Week of Dec 19

[Chrysanthemum]

I have a dumb question: what do I do with two gifted audio monitors? Two people gave us monitors that we didn't register for, no gift receipts. We also got the iBaby one we did register for and plan to use. What can I do with the others?? Return? How?? Worth keeping for some reason??

[loira]

Dec 20, 2016 23:29:09 GMT -5 Chrysanthemum said:

I have a dumb question: what do I do with two gifted audio monitors? Two people gave us monitors that we didn't register for, no gift receipts. We also got the iBaby one we did register for and plan to use. What can I do with the others?? Return? How?? Worth keeping for some reason??

I've been using a regular monitor for travel. It packs lighter and isn't a pain to set up.

[shauni27]

Dec 20, 2016 23:29:09 GMT -5 Chrysanthemum said:

I have a dumb question: what do I do with two gifted audio monitors? Two people gave us monitors that we didn't register for, no gift receipts. We also got the iBaby one we did register for and plan to use. What can I do with the others?? Return? How?? Worth keeping for some reason??

You could use the one for travel and then save the other to give to a friend who is pregnant? Just tell them, hey, don't buy a monitor, I have an extra!

[shauni27]

I am feeling so overwhelmed again. I will go from feeling so sick and tired and sore breasts, etc for a few days to totally normal the next few days. It freaks me out. G and I had a big talk about telling our parents--he really wanted to tell them for Christmas, but our next ultrasound is 2 days later and we will have more information at that point (NPT, ultrasound again). We keep going back and forth--do we tell them so we get the support and share the excitement or do we wait so we don't get their hopes up if something is wrong?

We left it with telling them, but being comfortable changing our mind right up until Christmas. We will just see how we feel. I am just so anxious and nervous, as you all can relate.

[cherryvalance]

Chrysanthemum, I'd maybe keep it as a backup, in case something happens to the other one, or as a travel version. Store credit can come in handy, too.

shauni27, girl, I hear you! I've felt amazing for the past few days, then bam. Total shit this morning. It's definitely disconcerting. We had the same debate, but since my mom already knows, we're telling close family at Christmas.

[mpc]

Chrysanthemum We have bought so many monitors I can't even keep track. The first one stopped working, but we were under warranty, so they sent us a new one. Then that one broke, so we bought a new one. Then we moved and my husband was nervous about our new place so we bought a super cheapo one to hear the living room/front door while we were in our bedroom. Now, the battery life on the unit we have is almost shot. My son is almost 4, so it's been several years but I couldn't believe how many problems we had. Hopefully you won't have that many issues. I have returned things to babies r us without a receipt. They just let me know once they scanned it if it wasn't something they sell. Otherwise, they gave me credit on a gift card. Oh, one other thing we did was buy a monitor for each grandparent's house. It was so much easier than remembering to unplug ours and bring it every time we went over. Apparently I have a lot of thoughts on monitors. Who knew.

shauni27, I was going to type out some advice on telling or not, but I keep coming up empty. Just do whatever feels best I guess. I know those last couple days before the next ultrasound were always the worst. I wanted my parents to know, because if I lost the baby, I wanted them to know that. I've actually had losses both ways, before and after telling them. I think for my loss at 9 weeks I was glad I could just text my mom with the news rather than explaining, oh btw I was pregnant but now I'm not. I know you have to think through these scenarios, but honestly things are looking so good for you. Seeing the heartbeat improves your chances so so much. It's hard not to be scared, but I am optimistic for you.

[thoseareradishes]

shauni27, I've been anxious about telling some people too. I told my friends after my second beta, because they knew we were transferring, and my immediate family around 6 weeks. But I haven't told anyone at work, and just today emailed my aunts and uncles to let them know. Would you let them know either way if something went wrong? If so, I'd lean towards telling them at Christmas so you have that special memory. But whatever you decide is the right decision, and if you're not ready, that's okay.

I had an routine appt this morning and little girl's heart was thumping away in there. H got to come so that was cool for him to hear it too.

[loira]

shauni27, I totally get it. Make sure you're comfortable telling them. It's okay if you'd rather wait. My parents knew right away with A because my mum and I are psychically linked (ha not really, but it's spooky how well she guesses at what's going on in my life), but we didn't tell my in-laws until I was 16 weeks and we'd already had the results of the CVS. My MIL cannot be trusted to keep a secret, and while I like my in-laws, we're not close and I prefer not to share private things with them.

H is HERE! I am loving it! He can't keep his eyes off A and just wants to hold her all the time. She gave him a pretty frosty reception at the airport, but once we got home she warmed up to him and I think she finally remembers who he is. He had absolutely zero problems at customs and was welcomed back with a 'happy holidays, enjoy your stay'. There's usually a lot about Canada that I think could be improved, but yesterday I was really pleased with my country for employing customs agents and not heavily armed border thugs.

[awick14]

shauni27- we always told our immediate families when we got to the 8 week mark (or after our first ultrasound with a HB).

It really is a personal decision. Our families have both been very supportive during our losses though. Saying that we waited until after our A/S to tell any extended family members. (Even though all of our close friends found out after our NT scan at 13 weeks.) And we only told our families then because we would be seeing most of my extended family at a wedding and I didn't want any of the attention on me. Even though the bride made a huge deal about it when I was congratulating her after the ceremony, lol.

loira- I love the picture of A with your H. It's so cute.

[King26]

So we changed our ultrasound from Jan 2 to dec. 29. I'm freaking out because I'm going home for 2 days after the appointment (my parents). If it's bad news I don't know what I'll do. I haven't told anyone and don't plan to for a while. If it's good news I'll be excited but we still aren't telling anyone. I'm feeling pretty good though every twinge makes me a little panicky. I'm going to be in for a long ride if this continues.

[awick14]

((King26)) Its so hard. There is no right way or wrong way to do this. I personally would want to know sooner then later. BUT just remember today YOU ARE PREGNANT!

[knx9211]

Thinking of you King26. It's so damn hard. Hoping the next week goes really quickly for you!!

[cherryvalance]

King26, hugs. You'd think getting pregnant would be the fun part, but it just opens a new barrel of worries.

FWIW, I had a ton of cramping during weeks 6 and 7. Like, I'm going to get my period cramps, not just the stretching/pulling twinges. Knock on wood, so far so good. I hope this is a great sign for you.

[awick14]

King26- I also had tons of bad cramping around 5-7 weeks and I thought my period would come any day. Hang in there.

[lms]

Any sign of the baby coming awick14? I keep checking and hoping for an "I am in labor" post from you!

[awick14]

Dec 22, 2016 10:37:45 GMT -5 lms said:

Any sign of the baby coming awick14? I keep checking and hoping for an "I am in labor" post from you!

At my appointment yesterday, I'm still only 1-2cm. (Where I've been for at least 3 weeks.) And no other signs of labour. She did sweep my membranes but she's also done that every appointment for the past 3 weeks. I go in again tomorrow, and if nothing's happening I will be induced next week. I really want baby to start making their entrance sooner then later.

[cactuscookie]

Dec 21, 2016 21:33:50 GMT -5 King26 said:

So we changed our ultrasound from Jan 2 to dec. 29. I'm freaking out because I'm going home for 2 days after the appointment (my parents). If it's bad news I don't know what I'll do. I haven't told anyone and don't plan to for a while. If it's good news I'll be excited but we still aren't telling anyone. I'm feeling pretty good though every twinge makes me a little panicky. I'm going to be in for a long ride if this continues.

Ha, yesterday I was thinking about how far away January 2nd is and how impatient I am for your ultrasound. Four less days to wait now!

Unfortunately, your anxiety probably won't ever completely go away. I don't think it does for any of us here. But, it will ebb and flow and generally ease up as you progress.

[mpc]

I finally listed my Hamilton tickets for sale, since I won't be able to travel. I actually had 4, and 2 of them sold within a day. I guess I didn't price them high enough, haha. But those 2 made enough to cover all 4 of the original tickets plus some, which is a nice consolation prize. Once the others sell I want to take the money and do something really fun/indulgent with it since I am so sad to give up the chance to go. DH tells me I should just plan on going this time next year, but I really doubt I'll go with an <1 year old at home. Maybe 2019? 

[lo]

Dec 22, 2016 11:01:58 GMT -5 mpc said:

I finally listed my Hamilton tickets for sale, since I won't be able to travel. I actually had 4, and 2 of them sold within a day. I guess I didn't price them high enough, haha. But those 2 made enough to cover all 4 of the original tickets plus some, which is a nice consolation prize. Once the others sell I want to take the money and do something really fun/indulgent with it since I am so sad to give up the chance to go. DH tells me I should just plan on going this time next year, but I really doubt I'll go with an <1 year old at home. Maybe 2019? 

We just sold our 4, too. It was on my due date but I still seriously thought about making it a day trip, lol.

[scm1011]

I hope baby is here soon, awick14. Things can happen quick - I went from no dilation at a check to 5 centimeters in 8 hours!

[Muddled]

Dec 22, 2016 10:42:46 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Dec 22, 2016 10:37:45 GMT -5 lms said:

Any sign of the baby coming awick14? I keep checking and hoping for an "I am in labor" post from you!

At my appointment yesterday, I'm still only 1-2cm. (Where I've been for at least 3 weeks.) And no other signs of labour. She did sweep my membranes but she's also done that every appointment for the past 3 weeks. I go in again tomorrow, and if nothing's happening I will be induced next week. I really want baby to start making their entrance sooner then later.

Best of luck, awick. I'm so excited for your to meet your little one.

[cherryvalance]

Ahhh, awick14, I hope it's soon. Go, baby, go!

[trace]

Eek, awick! I can't believe you're so close! I hope things start happening soon!

I had my SGH at lunch today and it was...unpleasant. Not quite as bad as the HSG but it took a lot longer because my cervix was "very mobile" according to the NP. Lol! I had to press down hard on my lower abdomen the entire time to help. I also had to repeat my TSH labs because last week's came back borderline high. Hopefully it's normal or can be managed soon. Then I just need to get a mammogram and we'll be set for FET anytime.

[thoseareradishes]

Exciting trace! Glad you got good results from your SGH.

We were traveling yesterday, and I almost had my first puke. The airport bathrooms smelled so bad! I started gagging and had to run over to a trash can in the terminal. Luckily I got it under control. But I still really had to use the bathroom, so I wrapped my jacket around my nose and got the job done, heh. I felt a bit stupid but it was that or puke from the gagging. Fun times!

[awick14]

thoseareradishes- smells were the worst when you are nauseous.

I had another appointment today, I am now a solid 2cm, where I was 1-2 before. So no real progress.

I will be induced next Tuesday if I don't go into labour before that.

[cherryvalance]

trace, good luck with the FET!

thoseareradishes, oh man, that sounds rough. I gagged in the middle of class yesterday, but I don't think any kids saw, lol.

awick14, good luck!!

The only excitement here is that I got my flu shot . Thanks for all the advice!