the fact that she's not appreciating your patience and taking advantage of it AND give you an assy attitude would make me want to dis-employ her.
My cousin died tragically while I was working at a law firm and I didn't get that much leeway. They did give me some and it was absolutely appropriate but is situation is just unacceptable.
Yeah, I'm pretty annoyed with it. The time is all unpaid because she's used up her PTO, so I don't care as much but like I said, work still needs to get done and her attitude kind of sucks. All I want to know is how long I will be needing to cover her work.
ETA She is normally a good employee, which is why I gave her leeway to begin with if that makes a difference.
I feel badly for my MIL. She just found out that her sister passed away in India. It's been a couple of rough years of loss - first my FIL, then 2 neighbours who she was friends with within 2 months of each other and now her sister. And she's unable to travel back to India for the funeral.
the fact that she's not appreciating your patience and taking advantage of it AND give you an assy attitude would make me want to dis-employ her.
My cousin died tragically while I was working at a law firm and I didn't get that much leeway. They did give me some and it was absolutely appropriate but is situation is just unacceptable.
Yeah, I'm pretty annoyed with it. The time is all unpaid because she's used up her PTO, so I don't care as much but like I said, work still needs to get done and her attitude kind of sucks. All I want to know is how long I will be needing to cover her work.
ETA She is normally a good employee, which is why I gave her leeway to begin with if that makes a difference.
Is there company policy you can site? Like "sandra, I know your dog is your priority and I do empathize with what you're going through. But I also have to follow company policy, which means that I'll need some firm dates from you as to your return so that the works that needs to be done can get done".
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Yeah, I'm pretty annoyed with it. The time is all unpaid because she's used up her PTO, so I don't care as much but like I said, work still needs to get done and her attitude kind of sucks. All I want to know is how long I will be needing to cover her work.
ETA She is normally a good employee, which is why I gave her leeway to begin with if that makes a difference.
Is there company policy you can site? Like "sandra, I know your dog is your priority and I do empathize with what you're going through. But I also have to follow company policy, which means that I'll need some firm dates from you as to your return so that the works that needs to be done can get done".
My patience and empathy only go so far.
Only as far as no call/ no show goes. I can write her up for that. However, our company handbook is really sloppy and there is nothing regarding limits to unpaid time off.
I am exhausted. We saw Green Day last night and they were amazing. I absolutely loved and enjoyed the anti-Trump messages throughout the show, LOL. Didn't get home until midnight and I had to wake up at 5:30 this morning. I'll be listening to Green Day and chugging on coffee all day.
I was showing h a funny video last night about moms vs. dads. Example- when someone asks a mom to grab a drink, she's like "what time? I'll have to check on the sitter. Maybe after bathtime? Oh, but we have soccer too, I'll have to see who can pick him up, etc." Someone asks a dad to grab a drink- "sure."
H was like, that literally never happens with us.
Um, it literally happens every day.
It's that whole "mental load" thing. We got the kids in bed last night (actually got DS2 down in his crib! Yay!) and came downstairs. DH immediately flops on the couch. I gave him the raised eyebrow side eye and was like, "um, there's a lot of shit to do..." It's beyond irritating.
My kid might have HFM AGAIN for the second time in like 3 months. Argh!!
My H has been unemployed/freelancing since November. Last night he signed a contract for a job he was recommended for by an old coworker. He has not interviewed and does not really know the job description. But he has signed a contract. I don't know if we should be excited/happy yet??
I ran more this morning than I ever have and I'm feeling some kind of amazing.
Also-I ordered our tickets for the Hascon! It will be me, H, Eleanor, my dad and my niece. I'm super excited!
Did you order any add-ons? There were so pricey. My mom and I are taking my boys and they are so excited!
No add on! And yes-they were/are super expensive! My DD is 7 and niece will be 7 in November so we figure just going to what they have as part of the "Mane Event" (MLP pun intended) will be plenty for all of us.
My H told me we were going the wrong day (we're going Sunday) if I wanted to go to any MLP panels. Like those 2 girls would be able to sit through that 😂.
I'm already trying to decide what MLP shirt I want to order to wear. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Also-I ordered our tickets for the Hascon! It will be me, H, Eleanor, my dad and my niece. I'm super excited!
Did you order any add-ons? There were so pricey. My mom and I are taking my boys and they are so excited!
I'm excited to see what the Play-Doh Test Kitchen is all about! My H is jazzed because Hasbro makes the Marvel toys and he wants to check all that out.
Did you order any add-ons? There were so pricey. My mom and I are taking my boys and they are so excited!
I'm excited to see what the Play-Doh Test Kitchen is all about! My H is jazzed because Hasbro makes the Marvel toys and he wants to check all that out.
I can't wait for the play-doh! My youngest DS (he's 7) loves Play-Doh. My oldest (10) is really looking forward to the Transformers. I think he owns about a million of them and loves them.
My girls are going to see their cousins today. My parents are taking the older two for a playdate. I am glad. I need a break. Crossing my fingers, Archer will take a nap. I could really use a nap. Lol
Work has sucked for the last 2 weeks because everything I have been working on is absolute shit. I am off Friday and all next week, but, we are spending the week with H's family, which I am not looking forward to. I was, however, able to convince H to go a day later than we originally planned!
I was showing h a funny video last night about moms vs. dads. Example- when someone asks a mom to grab a drink, she's like "what time? I'll have to check on the sitter. Maybe after bathtime? Oh, but we have soccer too, I'll have to see who can pick him up, etc." Someone asks a dad to grab a drink- "sure."
H was like, that literally never happens with us.
Um, it literally happens every day.
It's that whole "mental load" thing. We got the kids in bed last night (actually got DS2 down in his crib! Yay!) and came downstairs. DH immediately flops on the couch. I gave him the raised eyebrow side eye and was like, "um, there's a lot of shit to do..." It's beyond irritating.
H and I have talked about this so much recently, and he just doesn't get it.
For the last 3 days I feel really tired in the afternoon, to the point that I could fall asleep at my desk. I made myself some decaf to try and trick my brain but it doesn't work so I'm here wishing time would speed up so I can go home and nap.
I was showing h a funny video last night about moms vs. dads. Example- when someone asks a mom to grab a drink, she's like "what time? I'll have to check on the sitter. Maybe after bathtime? Oh, but we have soccer too, I'll have to see who can pick him up, etc." Someone asks a dad to grab a drink- "sure."
H was like, that literally never happens with us.
Um, it literally happens every day.
It's that whole "mental load" thing. We got the kids in bed last night (actually got DS2 down in his crib! Yay!) and came downstairs. DH immediately flops on the couch. I gave him the raised eyebrow side eye and was like, "um, there's a lot of shit to do..." It's beyond irritating.
OMG, DH does this, and admittedly, I'll passive-aggressively run around doing shit rather than just ask for help, but COME ON. You know that lunches need to be packed, stuff from today put away, the toilet is looking gross, laundry needs to be folded, etc.
Part of it is that I don't relax well with a to-do list weighing on me, where his take is that the list will be less annoying if he relaxes first. In general it's a good balance, but in the moment I want to shank him sometimes.
One of my pups has been limping for a few days. This has happened once or twice before and he's usually fine the next day--when I mentioned it to the vet she said he could have just slept on it funny (like it fell asleep). But now it's been a few days and it's not getting any better. I want to get him to the vet but he FREAKS THE FUCK OUT at the vet. The last time I took him for an exam I had to give him four pills and we still had to muzzle him and hold him down. He is super anxious in that situation and I'm afraid that if I take him for this he's going to Hulk out again and hurt himself even worse. I was even considering a mobile vet but I think this will require x-rays and none of the mobile vets I've looked up can do that away from the office. Arg. I swear sometimes it's easier parenting a human in situations like this. At least my kid can tell me what's hurting and how bad!
It's that whole "mental load" thing. We got the kids in bed last night (actually got DS2 down in his crib! Yay!) and came downstairs. DH immediately flops on the couch. I gave him the raised eyebrow side eye and was like, "um, there's a lot of shit to do..." It's beyond irritating.
OMG, DH does this, and admittedly, I'll passive-aggressively run around doing shit rather than just ask for help, but COME ON. You know that lunches need to be packed, stuff from today put away, the toilet is looking gross, laundry needs to be folded, etc.
Part of it is that I don't relax well with a to-do list weighing on me, where his take is that the list will be less annoying if he relaxes first. In general it's a good balance, but in the moment I want to shank him sometimes.
I'm not sure mine has a "take" on the to-do list. What I do know is that if he sits down on the couch in the evening, he's not getting back up to do anything productive.
I thought about being passive aggressive about it, but I'm in such a funk this week already from coming back from maternity leave, that I decided I would be even more of a bitch if I just huffed around doing stuff myself.
I don't want to downplay his contributions because he does a lot with the kids in the morning (I am out of the house long before they get up), but I have such minimal time to relax in the evenings before I need to be in bed. And it's all the same stuff as your household: lunches need to be packed, the kitchen needs cleaning up, there's a load of laundry to fold and put away, the 800 cars strewn across our living room need to be put back in the toy cabinet. None of it is hard or even that time consuming, but he just doesn't think about it. And the whole packing lunches thing is even more irritating to me because I do it solely so that HIS morning is easier. I take time that I could be relaxing in the evening to make his life easier. Help me out here! I don't want to have to ask for it.
There's going to be a CTJ talk at the end of this week if he doesn't change his tune over the next couple of days. We both got complacent while I was on leave, but it's back to reality now. I'm not here to play games.
Post by tellmesomethingood on Aug 2, 2017 10:42:12 GMT -5
I'm planning a trip back home to see my grandma. She has stage 4 kidney failure and hospice said she is likely looking at a few months. I'm blessed to get to say goodbye, but it's giving me anxiety that I have to say goodbye and then drive away knowing I'll never see her again.
Post by liverandonions on Aug 2, 2017 11:06:03 GMT -5
Happy Birthday ginandjucie24-What did you get your sister and potentially what did she get you?
ALso, a few people tagged the wrong Gin and Juice in a happy birthday post. I clicked her profile and she has 0 posts and was online 56 minutes ago-Probably because she got notifications LOL
I realized we are supposed to be driving home from vacation during the total eclipse. That's not a good idea, right?
This may be a stupid question, but why?
We are about 4 hours from the line of totality, and I am excited for it. We are driving to stay with my friend in St. Louis, and making a long weekend of it. Prob doing Arch, zoo, and then watching eclipse and heading home. I hope my kids are impressed with it, and not just, okay, now it's dark?
My employee was out two days last week, and has been out this entire week because her dog is sick and she is trying to decide whether she needs to put her down as the vet recommended. She let me know she would be out Monday and yesterday, but I wasn't sure whether to expect her today. She didn't show up, and I sent her an email saying I knew she was going through a lot, but to please let me know her schedule and when we could expect her back. She responded rather snarkily that taking care of her dog is her whole life and that she would be out for at least the rest of the week.
Ok dude, but you still have to at least call out. You can't just no call/no show. She has already taken a lot of time this year and will be out 3 weeks next month for her wedding. Work still needs to be done. I am sympathetic because I know how much it sucks to lose a pet, but I'm not sure how much time is reasonable here. At the end of the day, she at least needs to communicate what's going on.
Whoa! That's a lot of leave to be using up. Is she hourly? I can't imagine missing an entire week for my dog, and I am dog-obsessed.
Also, why does she need 3 weeks for a wedding? Are they taking a long honeymoon?
I only get 3 weeks of vacay/year, so this is not making sense to me.
My employee was out two days last week, and has been out this entire week because her dog is sick and she is trying to decide whether she needs to put her down as the vet recommended. She let me know she would be out Monday and yesterday, but I wasn't sure whether to expect her today. She didn't show up, and I sent her an email saying I knew she was going through a lot, but to please let me know her schedule and when we could expect her back. She responded rather snarkily that taking care of her dog is her whole life and that she would be out for at least the rest of the week.
Ok dude, but you still have to at least call out. You can't just no call/no show. She has already taken a lot of time this year and will be out 3 weeks next month for her wedding. Work still needs to be done. I am sympathetic because I know how much it sucks to lose a pet, but I'm not sure how much time is reasonable here. At the end of the day, she at least needs to communicate what's going on.
Whoa! That's a lot of leave to be using up. Is she hourly? I can't imagine missing an entire week for my dog, and I am dog-obsessed.
Also, why does she need 3 weeks for a wedding? Are they taking a long honeymoon?
I only get 3 weeks of vacay/year, so this is not making sense to me.
She's salary but we only get 10 days vacation, so this is all mostly unpaid. She is taking a two week honeymoon and a week is for pre-wedding activities.
It's that whole "mental load" thing. We got the kids in bed last night (actually got DS2 down in his crib! Yay!) and came downstairs. DH immediately flops on the couch. I gave him the raised eyebrow side eye and was like, "um, there's a lot of shit to do..." It's beyond irritating.
OMG, DH does this, and admittedly, I'll passive-aggressively run around doing shit rather than just ask for help, but COME ON. You know that lunches need to be packed, stuff from today put away, the toilet is looking gross, laundry needs to be folded, etc.
Part of it is that I don't relax well with a to-do list weighing on me, where his take is that the list will be less annoying if he relaxes first. In general it's a good balance, but in the moment I want to shank him sometimes.
My thing is, how many times do I have to express to him that I need "help"? Like you said, he can see just the same as I can that the dishes need to be done or there is crap all over the place or whatever. Do I really need to ask him EVERY SINGLE TIME to "help"? We share this house, get up and do something. I don't intend to be passive-aggressive, but I'm just tired of pointing out what obviously needs to happen, so I just do it.
I realized we are supposed to be driving home from vacation during the total eclipse. That's not a good idea, right?
This may be a stupid question, but why?
We are about 4 hours from the line of totality, and I am excited for it. We are driving to stay with my friend in St. Louis, and making a long weekend of it. Prob doing Arch, zoo, and then watching eclipse and heading home. I hope my kids are impressed with it, and not just, okay, now it's dark?
It just worked out that way! I knew it was in August but didn't check the day until we booked. I think we might just stay at the beach until it is over and then head back.
I think we are only getting 80-85% here so not as exciting as you!