That's so exciting! Are you going to play it off as a surprise when you take a test wth your cousin and his wife? Or tell them when you meet up?
I'm going to act surprised. I feel terrible, because I didn't think it would show up positive this early. But on the other hand, I feel like if it was negative, I'd want to be prepared for their reaction. I really don't know! I have so many emotions that it's really hard!
So...when are you going to tell them? ASAP, or wait for the beta, or ask them if they want you to test and then tell them you already did? I'm dying to know!
She asked if I wanted to stop over and test one night this week, so I'm going to. I really didn't think it would be positive that early, I was kind of trying to prepare myself for her reaction if it were negative. I kind of just wanted a heads up, if that makes sense. I was thinking about it, and when I took a pregnancy test with DS and it was positive, we didn't tell people right away. So if this were her taking a test, she wouldn't tell anyone right away, so I don't feel right knowing that news before her. I don't think I'm going to tell her I already did. That sounds crazy, doesn't it?
I have so many emotions right now that I don't even really know how to feel or what to do.
Post by compassrose on Jun 28, 2017 7:40:52 GMT -5
birdmom, I don't think it's crazy. You are protecting her from the roller coaster of a chemical pregnancy. But 7 days past 5 day transfer is really 12DPO, so if it's still positive tomorrow I'd tell them. Did you take a test this am? How did the line look?
birdmom , I don't think it's crazy. You are protecting her from the roller coaster of a chemical pregnancy. But 7 days past 5 day transfer is really 12DPO, so if it's still positive tomorrow I'd tell them. Did you take a test this am? How did the line look?
See, now I can't stop. I did test this morning. It was darker and showed up quicker. She's very concerned about chemical pregnancy, because it happened to them a few times.
birdmom, congratulations! I am so happy for you and your cousin! I understand wanting to be prepared in case of a negative before hand and I think I would not tell her I previously tested. I cannot wait to hear how it goes when you tell her! She will still be nervous about a CP and everything else in between now and delivery, but this is a great first step. I am so happy!
So...when are you going to tell them? ASAP, or wait for the beta, or ask them if they want you to test and then tell them you already did? I'm dying to know!
She asked if I wanted to stop over and test one night this week, so I'm going to. I really didn't think it would be positive that early, I was kind of trying to prepare myself for her reaction if it were negative. I kind of just wanted a heads up, if that makes sense. I was thinking about it, and when I took a pregnancy test with DS and it was positive, we didn't tell people right away. So if this were her taking a test, she wouldn't tell anyone right away, so I don't feel right knowing that news before her. I don't think I'm going to tell her I already did. That sounds crazy, doesn't it?
I have so many emotions right now that I don't even really know how to feel or what to do.
Speaking as a hormonal pregnant person? I'd not tell her that you already tested and that it's positive. Meet up with them, take the test and then hand it over to them to watch during the testing window so they're the "first" to see that it's positive.
You're giving them such a wonderful, generous gift but your cousin and his wife are going to miss out on a lot of things since you're carrying their baby - the first kick, cravings, l&d, etc. let them have this thing (or at least let them think that they're the first to know that they're expecting).
She asked if I wanted to stop over and test one night this week, so I'm going to. I really didn't think it would be positive that early, I was kind of trying to prepare myself for her reaction if it were negative. I kind of just wanted a heads up, if that makes sense. I was thinking about it, and when I took a pregnancy test with DS and it was positive, we didn't tell people right away. So if this were her taking a test, she wouldn't tell anyone right away, so I don't feel right knowing that news before her. I don't think I'm going to tell her I already did. That sounds crazy, doesn't it?
I have so many emotions right now that I don't even really know how to feel or what to do.
Speaking as a hormonal pregnant person? I'd not tell her that you already tested and that it's positive. Meet up with them, take the test and then hand it over to them to watch during the testing window so they're the "first" to see that it's positive.
You're giving them such a wonderful, generous gift but your cousin and his wife are going to miss out on a lot of things since you're carrying their baby - the first kick, cravings, l&d, etc. let them have this thing (or at least let them think that they're the first to know that they're expecting).
I'm trying to be really cognizant of this, which is why I don't want to tell them. I know how much she's missing out on and how she's so upset about it, so I want to do everything I can to make her feel right there with me.
Speaking as a hormonal pregnant person? I'd not tell her that you already tested and that it's positive. Meet up with them, take the test and then hand it over to them to watch during the testing window so they're the "first" to see that it's positive.
You're giving them such a wonderful, generous gift but your cousin and his wife are going to miss out on a lot of things since you're carrying their baby - the first kick, cravings, l&d, etc. let them have this thing (or at least let them think that they're the first to know that they're expecting).
I'm trying to be really cognizant of this, which is why I don't want to tell them. I know how much she's missing out on and how she's so upset about it, so I want to do everything I can to make her feel right there with me.
You're a fantastic human I know that they're going to be so excited - I'm glad that you'll be there to celebrate with them!
I'm trying to be really cognizant of this, which is why I don't want to tell them. I know how much she's missing out on and how she's so upset about it, so I want to do everything I can to make her feel right there with me.
You're a fantastic human I know that they're going to be so excited - I'm glad that you'll be there to celebrate with them!
I can't wait until I can see her hold her baby. That's going to be the best ever!
birdmom , I don't think it's crazy. You are protecting her from the roller coaster of a chemical pregnancy. But 7 days past 5 day transfer is really 12DPO, so if it's still positive tomorrow I'd tell them. Did you take a test this am? How did the line look?
See, now I can't stop. I did test this morning. It was darker and showed up quicker. She's very concerned about chemical pregnancy, because it happened to them a few times.
Then go over there tonight And I agree with your plan not to tell them. When is your first beta draw?
See, now I can't stop. I did test this morning. It was darker and showed up quicker. She's very concerned about chemical pregnancy, because it happened to them a few times.
Then go over there tonight And I agree with your plan not to tell them. When is your first beta draw?
She has plans tonight! I wanted to! She lives close to where I work, I'm trying to weasel my way into their house after work like every day My first beta draw is on Monday. How often do they test after that?
Then go over there tonight And I agree with your plan not to tell them. When is your first beta draw?
She has plans tonight! I wanted to! She lives close to where I work, I'm trying to weasel my way into their house after work like every day My first beta draw is on Monday. How often do they test after that?
Usually every other day, times 2 or 3 tests to confirm the numbers are rising appropriately. My RE released me to my OB once we confirmed the heartbeat at 6w1d.
Then go over there tonight And I agree with your plan not to tell them. When is your first beta draw?
She has plans tonight! I wanted to! She lives close to where I work, I'm trying to weasel my way into their house after work like every day My first beta draw is on Monday. How often do they test after that?
Argh!! I can only imagine your impatience on this! Usually they do a second beta draw 48 hours later. It's possible they might move it up if you say you've had a positive test, but maybe your RE likes to do it a certain number of days past transfer.
She has plans tonight! I wanted to! She lives close to where I work, I'm trying to weasel my way into their house after work like every day My first beta draw is on Monday. How often do they test after that?
Argh!! I can only imagine your impatience on this! Usually they do a second beta draw 48 hours later. It's possible they might move it up if you say you've had a positive test, but maybe your RE likes to do it a certain number of days past transfer.
I feel like I'm going to burst. Literally. Like my body is going to physically explode from excitement. And I can't really tell anyone but you guys and my husband. Aaaah!
DS is 6, and he is so excited too. Every night he talks to "the egg" and tells it lame knock knock jokes and gives me extra snuggles to make it grow. I have so many emotions. I don't know if I want to cry or jump up and down or scream or what.
Eek! I can't wait to hear about them finding out! And the way you talk about your cousin and this whole situation brings tears to my eyes. You are truly giving them an amazing gift.
fn2187,thanks for that feedback, I sort of needed to hear that. I know the end result is what is important, but I also know how much she wanted to carry her own child. I'm just going to do my best to keep her in the loop all the time. I'm going to their house and taking a test tonight, so the cat will be out of the bag soon!