Why can't we have a decent, common sense work from home policy. On days like today, why force everyone out on slick roads and negative temps? Arguments against are, we can't be sure people are really working. That is a hiring problem. If you hire people you can't trust to get the job done, there is a problem. It's not fair to staff that can't work from home. I am sorry nurses can't do exams in their living rooms. However, I can get a lot done at home. Actually, my children are about a million times less distracting than most of my coworkers. I could get a lot of my reporting done, since it is all online. Get started on my grant, online. Get some materials created for class. Even students are working from home now instead of taking snow day. The other option is people taking the day off and nothing gets done. It is 2019 people, let's move on in to this century. Mkay?
Dear rere, I feel your pain. We have no WFH policy either and it's just plain silly. Most of our employees make phone calls and send emails for a living. We can do that from anywhere! Signed, Solidarity
Dear WP, I am ready to lose my damn mind. It's my busiest season of the year at work leading up to my big trip, I need to take XH back to court for divorce crap, DD2 needs a 504 so I have to find someone to diagnose her, DD1 needs to see a therapist to help process divorce stuff, and my furnace is making weird noises so I have to get someone to come deal with that. I'm exhausted and reaching that point where I am paralyzed and doing nothing, because I don't even know where to start. I don't know how I'm going to take all this time off to deal with the upcoming appointments that I know will rain down on me once I start making phone calls, so I'm not making the phone calls. Signed, Stressed to the max
can you make a list in the priority order and then cross one off each week? Can court get pushed back until after your trip? Can DD1 see the school counselor until you can find someone and then make DD2 your first priority. List always help me. Lets me take a deep breath and calm down while making it. Good luck.
Dear WP,
How do you find a workout partner? everyone I know who is into working out wants to go after work and I don't have that ability and when I mention before work they complain about the time. I have to be at the gym between 0500 and 0530 to have time. I would like someone to help keep me accountable 2-3 days a week.
xctsclrx, search the internet and FB for a Mom's Run This Town (MRTT) or She Runs This Town. Their primary focus is running (obviously) but most runners are big on cross training too. You'll find people all across the board at different fitness levels and workout preferences, but I any time I've been willing to put the effort out to coordinate working out with someone, I've been able to find someone. Or many someones.
twinmomma, hugs. Pick one thing and get that accomplished then do another. Get the furnace fixed and ask for a Saturday appointment, they do them especially during the winter months when they can't work as late due to it getting dark. Then call about DD because that could be a wait list.
Dear DD You lost your coat and hat again. You lied about it Monday saying it was in your desk. Tuesday you tell me you left it at music on Monday and couldn't get in. Mrs. J was super nice and let you and DH into school at 7:30 this morning to look. You looked in lost and found, music room, your room, gym, computer lab and nothing. Then I asked after care to look and nothing. How can your jacket and brand new hat just go missing. I don't even know what consequences you should have. No coat didn't work as it is 30 and foggy so you would have frozen at recess today as if it breaks and warms up it would be late afternoon. Do I take away the OSU vs UCLA meet on Saturday with your friend? I just don't know. Frustrated mom PS this is the 4th time loosing a jacket this school year.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 30, 2019 15:03:49 GMT -5
twinmomma, no advice, but I can commiserate. I'm almost at that point of being frozen. STBXH almost pushed me over that edge when he ended up in the ER the other night for a panic attack. So I know he's feeling it too and then this morning he took it out on me about our finances.
Dear yoga, Thank you for being a great combination of relaxing and fun today. Signed, Feeling slightly better.
I'm sorry you're there too supertrooper1. One thing that really helped me in the early days of the split was being very clear with XH that his emotional well-being and how he was coping with things could not be my responsibility. I needed to take care of myself and he needed to find his own support network that no longer involved me. It was killing me to be his sounding board for how upset he was and I couldn't carry that weight and take care of myself properly. I even went so far as to reach out to his friend and his mom at one point to tell them the same thing and that they needed to step it up.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jan 30, 2019 16:03:27 GMT -5
rere, I used to work for a company that didn’t trust its employees and I hated it. They should leave it up to each person’s manager but I know that sometimes causes issues too.
twinmomma, I’m sorry you’re feeling so overwhelmed. You are dealing with a lot. Hoping things lighten up for you soon.
Dear weather,
Please go away. My f-ing car won’t start and I’m seriously annoyed. And I’m so sick of trying things to get it going and having my parents tell me why it won’t work and that it will warm up soon. I realize you’re trying to help but I’m trying everything and don’t need feedback. I also know we are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel after tomorrow but I haven’t run in over a week, I’ve barely left the house and my mood shows it. Plus, I’m eating everything in sight.
Post by covergirl82 on Jan 30, 2019 16:33:26 GMT -5
Dear kids,
Thank you for being generally good this week (so far). I'm sorry you can't even go outside to play because it's so cold. We may have to venture out tomorrow to go to Meijer just to get out of the house, even if it means driving 25 mph to get there (thankfully it's only 4 miles away). Just think about it warming up this weekend!
Love, Mommy
Dear work,
Thank you for recognizing it's 2019 and we (most of us) don't have to come into an office to work and thank you for encouraging people to either WFH or take PTO and stay off the roads.
WPs The missing coat and hat have been found. Not in the music room. It was in the 4/5 quad as the music teacher thought it was something a big kid would wear. Still need to figure out a consequence for all this hassle. Stressed momma
Dear DD You need to step it up and remember all of your stuff. I know you can't wait for me to get Harry Potter from the library but I'm really leery of you taking it with you if you can't keep track of stuff. Can we please go back to be the responsible 7 year old that acts 30 99% of the time. stressed momma
Dear DH- thank you for supporting me so well from Bueinos Aires. I know you could tell I was losing my mind yesterday. Feeling better today. We got the internet back up and both the roombas. You sent a plow all the way from SA (he was in SA not the plow).
Dear WP- I have another question, why do I have so many questions? Wait that wasn’t it. DS failed his vision test at school for acuity. When we took him to the eye doctor he has a minor prescription that we decided not the treat like .5. Are those the same things? She is picking up on that? The plan was to wait a year and go back. The last visit was August/ end of July. It could be he is in the range for glasses now, 1.0 or higher. So take him back now?
twinmomma, I agree with one phone call a week or do the phone calls now but schedule it for no more than once a week.
Once I get 3 appointments in my schedule a week plus sports and random school events I feel like I am drowning. This was such a week- Pedi, chiro, Dentist, basketball, family reading night. Everything got canceled either by me or due to the weather except the pedi.
Post by librarychica on Jan 30, 2019 18:22:17 GMT -5
Dear DD1,
I’m so glad you’ve decided to take care an interest in your hair. We won’t undo the damage of constant chlorine and refusing to use product or groom your super-fine but lots of it wavy/curly hair instantly, but it will get better.
Love, No longer the mom of a ragamuffin
Dear self,
Savor that 100ml of wine tonight because you are losing the last of this baby belly if it kills us all. That means a strict limiting of wine and junk. I don’t know why the same weight looks so different now that you’re in your mid-30s, but you have muscles somewhere and we are going to unearth them.