So many of these responses sound like they're excusing him on some level for this not being "that bad" because she would've known. He decided to take control of their reproductive schedule. A man who would do this is probably controlling in other ways. I wouldn't be surprised if she's felt she can't say no to sex when he wants it and that she has to defend him. It's possible this is all fake, but I still think it's gross that people respond that she would've known, like that makes everything after her responsibility.