Monday morning vents/celebrations

[supertrooper1]

It's Monday...

[supertrooper1]

Celebrations: It's my Friday today.

Vents: I have OT today. DH is eating crackers for me. My coworker that I share an office with is sick. She said the only reason she came in is because she didn't want to have to get a doctor's note. She's the one that faked a doctor's note but only got a letter in her file and one day without pay.

[twinmomma]

Celebration: Weekend away was great, vacation starts on Wednesday!

Vent: I made the decision to go see a play with DH last night. It was incredible! Also got to see some good friends I haven't seen in awhile. But, instead of starting my 2 hour drive home around 6, I ended up getting home around midnight. I'm still kid and husband free, which made my exhausted morning a little easier to deal with. But I am dragging at work today.

Vent 2: Aforementioned friends all kept asking DH why he wasn't doing the show this summer. Pissed me off that he had to keep explaining that it just didn't work out with our life this year. How do people not get this? We have two kids, I work full time, and we live two hours away. Isn't it obvious that these summer shows require A LOT of logistics and money for gas and childcare? I always end up feeling like a bad guy after these conversations - not because DH throws me under the bus in front of other people, but he and I both know I'm the one who puts up a fight about it. It sucks.

[rere]

Vent. My house is still a disaster. Plus I have a very busy week ahead and starting 6 am football practice. Plus Dh worked all weekend and his only day off is today.

[covergirl82]

Vent 1: We picked up the used truck (2015 model year, so still pretty new) DH bought on Saturday. We noticed Sunday morning it was leaking some sort of fluid and made a funny noise when we started it up. So DH now has to take it in to be checked.

Vent 2: I feel kinda bad venting about this, but I'm venting because it was a big hassle to me and a disappointment for DS. DH's grandpa and his wife got DS a Skylanders video game (the one with the figures you can change), but it was for a PS4, and we only have an Xbox One. So DH called to find out if they had the receipt or where they got it from, and it was from a local resale place. So I took him there yesterday and all they would give us is a measly $6 in-store credit. They didn't have a version for Xbox One, and DS didn't see anything else he wanted. I spent the $6 credit on a pot for a plant and a binder and gave DS $8 to put in his wallet to spend on something else. It was irritating to have spent more money on gas and wear and tear on my car than what the store credit was worth, and DS was disappointed because he actually wanted the game.

Celebration: Outside of the nonsense with the truck, it was a pretty good weekend. We got a lot of errands and chores done and other things done around the house.

[erinshelley21]

We had a pretty great weekend aside from some drunk woman telling DH that he was a "dickbag" and he needed to treat me better and then proceeding to tell me that I deserve better. All she witnessed in the 20 minutes she was around us was DH making a joke, along with the guy she was on a first date with, about her wanting some special craft beer at the small town bar we were in and him smacking my ass. He beat himself up the entire way home and was still pretty upset the next day. It was our first real night out since DD was born and started off really fun.

Vent: Besides that lovely story, my wrist is pretty messed up. Dr. Google tells me treatment options are a brace, steroid injections and then surgery. I had surgery for this issue 11 years ago and my mom remembers the dr saying it could come back. I'm not sure when the hell I'm supposed to have surgery on my hand when I have a 3 year old, an infant and a husband that works 24 hour shifts 3 days a week.

[judyblume14]

We had a weird weekend with a death in the family, unexpected guests... and my BIL pissed on my couch because he was drunk.
My potty-training two-year-old has barely dribbled on the floor, and my 36-year-old brother-in-law peed on my couch.

[dglvrk2]

Celebrations: I'm enjoying my last few days off of work - I get July off. I've had my kids home with me during this time and there have been a lot of fun moments with them. I've been running a lot too and contemplating doing a marathon in September. I ran 13 miles yesterday and can still move, so I'm on my way there.

Vents: DD1 is supposed to start Girl Scout camp today. Yes, it's been nice having her home, but the fighting between her and her little sister are getting to me. However, she threw up last night. She was sick Friday and seemed completely over it by yesterday morning. However, I doubt I can send her to camp today given this.

[billie]

I'm sorry about your wrist erinshelley21

And sorry about your loss and your couch judyblume14

Don't feel bad twinmomma, people don't know your lyfe

[billie]

Had a bad night with multiple wake ups from both kids.

The lady we're thinking of hiring to be the kids nanny when I go back to work is back from her trip and I need to talk to her to make her an offer. I hope it works out! I go back to work in less than a month eek

[sudokufan]

Vents: H is still sick; it's been a month. He went to urgent care last week and got a Z-pack and albuterol, which are helping, but he feels like crap and has been cranky, tired and unhelpful for a damn month, and I'm about to lose it. It doesn't help that DS is entering a "phase". He was a very mellow, easy 2 & 3 year old but he's finally doing all that boundary pushing and sassing we've been warned about lol.

Celebration, with a side of vent: Our new sectional couch came in! It's being delivered this Saturday, but first we needed to move the china cabinet, so that we can move the church pew, so we can move the toy chest, so that the couch will fit. And all of those moves involve moving toys too. See above about tired, cranky and unhelpful H and you can imagine.

[mommyatty]

Our weekend away in NY was great. Hamilton was ah-mazing. We walked over 9 miles on Saturday, and I wasn't even sore Sunday. It was great!

But I'm so tired today. I was out of town from Wednesday to Sunday. I'm back today, then tomorrow I have to fly to Seattle and do an overnight trip. I don't mind traveling for my job, but it's getting a little crazy. I'm having extreme mom guilt.

[saraml13]

Celebrations: The hot, humid and rainy weather finally broke here. This morning was in the 60s and I finally got out for a (short) run.

Vents: Too much IL time. Do to overlapping vacations and other commitments, we hadn't seen ILs in awhile, and MIL was freaking out about it. We got invited to BIL's birthday dinner at a restaurant last Thursday with >48 hours notice. I already had plan, so DH found a baby sitter and went solo. Saturday I went to a baby shower where MIL was one of the few people I knew, so I got plenty of time with her then. Then last night we went ti ILs' for dinner, with BILs as well, and ended up celebrating BIL's birthday again. (And don't even get me started on what a frustrating visit it was with DH's not helping at all and MIL feeding DS1 nothing but sugar). Then MIL springs on us that DH's aunt is in town this week and wants to stop by and see the boys.

[justcheckingin73]

twinmomma, that's really annoying but unless they have been involved, I wonder if they have any inkling what it takes to put something like that together? Most people don't see how much work something takes.

erinshelley21, that was a crappy thing to say about your dh. You can't assume anything from a 20 minute interaction. Sounds like he was being playful and she was being drunk.

This was our first weekend at home in a couple of weeks and I was looking forward to getting into my own bed Friday night and sleeping in. Which did happen but it stormed all night and I kept waking up expecting DS to come in the room which he tends to do during thunderstorms. He never did which was great but I got broken sleep.

Otherwise, we had some nice family pool time and I finally tackled some projects around the house that have been bugging me. Including cleaning up DS' room and getting all of his toys out of the living room which had been piling up for months. I really wanted to declutter and get rid of more stuff but he wasn't budging on it. Maybe before Christmas??!!

The only thing I didn't do was get a run in but I ran 3 times last week and was very active yesterday so I'm not going to beat myself up about it.

[k3am]

Celebration: Date night was awesome. Over the weekend ew got to see multiple friends and just had a really nice weekend overall. The kids behaved, life was good.

Celebration 2: DD's friend from DC is going to watch her while DS gets his adenoids out. That's one less thing to worry about. I was really feeling like a creepy mom for even asking.

Ventish (not really a vent, just a statement of fact): I'm pretty sure we're down a person for an indefinite period of time at work. We've been taking my coworker's word for it, but I really don't think she's going to be able to work anywhere near part-time, let alone full-time while going through chemo. I think on the work front, we're basically screwed. I can only imagine what a hard time she's having to deal with all this, but I really hope she gets on board with the idea of taking medical leave if she needs it. (I mean, I would absolutely love for her to feel well enough to be able to work through it, since that's what she wants. I'm just not sure it's in the cards, and I want her to do what's best for her, not worry about work.)

[erinshelley21]

justcheckingin73, oh she was so drunk. I was being nice before the comments and showed her where the bathroom was. She peed with the stall door wiiiiiide open. Then kissed me on the cheek when she told me thank you for taking her. Her date was so embarrassed.

[twinmomma]

k3am, How long has she been in treatment? When my mom did her treatments, she was adamant that she'd be ok enough to work part time. That lasted for the first 2 rounds, then she came to her senses and realized she needed to just take the time off to heal and take care of her self. I think it was really hard for her to admit that she had cancer and it was impacting her life and it wasn't in her control.

[twinmomma]

justcheckingin73, They definitely don't have any clue about what it takes to coordinate. I think they also don't see anything wrong with DH and the kids just asking to live with my parents for 6 weeks. They're all couch-hopping actors who aren't phased by that, so it doesn't cross their mind that it might be weird and/or inconvenient for all parties involved on our side.

[leap]

I lost DD2 at DD1's swim meet on Friday night. There were lots of people and tents and a whole lot of confusion. We were trying to find our team tent and when I turned around DD2 was gone. I walked around in circles for what seemed like ages (but was probably less than 10 minutes) searching for her. I finally found her with another mom we know. It was so scary for both of us. She ended up crawling in to bed with me that night, which she never does, and she was glued to my side for the rest of the meet.

The rest of the weekend was pretty great. DD1 did awesome at the swim meet, and we had fun rollerskating with friends yesterday afternoon. My kids are good skaters, which is not surprising because they are good ice skaters. They did races by age group at the end of the afternoon and both girls won.

[HeartofCheese]

I drank a lot this weekend. Read: a 6-pack over the course of 4 nights. I'm going to count that as a celebration.

The vent is that I was pretty emotionally drained and flummoxed with some of the decisions we have to make considering that every single thing is up in the air. And H had to work 2 on-call 12-hour shifts. And we had to prep for our camping trip on Thursday. Yes, we're still getting divorced, but we're also going to go camping together. That could also be called a celebration...

I also tried to deal with being emotionally unavailable to my kids by cleaning. Seems like a grown-up thing to do and the kids really liked their redecorated rooms. So also a celebration. Also celebrating Netflix right now.

Another celebration is that H seems willing to do just about whatever I want. So thinking about doing a quick deed, refinancing the mortgage, and paying him $10-12k plus half our savings after we pay for our roof and furnace, and (maybe) the refi costs. This would result in him missing out on about $8k if we just sold the house in the usual way (or $12k if we used our friend as a realtor who wouldn't charge us). This would also leave me with about $4k in savings which will not be enough for me to make mortgage payments without my parents help, but it would help. And the kids would have the house. Which, right now, it is crazy important to H and I to make sure that at least one of the kids' homes is a house. It may be a serious FWP, but the idea of selling or storing their toys that seriously cost (my parents) a lot of money - seems like a terrible thing.

Vent: we realized that the quickest turnaround time if we sell the house would result in a closing date 2 mos from now which means we would have to live together until almost October before we could afford to live on our own. Yet another reason maybe for refinancing and quick claiming the house.

[HeartofCheese]

Omg, leap. Been there. It's sheer terror. Glad you found her!

[saraml13]

Vent 2: I've talked a lot about DH's bff's upcoming out of town wedding on Labor Day. I know I mentioned that we recently decline the request for DS1 to be a ring bearer because the logistics are just too tough and the wedding is too disorganized for us to plan around it. Every day that goes by, I feel better about that decision. DH is a groomsman and it's been like pulling teeth for us to get any details besides the wedding itself (rehearsal? getting ready? anything post wedding?). Eventually the groom did confirm some details and told DH there weren't going to be any events after the wedding itself.

Well, I saw the groom at his FI's bridal shower, and he was polling people about their travel plans. Now he is thinking about having a next day brunch and is trying to figure out if people will be around for it. His tentative plan is brunch at 1:00 at a location fairly far away from the hotel; all other activities (airport, rehearsal, wedding/reception) are all within shuttle distance of the hotel. And he doesn't want to organize anything, so he just wants to spread it by word of mouth at the wedding.
I straight up told him that I didn't think most people would be sticking around that long for a 1:00 brunch. But he said "We don't care what people want. We aren't getting up earlier than that". Which is fine, but don't spring a last minute brunch on people and expect them to come.

[traveltheworld]

Vent: DD was up from 3 to 6 last night. Is 2 years old too early to cut put the nap? Because it's been a struggle getting her to bed lately and if she wakes up in the middle of the night, it's all over.

Celebration: our offer on a house got accepted! If the house inspection goes well on Wednesday, we'll finalize and move in at the end of August. It's still not absolutely perfect, but it's close and we think we'll grow to love it more.

[k3am]

Jul 24, 2017 9:53:21 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

k3am , How long has she been in treatment? When my mom did her treatments, she was adamant that she'd be ok enough to work part time. That lasted for the first 2 rounds, then she came to her senses and realized she needed to just take the time off to heal and take care of her self. I think it was really hard for her to admit that she had cancer and it was impacting her life and it wasn't in her control.

She just started. Her port was placed Monday and she had the first round on Thursday. She was out all last week, but prior to that talking about coming in this week. My boss just let me she was admitted to the hospital on Friday and is hoping to get out today, so we're obviously not expecting her this week.

Her default "I don't want to think about life" distraction is working, so not being able to work is hard for her. It's easy for me to say what I think she should do when I'm not in that situation, but I can (at least try) to get how hard letting go must be. 

We have another coworker who also has the same cancer, and she's worked through chemo for the last 6 years, so I think my coworker was taking her experience and thinking she could duplicate it. 

[HeartofCheese]

k3am, what did you end up getting your coworker as a gift?

[akafred]

Vents: Looks like drunk driver's claim limit barely covers the medical bills. Not shocking but I was told a much higher # previously. So no pain and suffering for me. Driver doesn't own property so it seems not worth it to sue. IDK how I feel about suing the car owner... assuming they even have assets. DH is still all grumbly. Not sure what I did.

Celebration: DD has made friends with the boys across the street and the one her age at least seems to be a good match for her. He is easygoing, mature, and not wild. Hooray!

[greenmonkey1]

traveltheworld What is your DD's sleep schedule right now? Could you shorten the nap, move it earlier in the day, etc? What is your DD like when she does not nap?

Our friends' son dropped his nap early, sometime around 2-3 years, and it never seemed to phase him. My DS on the other hand is just starting to drop his nap now and he is 5 years old. He was a real train wreck without a nap when he was 2-3 years.

[campermom]

Vent: Why does everyone in my family slip their shoes off and toss them right NEXT to the Shoe Bin? They go IN the shoe bin. It is a bin, for shoes.

Celebrations:
We have a fun week planned, lots of play dates and swimming.
5 more days till our 8 day/2 destination camping trip
I'm trying our Amazon FRESH this week and can't wait for this major life change.

[mommyatty]

traveltheworld- DS dropped his nap right after turning 2. If he's forced to nap, Homie isn't going to bed until close to midnight. I'm dreading next year, when he will nap at school every day. Either his bday will adjust and he will start sleeping more or I'm losing all my me time.

[waverly]

Vent: I am pretty sure I am eating crackers for H and my friend now. Oh well. I'm at work. Some people are driving me nuts on a continual basis.

Celebration & Vent: We paid of 3 small credit cards. Two were just store cards, but H kept paying them late, so whatever money I saved was negated by him. I am looking forward to no more late fees and won't be using them anymore. The other was for our daycare. Daycare was $500 a week, and over the summer camp was $400 a week. I finally saw the savings being applied to something.

School starts in 3 weeks which is way too fast, but my tuition for pre-K and aftercare for 2 kids will go down to $300 a week, so I will be saving $800 a month over last year for months with 4 weeks, more for months with more weeks. I also got a raise of well pretty minor but about 180 a month.

I don't want summer to go faster, but I can't wait to see how school goes with new first grader and a new school for pre-K for DD. It will be great to start getting money out of my tax dollars instead of paying everything into private tuition and still paying taxes anyway.

Vent- we took the kids to lego land and the movie there was super scary to DS. He started screaming in the theater and hit me twice when I tried to shush him or get him to leave. H finally realized what was happened, as I was trying to wrestle DS out of his seat to get him to leave which is what DS wanted, so I am not sure why DS was fighting me. It was bad.