Post by oneslybookworm on Jun 21, 2017 10:09:46 GMT -5
Update on the adoption front: Our books are now out with THREE emoms.
*One is due in a hot second, but the agency said she's a bit of a flake, so no clue what will happen there (she hasn't picked a couple yet).
*One is due in October, close to home (well...in the state).
*One is due in December, close to Christmas. EMom is in Louisiana.
I'm terrified of a long match again, because of what happened before. But, we figured we'd just throw it out there and if it's meant to be, it'll happen (sorry, I know you all hate that phrase). I figure I'll let Jesus take the wheel for awhile, because I'm tired of driving.
Post by compassrose on Jun 21, 2017 10:22:35 GMT -5
Ahhhh oneslybookworm! I'm keeping a good thought for you to be matched again!
You know, the whole 'nature takes its course' and 'it happens for a reason' phrases do bug me, especially as they are ridiculously tone deaf for many situations, but I also have fallen back on them as some (slim) comfort for my own, repeated losses. I think how hard it would be to have a very special needs child who could never leave the hospital or live to adulthood, and I think that for me, the miscarriage is an 'easier' heartbreak. I am trying to have faith in my body's ability to determine a healthy, viable embryo and stick with it or not. Which is not at all to say that I won't end up seeing an RE and requiring medical intervention to stay pregnant (or get pregnant with a viable embryo), or that I would hesitate to use those avenues if I need them. But that attitude has been a way to get myself through it.
Our RE has recommended that we start thinking about donor eggs. I did expect it after our last cycle but it's been harder than I anticipated. Not because I'm opposed to it. I'm not at all. But letting go of the dream of the way I thought things would be has been difficult.
My sister and her family left to go back to Florida this morning. It was her, my BIL, and my 4.5 year old nephew. And he is a handful. Really makes me wonder how I will ever be able to entertain a child every. single. moment. I can only hope my kids end up more chill than he is. It's nice to have my house back, and not have cartoons on constantly. But it also means I have to go back to work tomorrow, lol. Boo.
We had a lot of fun. Went to California Adventure, the Santa Monica pier, the Natural History Museum, the California Science Center, an LA Galaxy soccer game... I'm hoping they had a good time.
We've got a lot of stuff coming up in the next month, so I'm hoping it'll help the time go by quickly while we're waiting to transfer. This upcoming weekend is a friend's baby shower, next weekend we're going to Vegas for DH's 40th birthday, I have my oral surgery and we have a work retreat for DH in Santa Barbara. Summer, particularly July, is always so busy for us.
Today I'll spend the day cleaning house, doing laundry, and running errands. Then it's sushi for dinner, then getting back to the grind.
Post by ilovecandy on Jun 21, 2017 14:22:24 GMT -5
Omg I am sore. We went to a zoo today because one if my bil's wanted to go and asked us to come with. I did their epedituon course cause I didn't really want to go and I wanted t do something fun. So 3 foot brings 18 ropes course obstaclescles, 80 foot drop, zip line and 30 ft drop. It was funexpected the 80 foot drop was terrifying but I did it.
Now we are off to get back to the house, go weight our trailed for the empty weight. Look at at least one rental house and pick up cabinets for h's parents kitchen cause h will be tearing up some cabinet to fix the drain on their sink.
so yesterday, my nurse spent 2 hours talking to 6 different people and figured it out. she faxed all my stuff to Express Scripts, which went to their specialty arm called Accredo (no idea the spelling), oh but Accredo gets all their fertility meds from... Freedom Fertility Pharmacy. ya know... the original pharmacy I wanted to use.
so Freedom calls me again today and I called them back tonight. so the authorization went through and my insurance is covering everything except the Lupron, which will be like $1000 (if I heard it correctly which I'm sure I didn't). they'll ship it tomorrow and will ship it overnight, so it will be here Friday.
it was a fustercluck and I almost would rather have just paid OOP. and my deafness made it really hard to communicate and I requested multiple times that they email me (I always initiated communication via email) which they repeatedly ignored.
We are altering our home search some and have 5 new houses to see. I just emailed our realtor to see if she could show us them this weekend. Smaller lot, smaller price tag, same size or bigger houses in general.
I am still super sore. H is going to start destroying his parents kitchen today since w e picked up the new cabinets yesterday. His brother ( youngest) is going to help.us with countertops. We are also going to pay him to clean and detail both our cars.
ilovecandy fx you find something soon! I know how frustrating it is.
I'm exhausted today, anyone else get that feeling the day after trigger? We had to BD last night, and I was so damn tired. I was like honey, this is for baby making, not for romance. haha
kellikans, what part of FL is your sister in? Do you come visit much?
She lives in Lakeland. We only get there once a year over the holidays. But now that my nephew is older, we may start going back to my parent's house since he can travel.
Did you work things out with your clinic, lobster ? I hope things were straightened out and you feel okay with whatever approach you're taking.
Yes, I did. Thanks so much for asking! I just had to force my introverted self to be a pest. And they happily answered all my questions and I'm feeling good now. Of course, once I got my mind around doing an IUI in 10 days, my thyroid came back elevated. So, if we can't get that down soon, we'll have to cancel this cycle. . So, fingers crossed that the blood work that I did yesterday has better answers.
kellikans , what part of FL is your sister in? Do you come visit much?
She lives in Lakeland. We only get there once a year over the holidays. But now that my nephew is older, we may start going back to my parent's house since he can travel.
If you do come down this year, I'm only an hour from lakeland
So I put a deposit down for a trip to Kauai. We have a year from today to travel. Trying to figure out when to go is going to be difficult. We already have a trip planned to New England in October. We are visiting my parents for Christmas. If this transfer works out, we're pretty limited on when we can go. The only time I see working is early to mid November where I would be 17-18 weeks. Anything after Christmas will be too late to travel, right?
I'm also hesitant about November since we found out that our baby's heartbeat stopped 2 weeks before the last time we went (and it was in November). I had to rush to do a d&c so I would have time to recover. It's irrational, but I can't help but tie bad memories of Hawaii to that time of year.
Update on the adoption front: Our books are now out with THREE emoms.
*One is due in a hot second, but the agency said she's a bit of a flake, so no clue what will happen there (she hasn't picked a couple yet).
*One is due in October, close to home (well...in the state).
*One is due in December, close to Christmas. EMom is in Louisiana.
I'm terrified of a long match again, because of what happened before. But, we figured we'd just throw it out there and if it's meant to be, it'll happen (sorry, I know you all hate that phrase). I figure I'll let Jesus take the wheel for awhile, because I'm tired of driving.
I can't tag on my phone so I have to quote.
I thought of.you today as we are demolishing my in laws kitchen and putting in a new one. Home remodel hell. Yay for cheap used cabinets though? And a brother in law who make laminate countertops.
Update on the adoption front: Our books are now out with THREE emoms.
*One is due in a hot second, but the agency said she's a bit of a flake, so no clue what will happen there (she hasn't picked a couple yet).
*One is due in October, close to home (well...in the state).
*One is due in December, close to Christmas. EMom is in Louisiana.
I'm terrified of a long match again, because of what happened before. But, we figured we'd just throw it out there and if it's meant to be, it'll happen (sorry, I know you all hate that phrase). I figure I'll let Jesus take the wheel for awhile, because I'm tired of driving.
I can't tag on my phone so I have to quote.
I thought of.you today as we are demolishing my in laws kitchen and putting in a new one. Home remodel hell. Yay for cheap used cabinets though? And a brother in law who make laminate countertops.
Oh #homeremodelhell!! It's the best!! We are nearly finished with the basement, and I won't know what to do with myself!! Have to start a new project then!
Good news at my doc today. My cyst is gone so I get to stop the bc pills. Wait 4 days then 5 days of femara, then go in 3 days later for an ultrasound. I'm assuming a trigger if everything looks good.
This is my first time doing a medicated cycle so hit me with any side effects I can expect from the femara
So I put a deposit down for a trip to Kauai. We have a year from today to travel. Trying to figure out when to go is going to be difficult. We already have a trip planned to New England in October. We are visiting my parents for Christmas. If this transfer works out, we're pretty limited on when we can go. The only time I see working is early to mid November where I would be 17-18 weeks. Anything after Christmas will be too late to travel, right?
I'm also hesitant about November since we found out that our baby's heartbeat stopped 2 weeks before the last time we went (and it was in November). I had to rush to do a d&c so I would have time to recover. It's irrational, but I can't help but tie bad memories of Hawaii to that time of year.
you can definitely travel up to 28 weeks, and I think up to 34 with a doctor's note.
kellikans, I meant to ask what company you are doing your Hawaii trip through. It sounds like a super good deal. I would think early January might be a nice time, you would get a break from winter and I think I've generally heard that second tri tends to be the most comfortable of the three.
You guys my fil omg my fil. One of.us may not.survive living.with the other. The way he treats my dogs constantly yelling at them he "spanked" the puppy at least enough to have her terrified of him the rest of.thr day the other day. Yes I chewed my h out for that one and told him he better fucking figure something.out. I don't really have anywhere to.go.with the dogs though but it may speed up me.looking for.some kind.of.rental unless we buy a house this weekend. But yeh.
Eta I just talked to h again about the excessive yelling. And he is going to talk t.fil. I have also started looking up furnished month to month places and contacted a few asking about pets. This isn't about just telling the dogs to move or get out of an area this is about him yelling them to move multiple times but not giving them space to move and obviously hitting my dog. I don't care in general when people tell my dogs to move or kick them out of an area but the excessive yelling at them and then not actually giving them a chance to move or get out of the way.
ilovecandy, if anyone hit my dog, I would lose my ever loving shit. NO NO NO
Morning. H just "finished" his portion of the IUI, I have to be there at 11am. It's such a mind fuck, I want to be hopeful. Why does hope have to be so damn scary we have 2, potentially 3 mature. I should be excited, this is the best response we have had to date, but just thinking about it makes me cry.
ilovecandy, if anyone hit my dog, I would lose my ever loving shit. NO NO NO
Morning. H just "finished" his portion of the IUI, I have to be there at 11am. It's such a mind fuck, I want to be hopeful. Why does hope have to be so damn scary we have 2, potentially 3 mature. I should be excited, this is the best response we have had to date, but just thinking about it makes me cry.
Trust I did just on my h since he was there when it happened and I wasnt. H has family issues and I have to address them evert ime we cone here I thought we were ok be cause we discussed before we came but every now and then I have to talk to him about it. His family issues gi back to he just wants his parents to love him because he never really felt their love ever. So really I know it is more if an h isdue. I promise though he woukdon't intentionally put our dogs in harms way. H also claims it wasn't that hard that it was just a tap.