You are right, your H is wrong. For one it's annoying, for two it's potentially damaging your lawn, and for three if this dumb bitch trips over a tree root and sprains her ankle you know she's going to try to sue you so it's also a liability. I think everyone here has given lots of good options.
Post by InBetweenDays on Oct 26, 2018 12:22:39 GMT -5
I think I'd email her one more time. Say something like "I wanted to come out and chat when I saw you bringing your yard waste bin across our yard the other day, but when I got outside you had already gone in. We want to once again ask you to NOT trespass across our lawn like that. We are reaching out to you one last time in hopes that we don't have to escalate this to the HOA." (or whomever you would talk to next).
I would send her another email saying your security camera (AKA you) caught her that day at XX:XX time and next time you will file trespassing charges since you have clear evidence it was her.
Just out of curiosity, is there another way for her to get to her backyard from the front at all?
I'm having trouble picturing it.
Yeah, she can go around the other side of her house to get to her backyard. Both of our houses face west: we are her neighbor to the north. She doesn’t even have neighbors to the south of her because they are on the corner so it’s just the street.
In that case...yeah I'd be pissed and I would say something to her again.
I'll admit I was a little undecided (obviously in the minority) at first thinking it doesn't really affect you, but if she has another way around she absolutely take what I assume is the long way around.
All the talk of gates and cameras seems premature, given that you haven't even contacted her a second time. I wouldn't spend a dime on this until you've contacted her again and called her out on her lies. I agree that you could and should have confronted her any of the many times you've seen her do this, including today. My recommendation is to go knock on her door right now. Tell her you saw her do it again, don't even try to lie because you know it was her, and that it needs to stop NOW. You asked her a year ago to stop and she clearly has no intention of doing so. So now this is criminal trespassing, and the next time you see her do it, the police will be involved. Then storm off. Don't even let her get a word in because fuck her lying ass.
If you don't want to do that, or if you want a paper trail, send the above in an email. "Judy, I saw you drag your trash can across our yard again today. Don't try to lie and say it wasn't you. I saw you. It was clearly you every time, including today. We asked you to stop a year ago and you clearly haven't. So I'm saying it again, very clearly. NEVER SET FOOT ON OUR PROPERTY AGAIN. If you set foot in our yard again, we'll consider it criminal trespassing, and the police will be involved."
After that, if you feel you need to get her on camera, then get a cheap one. Or maybe call the police and ask them what the next steps should be, since you've talked with her twice and she's been hostile (I'm assuming that's how she'll respond today). They may say get her on camera, or they may offer to stop by and talk to her, or maybe they have other suggestions. Plus that way you're already on record with them as having this problem. Good luck!
I would send her another email saying your security camera (AKA you) caught her that day at XX:XX time and next time you will file trespassing charges since you have clear evidence it was her.
Lying is a bad idea. There's no need to, and it'll discredit the OP's legitimate complaint.
Post by lovelyshoes on Oct 26, 2018 12:48:16 GMT -5
Tell her you already have it on camera and the next time she’ll be served with a complaint. Do you have an association? If you do, call them and ask them to send her a letter.
Post by simpsongal on Oct 26, 2018 13:02:49 GMT -5
I'll just add - we're on a corner lot w/a rather large front yard that has 3 mature maples ringing the front yard. Sometimes kids cut across the yard as a short cut. Whatever. But sometimes grown-ass adults w/dogs walk across our yard (like a few feet from our house, inside the maples). Baffling.
ETA: But y'all may remember that someone actually came on our property and cut down one of our trees. DH is still pi$$ed about that. By way of follow up, we're pretty sure it was a neighbor a few doors down (it was a rental, they moved to Florida...bc of course).
Our old neighbor let their dog poop in our yard all the time. Every week, I would go knock on their door and tell them to come pick up their dog’s shit. And if they missed some, I would go back again. The disrespect is outrageous and I refuse to let stuff like that go.
Omg how did you stay calm??
Well, let's just say that we weren't exactly friends.
If she fell over her giant waste bin while she was dragging it across your lawn, I bet she wouldn’t hesistate to sue you for her medical expenses. That you WOULD be responsible for paying.
Sucks, right?
Your husband is wrong, this is a big deal. Protect yourselves. I am glad you emailed her.