hugs. Please let me know if you need anything.
I am so sorry. Big hugs to you and your whole family. I think it's really good that you are getting him treatment although I know it must be really hard
I'm so sorry M. I wish I was as eloquent as you are right now so i could word this better. You are an amazing family and I truly wish we could make all of this go away for you all and scoop you all up and bring you back home. Please know you aren't alone, we are all here anytime.
Post by charlielove on Oct 20, 2016 10:56:15 GMT -5
I'm so glad he is getting the help he needs. I hope this helps give him the tools he needs to start recovering. You are such a supportive partner to him. Matt and your family are in my thoughts. PLEASE let us know if there is anything we can do.
Oh M, I'm so sorry, friend. I hope this helps him. You have so much on your plate, but know that we're all here for you. Sending you so much strength and love. Whatever we can do to help, I'm in.
Post by creamsiclechica on Oct 20, 2016 11:23:52 GMT -5
All of you have always been there for me, for us both in a way I can't articulate. Both in an incredibly supportive and encouraging role, but also in a very physical way in our times of need and celebration. You help and have helped immensely over the course of these years we've all been together.
I got a reasonable amount of sleep last night and I feel better and more able to face the day. I am permitted to drop some things off for him in the evening, and I think I can see and visit with him for a short time then too. And he can call out at certain times, or if he feels he's in crisis. So that's very reassuring. Right now, this is a temporary stay, so he should only be in until Monday, but it can be longer if they determine it. I think it's a triggering event that has led to a total breakdown of all things he's been trying to manage, and for lack of a better explanation, he's hard a very difficult life, beginning at childhood, and his injuries and experience are right now sort of convoluted and impossible to separate. He was not determined to be a danger, not to himself or others, but just at a point he very obviously needs a break. Please don't quote.
But thank you all so much for everything, your kind words and you affirmation that this is the right thing. Sometimes it's so hard to know. But I'm grateful he recognized it and chose it, and also that he has many people to support him in his decision too. I love you guys.
I'm so sorry. That is an incredibly hard decision to make but it seems that you know it was the right thing to do. I hope this helps him. Huge hugs to you all.
Post by onehitwonder on Oct 20, 2016 14:05:50 GMT -5
Sending you so many hugs. I hope that he receives the treatment and break he needs to get all of you through this difficult time. You are always so strong and have such an enormous amount of love that I know there is a light at the end of this tunnel. Take care of yourself and let your many friends carry you if you need a hand or an ear, too.
I'm so sorry you guys have this on your plate right now. I really commend Matt and you for getting the help he needs. Its a huge step towards getting well and being in a better place. You are so strong, supportive, wise, and kind. I hope we can be that for you now.
Sending you so many hugs and good thoughts for Matt during his treatment.
I'm so sorry things are so difficult right now. I admire that he's willing to acknowledge he needs help, and that you're able to support him in it. We're here for you with anything you need and you all will be in my prayers.
Post by gamecockgirl74 on Oct 21, 2016 9:24:38 GMT -5
Oh, cream I am so, so sorry to see this and to hear that Matt is struggling. I am praying with every thing I have for you and your precious family. Yall have been through so much. Love you, friend.
Thank you for reaching out, because we would never know. Sending prayers for both of you, and I'm proud of both of you for getting him into this program. I cannot imagine what the aftermath of war would do to a person. I wish we could all fly out and give you hugs. Love you to pieces.
You are such a strong woman Cream. I cannot imagine how run everything every day. I think of you often, I hope he can get the help he needs and return home.
I'm sorry to hear this, Cream. I really hope that you can work through things and get back to a good place as quickly as possible. I'll keep both of you in my thoughts.
Post by creamsiclechica on Oct 22, 2016 11:06:48 GMT -5
Thank you all so much for the support and love. It's been such a rough and hectic couple of days, but I'm finally starting to see a big positive light at the end of the tunnel again. We met yesterday with his team of doctors and it was SO productive. I feel really confident in the plan going forward, and that we're going to get to a place where this is manageable and he can be healthy again. And he seemed so much better, so much closer to a baseline, and that was very reassuring too. He's probably going to be released Monday, and I know he'll be happy to be home and seeing the kids too.
I'm hopeful with the news I can have a better day today and tomorrow. The past few had some breakdowns and crying with the stress sort of snowballing, but I went to bed early last night, got some quality rest, and I feel a little stronger. I postponed Carter's party until next weekend, and I know it was the best decision. Now Matt can be there and the idea of sitting here this morning thinking about how panicked I'd be trying to get everything ready and then host people is enough to convince me I did the right thing.
Thank you all for your kind posts, messages, texts, etc. I have read them all, I just haven't had a lot of time to respond yet, but I know you all understand that. The love I feel from you guys means the world to me.