Monday Vents and Celebrations

[mommyatty]

It was a great weekend. Saturday morning, DD and I went to a winter market at school. She found a bowl for her grandma that her friend’s dad made. It’s really beautiful. They had games and crafts for the kids, so she had a ball!

The kids watched Rudolph and Frosty over the weekend, and they loved them both.

Yesterday while DH went to the grocery store, the kids played outside in the leaves. The had so much fun, and I got some really amazing pictures of them.

This week is going to be busy at work. So much to do and I’m just not motivated. Sigh. I need to find my motivation.

[phdmomma]

DD (3) has up a ton last night, she has a cold and had a bloody nose. I am the tired. But am going to work to pretend to be a real and awake adult. DH has the better part of this month off due to his company's use it or lose it vacation policy. So I convinced him to let her sleep in, and then take her to daycare. And I took her brother to the bus stop and then walked to work.

The weekend was good. I also have a cold and my side it still bothering me, but it was good overall. I finished procuring and wrapping all of the Christmas gifts for everyone, minus myself. Those are DH's job.

[rere]

I feel like I have been beat. Saturday started at 7:30 with breakfast for Santa. It was awesome. We were packed and the kids were so cute. They loved whipped cream and holiday sprinkled pancakes. I went right from serving pancakes to making salads and baked potatoes for the steak dinner reverse raffle that night. It was a lot of fun and we made a lot of money. Then all of the school parents took their celebration to the local bar. Way more people than any PTO meeting. I got home around 11:30.

Sunday to my aunts for soup and then the parade then volleyball. DD was in a mood. Apparently, they rode in the back of our cousin's ATV in the parade and DS beat her in the head with a hat with jingle bells the entire parade route which ruined her day and put her in a mood for volleyball.

Today, I have 23 Freshmen hosting a holiday party for 22 3rd graders for a service project. It should be chaos.

I am out the next 2 days for training and classes, my regular class Thursday, I am training therapists first thing Friday, then hopefully I get the rest of the day off. I need to clean my house and do some errands since not much got done this weekend.

[ilovelucyvv]

I should be happy to get an unexpected day off work on Wednesday related to the Bush memorial, but I'm not. I had most of my day scheduled with meetings for which I am the coordinater so now I have to now I have to find new dates for everything. I'm probably going to have to work late too.

It would be a little more fun if I didn't have 3 yo DS with me on Wednesday. I guess I will try to do some heavy cleaning/decluttering of the house as long as he doesn't get in the way too much.

[twinmomma]

Had a really nice weekend. I'm finding that coping with kid free weekends is getting easier and easier. Due to schedule issues with XH, this was my only weekend until New Year's when I'm kid free, so I had to crank out a lot of chores. I made 4 quick quilt tops for my staff's Christmas gifts, cleaned the house, and organized all the Christmas gifts I've bought. Tonight I'll do laundry and groceries so that when the girls come back tomorrow, I'm ready and in a good place to tackle this chaotic month. Binged on Hallmark Christmas movies the entire time I did all this.

We also officially announced on social media that we're divorced. I wasn't sure if I wanted to, but our circle of mutual friends and family is just too big after 15 years together and I just couldn't go into this holiday season having to hash out with every.single.person in our lives why he wasn't with me or I wasn't with him. I felt like a blanket statement was just easier for my mental health. Everyone has been lovely and supportive, at least to my face, so that's been a relief.

[meagain]

I had a pretty relaxing weekend.

This morning, however, I got up at 4 to go workout and now the tops of my legs are killing me and I have Zumba tonight. This getting in shape stuff sucks. LOL

[mustardseed2007]

We had our family Christmas themed 5K on Saturday. Everyone successfully crossed the finish line but it was a struggle. DS kept asking if I was sure the 1K was sold out.

Then the kids had a birthday party. The favor was a very large stuffed dinosaur for every kid...so whoever wanted to know about useful party favors, there's always the option to spend too much money on large stuffed animals. My kids loved them. Although DD is probably going to have a dinosaur themed party in march and...we are not doing that.

Yesterday I got to go on a long trail run and I had a very hard time. I mean, it was fine but I was slow. I hate it when that happens but I couldn't get myself to go faster. When I got home we went to the park and met one of my long long time friends for a playdate with her sweet autistic son. They don't live close so it's been a long time since we played with them. The last time was pre-diagnosis and this time was post diagnosis and intervention...he's just come SUCH a long way with communication and behavior. It was awesome to see.
It was very nice and he and DD had fun. Whereas my weird 6 year old decided he didn't want to play on playground equipment so he literally sat in the corner and meditated. After a while he said he was bored...then get off your butt and go play like a normal kid? Seriously I don't get him sometimes.

[k3am]

I’m still sick. Seriously, 16 days. I’m officially Q4’s bitch between lice, broken foot, sick, etc.

[erinshelley21]

I spent too much of my time on Friday and yesterday digging holes in the yard at my office building. Our buyers have backed out because of the unofficial concern about an underground storage tank being on the property. The asshole that did the phase 1 said in the narrative that it was located in one corner of the 3.5 acres but then drew it on the complete opposite side of the parcel in his sketch. We went with the sketch and dug about 20 holes at least 1.5' deep in about a 100' long area next to the parking lot. We found 0 evidence of a tank. Going to try to get them back with a soil test. We've talked to 4 previous owners, my mom doesn't remember a tank ever being an issue with any of my dad's financing, old business partner doesn't remember, former employees of the company that would have had the tank don't remember anything, my FIL who has lived here for decades doesn't remember and is just as stumped as we are. It's a CF.

DS was in the Christmas parade on and we decorated our tree Friday, on Saturday we did breakfast with Santa, decorated the inside of the house and then I went to a friends birthday get together where we ate, made a craft and drank spiked hot chocolate. It was the best. Yesterday we had church, groceries and DS's school program.

No real vents other than the freaking building drama that never seems to end.

[mae0111]

It was a pretty good weekend! Saturday we cut down our tree, then went to my parents’ house to get their tree up. I dropped off toys for the local food bank toy drive, and then just hung out because I slept for 2.5 hrs on Friday night.

Sunday DD1 started basketball and I helped coach. The kids are super nice and all tried hard. It was much more laid back than last year. I’m glad we made the switch to the other town.

This morning was a mess. DD1 refuses to get up and get dressed. I told her she could stay home if she was really sick, but that she had to go back to bed for a while. Tears and tantruming ensued. Finally got dressed right when we had to leave, so the kids were late today. I hate mornings like this. I feel like shit all day afterwards.

[waverly]

Dec 3, 2018 9:45:56 GMT -5 k3am said:

I’m still sick. Seriously, 16 days. I’m officially Q4’s bitch between lice, broken foot, sick, etc.

Right there with you. This spring I had my allergic reaction which lasted through August. Then 2 colds since August, TMJ disorder, full body eczema attack and now my lovely neighbor gave me the stomach virus. I haven’t slept since 2 am, and I am only marginally better.

The weekend before I got sick was nice.

[justcheckingin73]

I can relate mustardseed2007! Sundays are usually my longer trail runs and I tell myself, go slow, it’s supposed to be a fun run day. But I always get so pumped when I have a good pace that when I go slower, I beat myself up a little.

DH’s office paid for several of the employees and spouses to take part in a local 5K. I signed up and was ready to get my sub-30 best time ever PR! But, it decided to be cold and rainy and miserable. I actually got a PR and placed 6 out of 39 in my age group, however I finished at 30:31. I’m still happy - it was very hard and I couldn’t feel my legs in the beginning so I’ll call it a win.

After my race and very long, hot shower I went grocery shopping while DH and the kids put up the tree and decorations. Then we made cut out cookies and DH and I had a fundraiser that night. This fundraiser had a lot of smaller silent auction items so we ended up taking home a HS swag bag, a set of luggage and watch for DH.

Sunday was laundry, finishing the cookies, more shopping and stressing out about leaving on Friday for London, being gone for a week, coming back for another week of work and then being on holiday vacation. I’m looking forward to all of it but my motivation is already going south and I still have so much to do.

[supertrooper1]

DS has a cold and DH and I are coming down with it too. DH decided to stay home today to go get labs done. He has to fast and he is cranky. Today and tomorrow are my days off. We're all home and it's going to be a challenge today I have a feeling.

[polecat8]

DD and I had an awesome time at the National Museum of the US Air Force on Saturday. It has been a long time since we did something 1-on-1.
On Sunday, we all went downtown to see Santa. The weather was gorgeous - 60s and sunny in SW PA. We finished up by going grocery shopping and getting fast food for dinner.
This morning, I got a HIDA scan to see what my gallbladder is doing and possible explain my nausea and pain. It was wonderful in that I got to take a 2 hour nap while I was getting scanned.

[mommyatty]

Vent. My MIL. The kids’ school has a store where kids can buy gifts for their families. We send in money, and they have a list of people they can buy for and the amounts they can spend on each person. It’s awesome and the kids LOVE it. They love shopping BY THEMSELVES. They love the whole experience. MIL this year is volunteering so she can be the person who helps my kids. I want them to get to shop BY THEMSELVES. But no. She has to effing involve herself. This means 1) they lose the opportunity for independence, and 2) they can’t buy her gifts since SHE IS STANDING THERE, which means I had to use time this weekend with my kids buying her gifts.

Can’t my family have one single solitary thing where she doesn’t stick her big nose? Just one?

[186momx]

Weekend vent: DH just couldn't figure out what to do over the weekend and just wanted to go out and take DD and I with to wander aimlessly around stores so he didn't have to be at the house. DD and I wanted nothing to do with this and just wanted to chill at home in our PJs with a nice book. DH ended up winning and DD and I were pills about it Saturday. Sunday I was fine lets price browse X at the home improvement stores which took way longer than needed as DH so wanted to do aisles at each store just to kill time. DD walked and read at most of the stores.

Ladies I have no idea what I'm going to do with him this coming weekend as he has Friday off. Why can't he just go do something on his own?

I have no desire to decorate the tree. The tree is up and has been up but still is undecorated. I look at the tree and just think how much work it is to decorate and take it down. The outside lights are done and on so that counts right. Me who is being a scrooge and I'm usually the one with all the Christmas spirit.

[phdmomma]

186momx, Does it really have to be decorated? Or if it does, can you convince DH to do it during his Friday off, as a project? Or, just buy a bunch of tinsel and throw some handfuls on and call it good? I get super tired of being the one who has to make all of the holiday magic happen at our house. Which leads me to trying to get other people into it, or calling it good enough.

[xctsclrx]

I start my first full week of solo parenting 2 children. My son already is begging for his daddy to come back. Not so that daddy will play with him, but so he can take care of his sister and he can have his mommy's undivided attention. He also wants daddy when he gets in trouble with mommy. So much fun at my house right now. I have already meal prepped for this week! That was my major accomplishment Sunday.


ETA: DH left on Thursday and he might be back in time to put the kiddos to bed Saturday night. If flights do not get delayed I might let DS stay up late to wait for him. 

[supertrooper1]

186momx, I felt this way a couple of years ago. DH ended up doing most of the decorating and I put a few ornaments on and called it good. It did make me feel better once it was done.

[waverly]

I drank while decorativing the tree (pre-stomach virus). DH did the lights. I helped with garland and the kids did most of the ornaments.

It was better once it was done and we don’t have a ton of decorations so it’s under an hour. I haven’t put the rest away yet because oh well.

[mommyatty]

186momx- if no one in the family is clamoring for decorating, I would drape some ribbon down the sides, throw the topper on, and call it a day. In my house, we put up the tree Friday night and Saturday morning, my 6 year old was in my room at 6:30 asking if it was time to decorate the tree. She actually helped me with the lights and garland. Then her brother got up and the three of us did ornaments while DH got us donuts and coffee. Which I needed because 6:30 is very early to deck the flipping halls.

[sdlaura]

Or 186momx, can you just turn your DD loose with some construction paper, scissors, and ribbon, and let her decorate it however she wants?

[186momx]

The problem is DD wants to decorate. She even lugged the 3 large Rubbermaid totes out of the closet and put them in the living room for me. The problem is everything is on the breakable side so everything is wrapped so that means I get unwrap everything and then DD is great about decorating the tree with minimal help. DH would prefer we skipped the entire month of Nov/Dec so he is of no help and it is actually easier to do when he isn't home. I know once I get started I will be okay it is just finding the motivation to get started. Maybe that is the problem, DH was home Thanksgiving weekend so I feel like I've missed my window. Hmm. I do think I will not put up as many as normal.

[twinmomma]

mommyatty, I have one of those too. Purposely didn't invite her to the school's Santa Breakfast event this year because last year she totally took over and made it 10x harder to do anything with the kids. Fingers crossed my kids don't invite her after school this week.

186momx, Maybe ease into it with just some lights? The lights on the tree are really the best part to me.

[xctsclrx]

Monday night vent. I picked up my daughter from daycare and they hadn't fed her since noon. I picked her up at 445. They told me that she had eaten 3 times, but I packed 4 bottles, received 2 empties and 2 full bottles. Obviously she didn't eat 3 times. This morning I talked to the main teacher and she read off 2 times that she ate, which were different than the ones they gave me. I think the teacher they had in there didn't know who my daughter was and they FORGOT TO FEED her. Then had the audacity to tell me that she was pretty fussy that afternoon. NO F**** way she was hungry.


Anyway, main teacher was mad this morning and the daycare director was mad last night and this morning. They are going to give me a full write up of what happened and what will happen to make sure it doesn't happen again. I can't ask for more than that and at least I know they care.

[k3am]

@cxlctrx who I can’t tag because impossible...

We had that happen with DD once. They SWORE she had 4 bottles, but that couldn’t have happened if they sent home two. I came to the conclusion that either she hadn’t finished one and they reoffered it to her later (which is against their rules, but I was okay with), they skipped one, or they fed her one of someone else’s. We never got an answer.

And now five years later, I still have no idea what happened, but we kept her there and sent the next kid there, so we obviously decided it was a one off, but I also obviously am still annoyed with it.

And there was the time when DD was 5 weeks old and we left her with MIL who didn’t feed her for 9 hours because she wouldn’t take a bottle and didn’t call... my kids were never alone with her again until she could self advocate.

[waverly]

DH did that once. I came home and he had fed the baby breakfast and lunch I think, but had not given her bottles. She was old enough to be on table food, but not old enough to go without bottles. I can't remember the exact age. And he claimed since she didn't cry that she was fine. I mean maybe, but she still needed the bottles, and she wasn't the type the always pitch a fit about it.


Sometimes I picked DD up, and she only had 2 bottles but the timing working out where I had fed her right before we got there, and if they were doing every 4 hours then it would have been 11 and 3 or something like that. And then feed her when I got home. That doesn't work for cranky/ hungry babies who obviously should have been fed and possibly are eating more often.  She was older and on table food at that point as well. 

[2chatter]

Tuesday Celebration: I knocked DS’ loose front tooth out by accident at the pharmacy last night (face to bracelet). After cleaning up the blood, I managed not to lose the tooth. The other celebration?? I remembered to be the tooth fairy on the first night! He was ... surprised.

[k3am]

Whine: DH’s theme for his party is black tie AND red, white or black colors. Neither dress meets that requirement. Whoops.