TWERKs and DDOTs

[mommyatty]

It is Thursday, right? Please, God, it has to be almost Friday.

I’m slammed at work. I’m so far behind, I’m feeling completely hopeless. And I have no backup. It’s incredibly frustrating. I’m writing this while on a conference call for my boss and I’m taking a break from multi-tasking doing a PowerPoint for another project. Plus I have 2 litigation matters where not only am I a lead in-house attorney or the lead in-house attorney but I’m also a witness in one of them. Plus there’s a criminal trial next year where there was a protestor on my company’s property where I’m going to have to testify as to how that affected our company and why it’s a really big deal when someone chains themselves to railroad tracks at our gates. Being a witness is a ton of stress. A ton. And no one around here seems to get that. Plus litigation is a ton of work. As are my three other non-lawyer jobs.

I’m dying here and no one cares.

[186momx]

I have conferences this afternoon at 3:20 for 10 minutes. DD gave me this giant hug and told me to not be scared and it doesn't matter. I have a feeling this year's conference is going to be similar to K when I get told my kid knows nothing. Wish me luck and I will TWERK tomorrow or later today.

[waverly]

I have the dentist appointment today for a mouth guard. I hope it works and I don't have to go to the TMJ specialists at the major university hospital here. I have identified them as my next steps, but they require a referral. They will bill my insurance though, and probably have an appointment before the laughable March 7th that the other university hospital offered me (one of the not as good ones IMO).

I have a question. I have been holding off on applying for a job at a nearby library. The reason is because the director was snarky with me on a group e-mail about a group purchase. So I henceforth decided he was a jerk and that I don't want to work for a jerk. My current boss couldn't be nicer and more supportive, but he is perpetually incompetent. I mean not to the point that the entire place is in flames, but budget is trickling away and has been for years in addition to other things. So WWYD? The other job is 15 minutes closer, but not necessarily like that in traffic. Pay is maybe 2-3K less a fewer holidays. it is a bigger place with a much larger budget and it seems like a much faster pace. Plus I was kind of hoping my next job would not be as a manager, but it might be good for a change...


So basically more work, evenings, weekends, faster pace, for slightly less pay.  Not sure on days off.  But I could be a good thing since it is closer and kids are getting older, and the pay would go back up in a year or two because they are presumably not always under hiring restrictions and pay raise restrictions like we are.  Sometimes I like the slow pace here because I can catch my breath and manage work from home.  Sometimes I wonder what the heck I am doing here staring at the wall.  


ETA- I looked it up during rush hour, and it is pretty much the same length of drive as here, only more traffic- maybe 5 minutes less.  But going home for lunch could be a thing. It seems like the only pro is that they are bigger and have a better budget and less incompetence (theoretically).  

[twinmomma]

mommyatty, I hear you. Solidarity. I now report directly to the CEO. My feedback to him was that it would be helpful to not have projects dropped on my team last minute. He followed that up with three more projects. We are drowning, but I can't realistically hire anyone because much of what's causing the overload is stuff I have to do myself because it's leadership/management stuff. I can't delegate that.

[erinshelley21]

The buyer of our building backed out. A Phase 1 from 1991 indicated there may have been an underground storage tank at one time. No one ever recorded it being put in so no one ever recorded it being taken out. DH and I spent 5 hours over the course of last weekend digging holes in the general area where it might be and found not a damn thing. Our realtor reached out to theirs to see if a soil test would satisfy them and he hasn't responded. Their realtor's major concern about the test was that a bank wouldn't approve financing. Since that report was done, there have been AT LEAST 2 loans approved, if not 3 or 4 since there were 2 owners between when my dad purchased it and the time of the phase 1.

Work is still going well. Business cards are finally on their way to me haha. One of our locations was going to move, then it didn't. I have a prospect ask me for a card yesterday when I stopped to see him. Thankfully it was an old client of my dad's that is really laid back so it was more humorous than anything. I am about out of business to transfer, but thankfully have some promising prospects that I'm meeting with in January.

[rere]

I don't know how teachers do it. 2 days in working straight at the school and 12 hours yesterday in training on mental health, and done with this week, I wish.

Ds asked if he could go back and see the specialist about his growth. He had been adamant in the past he didn't want to pursue it, but now he says he is shorter than everyone else and wants to go. He has been catching up some this year with some kids who took off early, but he is still smaller than most. I told DH and let him sit on it a day. Cue the fight tonight. He can only think about money, but I personally cannot live with myself if there is something that can be fixed, my kid asked me to help him, and we told him it was too expensive. We may go to the mat on this one. I don't think they can do much for him, growth hormones only give a couple of inches, so basically looking at 5'8' or so to 5'10', but we should at least look into it. It doesn't help that a couple of his friends are 6'3', while currently he is around 5'1'.


I don't see how a man that wants to spend big money on trucks, vacation, the house, etc.. is factoring in money when it comes to your kid.

[mustardseed2007]

erinshelley21, how did the 1991 phase I come to the conclusion that there could be a storage tank if it wasn't recorded? Rather than doing a phase II, can you order your own, newer phase I?

[mustardseed2007]

rere, how old is he? I know we've talked about this before.

We have an appointment with our endocrinologist in 11 days and I'm hopeful that when we go, she'll get serious about trying to get DS growth hormone for idiopathic short stature since he'll finally be 7 years old and that's significant to her for some reason.

[twinmomma]

I am currently trying to juggle a formal work party with a PTA event. Of course both are this weekend. I really, really want to quit PTA. But guilt.

[waverly]

rere, isn't he 15?

twinmomma, quit its OK- they will get over it. You could frame it as "with the new year,..." My personal philosophy is that PTA is for the SAHM's, and what I am going to do is read in the classroom, volunteer for the class parties, volunteer for other events such as field day and field trips, and do some of the school fundraisers. We can't do it all, and that is OK. Also, if you want to do it all fine- but make "all" things you enjoy (embracing my inner Laura Vanderkam).

[twinmomma]

waverly, The guilt is mainly because my co-chair is the dad of my kids' BFF. So it's not like I can quit and then just not deal with it.

[mommyatty]

twinmomma- I’m with waverly. Plus you aren’t a teacher’s wife anymore. No need to try to help out any more than any other civilian mom. Be super-apologetic, but quit!

[xctsclrx]

I am going to complain about my ear infection hopefully one last time. I have had one since Nov. 10 and they SUCK. Was started on antibiotics again yesterday and hopefully in a few days it will be feeling better. I need pain free sleep.

Also I have officially survived my first full week of solo parenting two littles. DH comes home Saturday and I have already made Christmas shopping plans with one of my friends for Sunday.

[waverly]

twinmomma, well I guess it is only 5 more months right? Otherwise I think the only exit strategy is to rope someone else into that role and gracefully turn it over to them, but I am guessing the number of people chomping at the bit to be co-chair are slim. Maybe you can delegate some of the work to other volunteers.

[k3am]

I’m also going to jump on the complaining about being sick train. Today is day 19. I’m pretty sure I was almost done with one cold and picked up another.

I’m worried it’s going to ruin the holiday party. #priorities.

(I don’t hashtag IRL btw)

[186momx]

twinmomma, I'm also thinking of quitting our PTO. I'm testing it out during busy season starting in 2019. The principle tried to push me into organizing, staffing, running Bingo night on Jan 31st and I was like no I have my own deadlines right then and she was like oh you have a few extra hours right. Luckily DD's teacher from last year was like no she doesn't have extra hours starting in January thank you Mrs. J.


rere, with it DS asking then I would do everything possible to go and see if he can still do the stuff.

[supertrooper1]

We booked our spring break trip. We decided on Phoenix. I really wanted a resort with a lazy pool, but DH talked sense into me. We were able to rent a house with a private pool for 1/3 of the cost of a resort. And the flight to Phoenix was sorter and cheaper than San Antonio, plus we can fly out of our regional airport. Hurry up April.

Stupid swing shift coworker that just came back to work took 5 days to get her access back, including the main system that we use all day long. Not sure what she did for 5 days. But at least not doing anything meant no extra work for me to fix.

My work trip back in March is still paying off. I was able to show off my knowledge of the job during the trip and make connections. I'm now being hand picked to be on a national review team for a new SOP in my specialty. My supervisor really played it up in his email up the chain; "Supertrooper's dedication to the mission and her expertise is recognized on the national level". Thanks boss!

[rere]

mustardseed2007,waverly , 186momx , He is 15. This only became an issue when he was 13 and at the time his bone growth was 2 years behind, so we were OK. He is still measuring 13 at 15, so they say that is good and we have time. He is not one of these kids that was noticeably smaller all his life. It was only in puberty that others took off and he is still small. He really hasn't hit full puberty, stage 2 out I think 5. He is projected 5ft 8, but I am 5ft 9 and DH 6ft, so they say he should be closer to 6ft 1.

DH is adamant that he was the same and took off senior year and even grew through 19. He is probably right, but I don't want to take the chance.

[erinshelley21]

Dec 6, 2018 14:14:31 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

erinshelley21 , how did the 1991 phase I come to the conclusion that there could be a storage tank if it wasn't recorded? Rather than doing a phase II, can you order your own, newer phase I?

At the time there was a concrete slab with a vent pipe in the middle. On Google Earth you can see a square outline that looks like it could have been where a slab would have been. We dug there and nothing. I'm kind of afraid to do another phase I lol. 

[mustardseed2007]

rere, have you seen an endocrinologist already and explored the cost of a stim test? That's going to be your first step, and the STIM test was not very expensive at all for us. Maybe 150? It was covered by insurance.

[k3am]

May or may not deserve it's own thread.

You have an employee that isn't working out. Employee is 150% capable, but just doesn't seem to care. Doesn't seem to enjoy working at your company, does the minimum that's asked of them, and is never willing to assist with things that aren't in their narrow job scope. Rumor has it, that employee is interviewing elsewhere.

Are there ANY circumstances that you would bring up that you knew they were interviewing and/or would indicate that it isn't working out and they need to make a decision? Without getting HR involved, not recommending a PIP, etc?

[mustardseed2007]

Dec 6, 2018 15:42:07 GMT -5 erinshelley21 said:

Dec 6, 2018 14:14:31 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

erinshelley21 , how did the 1991 phase I come to the conclusion that there could be a storage tank if it wasn't recorded? Rather than doing a phase II, can you order your own, newer phase I?

At the time there was a concrete slab with a vent pipe in the middle. On Google Earth you can see a square outline that looks like it could have been where a slab would have been. We dug there and nothing. I'm kind of afraid to do another phase I lol. 

What does your Phase I recommend? If your Phase I recommends a Phase II soil sampling, I would go ahead and do it. Any buyer will want to see that. 

If your Phase I recommended no further action, then your buyer's timidity makes no sense. 

[mustardseed2007]

k3am, if it was my good friend and they were screwing me. Because being my friend I would hope they care about me enough to take action.

If it's just a coworker who seems to hate all their coworkers, including me, then I wouldn't think that saying anything would help.

[k3am]

I guess I should add.. I'm not the one who wants to say something. My boss does, in his capacity as boss. I think it's a stupid/unncessary move.

[rere]

Dec 6, 2018 16:03:49 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

rere , have you seen an endocrinologist already and explored the cost of a stim test? That's going to be your first step, and the STIM test was not very expensive at all for us. Maybe 150? It was covered by insurance.

I think we were quoted at $1500, but have not ran it through insurance.  Our detectable is $1000, so we would cover most of that .  If he needs the shots, that is what may cost the most.  

[mustardseed2007]

If you're not already seeing one, I'd make an appointment with an endocrinologist. It takes a few months to get in to see one anyway. From there you can take things one step at a time. Hearing what an endo has to say may give your and your DS some clarity.

[k3am]

I got my dresses! Neither fits well. Womp womp.

Cute, but the straps are way too long... It may have to do.






Cute, but the chest gaps so far away... I’m talking 2-3+ inches. Anyone could look down and see a full boob. (What little of it there is)



Oh and another TWERK: Kaiser says I likely have pneumonia or bronchitis, neither of which they want brought into the office, and both of which are treated with antibiotics.

[ilovelucyvv]

k3am both of those look like they fit so awkwardly. I hope you have another plan.

ETA Is Rent the Runway going to overnight you some other options?

[waverly]

Update: 2nd dentist won’t guve me a mouth guard because my jaw swings over to the side too much. Referral to an oral surgeon. I don’t think I have ever seen so many doctors for none of them to do anything.

[k3am]

ilovelucyvv , yep! I've got two new ones coming by Saturday... Of course it says they'll arrive by 8pm and the event starts much earlier than that... I gave into the dress code DH hadn't told me about (red, white or black) and have two coming:

 

and this one:



Honestly, the bottom one probably won't work either. I think the reason both of the others fit so weirdly is because I'm so flat chested. But if worst comes to worst, the purple one fits okay enough. 

It's also obvious that I have no consistent style, right? 

I'm also really bummed about the boob thing. In college, I had a C cup. I now have... nothing.