f/u to my "is it worth quitting"

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This morning I got into the car at 6:30am. I got home at 9:30. I forgot to pack my youngest 2 lunch so I have to go back to their school. I desperately need to shower.

I'm trying to work and my fucking neighbor has large machines digging up his backyard so I can hardly even hear myself think, nevermind actually doing work.

Of course when I mention this to DH he says "but you don't want to be like those women we saw at lunch last week" (they were in their late 40s, all wearing tennis outfits and drinking heavily at lunch--at least 4 bottles of wine while DH and I were next to them.)... Actually drinking heavily sounds good right now :-)

[rubytue]

May 18, 2012 9:56:40 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

I want to be like those women.

:Y:

[phunluvin82]

May 18, 2012 9:56:40 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

I want to be like those women.

:Y:
Ditto

[mishap]

I don't think your DH made a very convincing analogy.

[heyrebekah]

May 18, 2012 9:54:18 GMT -5 @septimus said:

Of course when I mention this to DH he says "but you don't want to be like those women we saw at lunch last week" (they were in their late 40s, all wearing tennis outfits and drinking heavily at lunch--at least 4 bottles of wine while DH and I were next to them.)...

Yeah that sounds, um, horrible.

[jgleespen]

May 18, 2012 9:58:58 GMT -5 phunluvin82 said:

May 18, 2012 9:56:40 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

I want to be like those women.

Ditto

Tritto. I long to be a "lady who lunches"

[Deleted]

What's wrong w/ that?

[brookles]

May 18, 2012 9:54:18 GMT -5 @septimus said:

Of course when I mention this to DH he says "but you don't want to be like those women we saw at lunch last week" (they were in their late 40s, all wearing tennis outfits and drinking heavily at lunch--at least 4 bottles of wine while DH and I were next to them.)... Actually drinking heavily sounds good right now :-)

What would be so wrong with that? They're living the dream.

[SJ]

I still do not understand why you can't outsource all the driving.

Quitting your job to lunch, drink & do fun things sounds great.

Quitting your job to spend 5+ hours a day in the car sounds like true hell on earth.

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May 18, 2012 10:02:38 GMT -5 @gypsy said:

Also, I've been meaning to ask you know that you've been there quite a few years...

Has TN grown on you at all? Would you leave in a heartbeat? Indifference?

It has grown on me... I hate all the driving. I hate driving in general and I hate that it is the only option.

I like that it is clean and the weather fairly mild.

I hate the politics here.

[Deleted]

Does school sell lunch?

[Deleted]

May 18, 2012 10:04:32 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

May 18, 2012 10:03:30 GMT -5 SJ said:

I still do not understand why you can't outsource all the driving.

Quitting your job to lunch, drink & do fun things sounds great.

Quitting your job to spend 5+ hours a day in the car sounds like true hell on earth.

agree agree agree.

Honestly I'm not sure I would trust anyone else to drive my precious cargo.

[Pom]

It sounds like you have already decided.
There is nothing to stop you from working again when your family's schedule isn't so demanding.

[Deleted]

I don't understand why you don't hire a nanny to do this driving around stuff.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2012 10:03:30 GMT -5 SJ said:

I still do not understand why you can't outsource all the driving.

Quitting your job to lunch, drink & do fun things sounds great.

Quitting your job to spend 5+ hours a day in the car sounds like true hell on earth.

Mmhmm. Can you quit and still outsource the driving, or is that a no go?

[slug*bug]

May 18, 2012 9:59:51 GMT -5 mishap said:

I don't think your DH made a very convincing analogy.

Seriously. Tennis and a liquid lunch with friends sounds pretty good right now.

[aspentosh]

May 18, 2012 9:59:51 GMT -5 mishap said:

I don't think your DH made a very convincing analogy.

Uh, yeah. Where is the negative?

[evans]

May 18, 2012 10:09:21 GMT -5 @septimus said:

May 18, 2012 10:04:32 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

agree agree agree.

Honestly I'm not sure I would trust anyone else to drive my precious cargo.

You and your H hate driving. They are likely more safe with someone with training (I'd get someone with a CDL).

You've been bitching about this for YEARS. It's time to either do something about it or stop bitching. It's not going to get better anytime soon.

/toughlove

[hannamarin]

You love your kids. You can afford to devote all your time to them. You want to. Do what you want if you can afford it.
You wouldnt be a tennis lady...you have no time.

[SuziSaysDa]

I could totally be a ladies that lunch and wear tennis skirts all day. But being a SAHM does not appeal to me at all.

[h]

I think the ladies who lunch gig can be awesome if done right. My mom hasn't held paid employment since 1973. She has a big circle of amazing friends who she is constantly lunching (and drinking) with, has sat on the boards of several interesting community organizations and done a ton of volunteer work over the years, held local elected office a couple times, reads like three books a week and is therefore one of the most educated and well-read people I know, has redone and flipped a few houses for significant profit, and most recently got a book deal (children's books). She loves her life and is very fulfilled without paid employment. I think it's a good life if your financial situation is such that you can swing it.

[Deleted]

I am having this dilemma...I only work 20hrs & only for the last year. I like working but I am already tired of juggling. DH doesn't help because when I complain he says "quit, you never have to work again". So tempting right now since DD3 has grown to hate daycare. Good luckwith your decision...I'm still on the fence.

[dirtyred]

May 18, 2012 9:54:18 GMT -5 @septimus said:

Of course when I mention this to DH he says "but you don't want to be like those women we saw at lunch last week" (they were in their late 40s, all wearing tennis outfits and drinking heavily at lunch--at least 4 bottles of wine while DH and I were next to them.)... Actually drinking heavily sounds good right now :-)

I am one of those women. It rocks. :drink:

[Wines Not Whines]

What would your daily schedule be if you didn't work? Does it sound appealing?

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May 18, 2012 11:36:29 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

What would your daily schedule be if you didn't work? Does it sound appealing?

I could volunteer more at my kids school. I quit JL because I just didn't have time.

I would have time to take exercise classes, cook proper dinners and maybe do the dishes and laundry...

Today is just driving me batty.

I decided to go work in the parents' lounge at my kids school after dropping off the lunches I forgot when SD texted me that she forgot part of her project so now I"m back home unable to work because of the jackhammer in my backyard.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2012 11:16:22 GMT -5 L said:

I am having this dilemma...I only work 20hrs & only for the last year. I like working but I am already tired of juggling. DH doesn't help because when I complain he says "quit, you never have to work again". So tempting right now since DD3 has grown to hate daycare. Good luckwith your decision...I'm still on the fence.

I wish DH would just say what he really things. He justs keeps saying shit like "you are amazing".... I'm a fucking basket case

[gt7301b]

Just change out of your tennis skirt before you start drinking!

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May 18, 2012 12:25:56 GMT -5 jillbot5000 said:

Didn't you try being a SAHM before, and ultimately were unhappy?

the grass greener :-)

They are all in school now so I think it would be different.

[megs193]

May 18, 2012 12:36:06 GMT -5 @septimus said:

May 18, 2012 12:25:56 GMT -5 jillbot5000 said:

Didn't you try being a SAHM before, and ultimately were unhappy?

the grass greener :-)

They are all in school now so I think it would be different.

That makes a big difference. My son started preschool this year and I finally have time for myself. Of course I am starting over again in July when I have this baby but one day I will be free again!

I think what it comes down to is whether or not you will be equally fulfilled with whatever you chose to do with your free time. If you think that you will then to me it would be an easy decision.

[Wines Not Whines]

May 18, 2012 12:09:10 GMT -5 @septimus said:

May 18, 2012 11:36:29 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

What would your daily schedule be if you didn't work? Does it sound appealing?

I could volunteer more at my kids school. I quit JL because I just didn't have time.

I would have time to take exercise classes, cook proper dinners and maybe do the dishes and laundry...

This sounds really good to me.