I'm so disappointed. I talked to my sister and gave her a short, basic version of what's going on in my life. Here is her text to me:
Maybe y'all should find a good church and god can convict him if his wayward ways
I had really expected her to be more supportive. She lived with an abuse bf for a few years before she got the courage to leave, so in a way, I thought she'd get it.
I am so sorry! Is this the one you were going to stay with? If you find a job in the Chicago area, you are welcome to live in my guest room! Sorry if that's creepy--I just know that so much more happiness awaits you and it makes me sad that she is not totally supportive.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 15, 2012 22:47:44 GMT -5
I'm sorry that ALL the people around you are horrible. You deserve so much more. No amount of church is going to help if he doesn't want to change (and from what you have shared, he really doesn't want to change). How feasible would it be to leave without a new job? Can you live off of some savings or credit cards? Do you know anyone outside of your sister to crash with? Chicago is a cool town....you should take Krystee up on that offer. .
I could move in with a coworker if I needed to, until I find a different job. I do have super amazing coworkers who are quite liberal and understanding. I don't feel desperate to leave yet, I am safe, just not happy or in a good place.
When we talked, she offered her guest room and said I could bring the boys and we would figure it out. She said all men are this way and act like this, which is so untrue.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 15, 2012 23:13:19 GMT -5
Yeah, so not all guys are like that. Think about your coworkers' offers. They sound like a better support system than your family. And definitely can't have crazier ideas about what is acceptable and what isn't.
I'm sorry things are rough for you right now, but glad your are safe. And sometimes unhappy is okay for a little when you know you are working towards happy.
Post by FrozenSunshine on Sept 16, 2012 0:28:29 GMT -5
I've tried to post more and more on here and follow all of the stories. Please take care of yourself and despite your sisters talk, all men aren't the same and she should know better.
Please take a coworker or friend up on the offer.
I am just settling into moving out this way, but I'd love to meet you and the amazing and supporting ladies out this way.
I'm so sorry to hear that. What an unsupportive thing to say. And no, all men are not like that! *hugs*
You said she has been in an abusive relationship before. Could she be repeating the cycle again, and that's why she thinks all men are like that? I know it's not the issue now, but it popped into my head reading this.
When we talked, she offered her guest room and said I could bring the boys and we would figure it out. She said all men are this way and act like this, which is so untrue.