My 7 & 9 year old share a room at my house. They both want privacy for changing, so they either change in my room in get dressed in the bathroom after their shower. They have bunk beds, but prefer to sleep with each other.
At their Dad's house they have their own rooms, but it's pretty much just where they store their toys. They sleep together over there as well.
I think its fine. We have a 4 bedroom house but our oldest two (both girls) share a room and then the youngest has his own room bc I really like having an available guest room at all times. Which gets used pretty much monthly if not more often (sometimes weekly). Babe #4 is on the way and if its a girl she may share with my youngest once she's sleeping through the night. I don't see giving the baby its own room though forever. So sharing will happen. Ideally this baby will be a boy and my youngest two will share indefinitely. Time will tell.
I have boy, girl, boy - all born within 3 1/2 years. We have only two bedrooms for kids. When second boy came, I put girl and first boy together so the baby wouldn't wake his roommate or be woken by his roommate. First boy and girl are 2 years apart. Girl and second boy are only 15 months apart, so first boy and girl started sharing when first boy was about 3.5 and girl was about 18 months old. They continued that way happily until girl was about to start kindergarten at 4 turning 5. Second boy was out of the crib for awhile by then and it just seemed like a good time to switch and give girl her own room and put the boys together. Nobody requested it, we didn't have any problems with respecting each other's privacy and it easily could have gone on for much longer had we chosen to do so.
My girl is our sleeper so once we gave her her own room, she started sleeping far later because she wasn't being woken prematurely by her early bird brother. But that's been really the only difference.
Post by revolution on Sept 19, 2017 8:49:23 GMT -5
Go for it. My kids are 4 years apart and have their own rooms. BUT, they BEG to sleep in the same room almost nightly. DD is pushing 10 so she kicks her brother out while she changes and then they cuddle up in a twin bed and sleep.
DS, on the other hand, gets completely naked and then tells her to leave the room because he is ready for privacy. lol. she just shakes her head at him and leaves the room.
Post by cincodemayo on Sept 19, 2017 9:00:27 GMT -5
My DS is 4 and my Dd is 1 and they will be sharing a room for at least 5 more years I would imagine. We have one dresser and one closet that they share. DD wakes up once a night to scream for 10 minutes and it hasn't once woken up my son. He, on the other hand, will wake her up in the morning and climb into her crib, much too early for her or our liking. but it works now!
This is interesting. I've always had my own bedroom, and we lived overseas in three separate places in different types of bases/forts. However, my father was an officer, so I'm guessing this is why.
In my hazy memory, we used the same standards as the military when overseas even though the majority of our housing was govt-rented private homes (no bases nearby) and the guidelines weren't as simple as one set age for separate rooms. There were also rules about the number of years difference (and I think it was 2 years difference). We always had a min of 3BRs, my brother is 3 years minus 4 days older and the first time we were stationed overseas, I turned 2 a few weeks after we got there (so if the age was just under 8 we should have only had 2BR--and that was limited on-base housing). When I was in college and still considered a dependent although not living there full time, my dad was supposed to have a min 2BR house (but had a 3BR because that was what they could find that also allowed for the entertaining he had to be able to do) and his deputy had a 6BR house (umm, mansion) because they had 5 kids that were the exact combo of opposite sex and year difference to have 6BRs as a min.
That all said, I'd go for sharing unless it becomes an issue with one being able to sleep (I have a good friend with twins she ended up splitting rooms at ~3 years old because on couldn't sleep with the noises the other made in her sleep).
Post by clairedunphy on Sept 19, 2017 9:50:39 GMT -5
My two youngest boys share a room and would not want to sleep alone. Right now, they don't seem to understand the meaning of the word "privacy" (for themselves or me) so I intend for them to share for the foreseeable future. I would have no pause for 2 young, opposite sex siblings sharing a room. They will probably appreciate the company.
Post by newnamesameperson on Sept 19, 2017 9:52:55 GMT -5
We've done this for 6 months, due to selling our house and moving temporarily until our new house. I think they were fine, but my dd couldn't wait for her own room. Her and her brother play really well but she really likes her own space. If she shuts the door, he'll come in there crying wanting to get back in. So if I can help it they'll likely never share rooms again, but for the short stint it was workable.
Post by RamblingRose on Sept 19, 2017 16:17:19 GMT -5
My brother and I shared until he was about 6, so I was 4. Military housing. My mom actually gave us the master bedroom so we'd each have a bit more space, and I *think* it was likely a 1 bathroom house, so we didn't get an ensuite.
I'm growing older but not up. My metabolic rate is pleasantly stuck, let the winds of time blow over my head. I'd rather die while I'm living than live while I'm dead.
Mine are 3 and 5 and have always shared as we have a 2bedroom home. At some point we plan to do something to get a third bedroom but I'm not worried about it any time in the near future
They don't want their own rooms now anyway, occasionally I ask my 5 year old if she would like her own room and she always says "no I would be lonely!"
Post by EllieArroway on Sept 19, 2017 20:18:38 GMT -5
Mine are 7 & 4 and while DD technically has her own room, we really only use it to store her clothes. She sleeps in DS's room every night (he has bunk beds). I'm sure DS will want privacy soon, but for now they both love sharing.