Post by missbetty1 on Sept 17, 2012 14:01:19 GMT -5
Congrats! Pretty ring! Can you share your SO story with a newbie? Have you been married before? How is this relationship different? Could tell very early one that he was special? How? Sorry about all the questions...lol
Congrats! Pretty ring! Can you share your SO story with a newbie? Have you been married before? How is this relationship different? Could tell very early one that he was special? How? Sorry about all the questions...lol
I have been married before. My story is long and complicated - I'm not sure if it's even possible to summarize it. The quick-and-dirty is that I met my XH at 19, moved in with him at 22, got engaged at 23, and married him at 25. We separated when I was 29 and I filed for divorce a couple of weeks before I turned 30. No kids. I probably experienced almost every red flag/reason for divorce within my marriage save for physical abuse. Immaturity (on both our parts) masked a lot of its unhealthiness.
It's tough to describe how my relationship with FI is different. My XH almost certainly has some kind of personality disorder (as told to me by our marriage counselor), so it's almost unfair to compare the two. My FI has feelings and scruples, so that's been a welcome change, LOL. He is just a fundamentally good person that has the same goals and morals and values that I do. Instead of changing myself to fit into his world (as I did with XH), we fit each other as we are. It's just...easy.
I knew early on that I would marry him. He knew it too. We each met a kindrid spirit. Making each other happy is always a priority, but never a chore. I know what he likes and I do it instinctively because I love him. Same with him. Now, I didn't know within the first few dates that I would marry him. The first few dates were actually on the awkward side, but it was mainly due to the fact that you had too shy people trying to figure this shit out. The attraction/chemistry was there though. I just felt relaxed and peaceful about dating him and being with him. There was never the overanalyzing or game playing or other bullshit. There's just an "Oh! Hey! You! You're my person." quality to our relationship. As cliche as it sounds, it was like meeting someone I had known for a long time.
Instead of changing myself to fit into his world (as I did with XH), we fit each other as we are. It's just...easy.
There's just an "Oh! Hey! You! You're my person." quality to our relationship. As cliche as it sounds, it was like meeting someone I had known for a long time.
THIS MADE ME GET THE WARM FUZZIES! Love this. And this is how I feel about "C"! So happy for you Bowies!