Maternity leave is pretty awesome. I've already been to the store, attempted to get an oil change, and made homemade soup and applesauce this morning, and my house is clean and the laundry is done. I am pretty uncomfortable but I wouldn't mind another day or two like this before he makes his arrival.
DH and DS went on the grand opening (by pure chance). Apparently it is pretty cool!
Now, I feel like I want to wait until they do the panda cub viewing again (assuming all goes well!) I just don't remember how long it took before they did that before.
Yeah, I am not sure. I think it is still naked right? I imagine they wait until it is cute and cuddly.
Overly long vent: SO and I had the weirdest conversation this weekend. We've previously discussed that I'd like to have at least one kid before 35, we both want 1-2. The topic came up again and SO said quietly said that he'd been thinking about it and would like to have one by the time HE is 30. I'm 24 and he's 26 so there's still time, but I was still a little WTF. He said whenever we talk about kids I get weird when he talks about what he wants for a family. I purposely suggested early-mid thirties so I wouldn't have to make decisions about this for another 10 years. Gah.
Baby's due this Saturday and I want Friday to be my last day, but there's no medically-indicated reason to start my leave before the birth. Decent chance he'll be late, too, given that I've never given birth before and my cervix is still very closed. But I really don't think I can handle continuing to come to work after my due date. I get bugged enough now about when baby's coming, "still" being here, etc. by random coworkers and it's hard enough to continue to be pleasant in response. I know it will just be 10x worse if I'm here past my due date.
So I'm trying to figure out how to start leave even though I won't be covered by FMLA until the birth. HR says I'd need something in writing from my doctor. I wonder why I can't just take "vacation" until baby comes, then officially start FMLA.
In related news, fuck the U.S.'s crappy maternity leave policies.
Now, I feel like I want to wait until they do the panda cub viewing again (assuming all goes well!) I just don't remember how long it took before they did that before.
Yeah, I am not sure. I think it is still naked right? I imagine they wait until it is cute and cuddly.
News radio this morning said that no humans have seen it yet to allow the Mama to bond. The pediatric vets will go in first in a couple of days.
My whatever: I'm hormonal and grouchy.
My office has been packed up for two weeks for new carpet that was supposed to be laid over the weekend. Not. The reason? Security didn't have a key to my door. WTH? There is a reason there is a MASTER KEY.
I have some really big deadlines looming and I need to GET TO WORK (as much as I love lurking on GBCN).
Baby's due this Saturday and I want Friday to be my last day, but there's no medically-indicated reason to start my leave before the birth. Decent chance he'll be late, too, given that I've never given birth before and my cervix is still very closed. But I really don't think I can handle continuing to come to work after my due date. I get bugged enough now about when baby's coming, "still" being here, etc. by random coworkers and it's hard enough to continue to be pleasant in response. I know it will just be 10x worse if I'm here past my due date.
So I'm trying to figure out how to start leave even though I won't be covered by FMLA until the birth. HR says I'd need something in writing from my doctor. I wonder why I can't just take "vacation" until baby comes, then officially start FMLA.
In related news, fuck the U.S.'s crappy maternity leave policies.
That is really shitty. I was due yesterday and the Friday before was my last day and I could not have gone another minute in the office. I am so glad to have a little time off.
Can you talk to your doctor? My OB practice will write everyone out of work after their due date just on the basis of being post-dates.
Baby's due this Saturday and I want Friday to be my last day, but there's no medically-indicated reason to start my leave before the birth. Decent chance he'll be late, too, given that I've never given birth before and my cervix is still very closed. But I really don't think I can handle continuing to come to work after my due date. I get bugged enough now about when baby's coming, "still" being here, etc. by random coworkers and it's hard enough to continue to be pleasant in response. I know it will just be 10x worse if I'm here past my due date.
So I'm trying to figure out how to start leave even though I won't be covered by FMLA until the birth. HR says I'd need something in writing from my doctor. I wonder why I can't just take "vacation" until baby comes, then officially start FMLA.
I think they can demand a doctor's note to invoke FMLA (or maybe even sick time generally), but I don't see why your impending FMLA-useage would disqualify you from using vacation/annual leave that you have accrued.
I think you should go ahead and put in a leave request for next week using "vacation" rather than "sick" time. It's no business of theirs whether you plan to sit around your house or take a trip or what.
This is an AW but not for me. The Panda at the National Zoo last night gave birth and I am super excited!
I heard this on NPR this morning. They had a clip from a zoo representative saying that they can't actually see the cub because it's in its nest and they want to leave it alone with mom, but that from the squealing sounds they could hear they were assuming it's in good health. Squee!
Post by fuddyduddy on Sept 17, 2012 13:08:09 GMT -5
Happy birthday, Grey!
Carrots - I have been engaging in a lot of introspection during my divorce process. I would love to get remarried and have children one day, but I, like you, am apprehensive. I worry about my odds of becoming twice-divorced. It will be a challenge to find the proper balance between caution and vulnerability in new relationships.
I had my medical exam for overseas screening this morning.
Next up, I need to make an appointment with the folks on base that review the info from that exam to see if I'm healthy enough to accompany my husband on his next assignment overseas. I think I am, but there are very limited medical facilities where DH will be stationed, so they are being quite particular. We've already heard that DH's commander's family has failed the screening, and won't be able to accompany him. (there is a large group of folks going over around the same time, so a bunch of us are going thru this process right now...)
-VENT:I'm having a shitty day at work. Basically, I came in under my goals but it was result of something I couldn't control. Sucks -AW: I'm wearing a new dress and everyone has completed me on how profession and fancy I look. The best part is the dress cost me $23 at F21 HAHAHA
Post by hannamaren on Sept 17, 2012 13:42:07 GMT -5
Biscoff, I would love a nerf bat. For many things. I would like to hit my boss. I am back from maternity leave in 4 weeks and she still wnt let me know where I am working. I have no schedule, no start date. But I dont want to harass her more than I have been (2 emails last week) because she could turn around and put me somewhere that wont work as well for my nanny. Ugh.
Post by flygirl22 on Sept 17, 2012 13:45:04 GMT -5
My computer crashed while overseas and my backup computer is currently being held in customs :-( . My coworkers computer won't log into our work network. Technology hates me this month.
I feel like a lazy piece of crap because I can't do my work.
This is different, but for a while after having DD, I was always shocked by people IRL and on the bump who were pregnant with #2 while I was still undecided about whether I wanted to have a second one at all. For a while, I was struggling to just keep my shit together with 1 kid in the house. It was totally irrational, but I wanted to grab everyone who was having a second and scream "how in the hell did you decide you could manage it?"
Some guy at work today asked me why I wasn't married yet too. I told him that it is all me and I am taking my time. He seemed shocked and said he married his 2nd wife the day his papers were final.
IS THIS NORMAL? Do people really not think twice?My divorce lawyer was an awesome older guy, and he told me the day I got divorced, "I hope you don't become a repeat client...I see it all the time." That has stuck with me.
I think there are a lot of people who can't/don't want to be alone. So they marry whoever is willing. Over and over again. I don't think it's normal. But that doesn't mean someone can't go through a divorce and luck out and meet the right person quickly.
Post by cjeanette on Sept 17, 2012 13:51:20 GMT -5
And the furniture store finally admitted they sold us the wrong headboard. Hopefully they can get us the different (and cheaper) version today and install it.
Post by ondaflipside on Sept 17, 2012 13:53:27 GMT -5
Long-ass vent:
I still can't get over the fact that DH overdress to every place we go to. It annoys me, but I have to learn to accept it since he will certainly not change. He thinks he gets treated better when he does. I can't disagree, but holy irrationally uncomfortable for me.
Case in point: date night on our mini-getaway Saturday, at a noisy sushi bar, on the beach.
He's wearing a suit, while every guy in the room is wearing jeans and shorts. I'm wearing a simple blue cotton dress, a pair of sandals and a turqouise earrings. We get looks. I told him I look like his hooker and he's my john.
I told him we'll start eating at fine dining places more if he's going to keep it up, and I'll dress up accordingly.
Post by HoneySpider on Sept 17, 2012 15:13:52 GMT -5
Thanks to those of you who replied about my work situation. I just met with my boss and it's a long story as to why I can't do WAH, but the bottom line is, it's not an option. I did propose working 4, 10-hours days which is something I was thinking about anyway, so we'll see. But looks like I might get screwed or have to find a new job, which I really don't want to do (and boss doesn't want me to go). Ugh.
I need my DD1s baptismal certificate in another city. I called & they said they'd mail it to me. I told them I rather have my Dad (who lives there) pick it up. I am strictly doing this to give my retired, has nothing to do Dad something constructive to occupy an hour. When i called to ask him for a favor, he seemed pleased as punch to have something nice to do for me. He'll have in the mail today too.
I am so sick of feeling nauseated. I have had 2hours of peace at home (DD3 is napping) & I haven't done a damn thing.
I told the girls I was pregnant yeasterday. DD1 & 2 are so freaking excited--it's all they talked about for hours. DD3 just wanted another candy corn from the dish...lol.
I am really weird about pooping. I don't want people to know when I do. I have managed to hide it from FI the whole time we have been together.....then this weekend happened..... As the toilet overflowed, I realized there was no plunger in the entire house. I cried/laughed as I tried to tell FI what happened. I promised him a bj if he pretended like nothing happened and never mentioned it again.