TWERKS & DDOTS

[186momx]

Anyone got anything

[186momx]

DDOT: Math homework for 2nd grade last night. 437-482 Any guesses? It was a misprint on the worksheet but the answer is -45. They don't do negatives at school. DD found the whole process interesting and wants to do more like it, LOL.

[justcheckingin73]

186momx, I hate when they have mistakes on homework. I always wonder if I’m doing something wrong.

DH was able to get my car started last night and we pulled it into the garage. Ever since we had our floors and kitchen redone, we’ve had items stacked in the garage, including a huge hutch that my Dad built for my grandparents that I no longer want. We’ve been trying to offload it to someone but last night, we just moved it to the other side of the garage and squeaked in the SUV (which normally goes in the garage anyway). It started this morning! I don’t have anywhere to go but I like having the option.

Looks like this weekend will be more cleaning of the garage and getting rid of items that we’ve been holding onto since the remodel. I’m sure everyone else will be out and about too since it will be in the 40s.

[rere]

Yep. So the doctor's office called about our growth test Tuesday. They said that they had not seen him in a calendar year and could not do the test. To say I went off is putting it mildly. I did all that we discussed last appointment, followed up wit the ped and did another bone scan. So now we are going in Thursday for an eval. I had to cancel a meeting and move my class. I know he is going to be an ass, I didn't care for this doc the first time. He just talked in circles. We didn't do the scan the first time he scheduled because we were unsure about it and I am sure he is going to be rude. I am so pissed because I asked if we needed to be seen before I made the test appointment.

Also, I got a text from ATT saying my bill is $654CR, which I hopefully am assuming they gave me a credit for the phone. However, I am a little concerned the AG of my state never got back to me. What is the recourse for companies screwing people over?

[k3am]

All is peaceful in the office this week, and I imagine we'll get at least a few more days of it, so I can't complain.

We got our TV mounted in the living room and the wall patched and painted. All I need now is an entertainment center and some art/accessories and I'm done. I'm torn between three entertainment centers. What I really like won't happen (I don't think it exists), and the other 3 choices are okay. Crate & Barrel's having a sale though, so I'd like to get it done sooner rather than later.

[covergirl82]

We got an emergency text alert last night asking everyone to lower their thermostats due to a fire at a natural gas supply plant and that impacted supply (not to mention the super low windchills causing furnaces to run longer and more often, which impacted supply to begin with). So we dialed our thermostat down to 65 as requested and are layering up. The temps are supposed to go up to the 30s/40s Saturday through Monday, so hopefully that will help the supply situation.

I ventured out today to drop DD off at a friend's house and then DD, DS, and I stopped at the grocery store to grab a few things after we picked DD up. It was nice to get out of the house, but the windchill was brutal.

rere, that is beyond frustrating, I'm sorry.

[rere]

I forgot my other update. DH and I got into a big blow up about tiling the floors in the bathroom before Christmas. He said after the first of the year, which in his mind meant Spring, my mind says January. He claimed that all his efforts would be on DS's truck, which he was taking to a friends shop to work on before his bday in April.


Well he comes in with boxes of tile Tuesday. Currently my master bath has all trim and doors removed including the door in my closet which is in the bathroom. Tile is going down today. He works tomorrow through the weekend. We can walk on the tile right now, but the toilet is in the tub. He is grouting Monday and hopefully can get everything put together, then start on the hall bath. The truck btw is sill sitting in the driveway behind the house and for whatever reason, hasn't went anywhere.

[2chatter]

I love that I am getting bills for medical stuff through text. I hate that not ONE of them works. The most recent displayed a pop up “You seem to be having a hard time. Enter the birthdate of the guarantor.” I do. Every time. I’ve tried all of our birthdays. Because these bills are from radiology and labs IDK who they are. I can’t contact them. They say things like “TX Radiology”. I am not googling and calling to figure out WHICH TX radiology is in play here. I hope they will send me a paper bill soon? Super annoyed.

DD’s GI appointment is this afternoon. I can’t focus.

[supertrooper1]

I got paid yesterday. Because things were processed so quickly once the government reopened, I hope it is correct and I don't have to pay any of it back. I start my new job on March 4th and I'm excited for the change.

H and I are planning on breaking the news to DS tonight. 2 weeks until he moves out. twinmomma, thank you for the Cusody X Change recommendation. It is helping us tremendously, especially since I was able to get H on board.

DDOT: I had to try McDonald's new cheesy bacon fries. Good, but way too many calories...lol.

[waverly]

This morning, I waited out the -21 temperatures until a heat wave of -9 and took the kids to MacDonald's to play and then to work with me. So far, we have been here 2 hours, and they are doing amazing. Read their books for 30 minutes and then on the iPads/ my phone. Not sure how long I am going to stay, maybe another hour. I just really wanted to get out of the house!

[greenmonkey1]

2chatter Do you get a copy in email as well? Text bills would drive me nuts. We have 5 in our family and some of the bills come via email and some come in paper. I have no idea why. All of our doctors (except the kids pediatrician) are in the same medical system. You can set up an online account except you have to have a separate email for each person. It's the same for the online portal for test results and the such. So to manage my whole family I'd need 5 individual email addresses. Nonetheless I do it paper based and I am so not organized; I need to do better this year.

On top of that, I received an EOB for a procedure from three years ago. I just filed it in a box in case I get a bill and need to dispute.

Good luck with your DD's GI appointment.

[mustardseed2007]

I have an update on GH also.

Our doctor did bone age on both kids. DS' bone age is 7 and he's 7 yrs old. Our doctor found that DS' adult predicted height is 5'2 inches, +/- 2 inches. That kind of doesn't jibe with what she was telling me verbally in the last appointment prior to the bone age that he'd reach 5'4" +/-2 inches. However, with that determination she went ahead and put in a request for GH based upon having an adult predictive height under 5'3".

DD received a bone age of 4, and she's 4. She's not on the growth curve, but b/c she's younger than 7, it's too early to do a adult height prediction with accuracy. But based on her growth velocity and failure to hit the growth curve at all, she put in a request for GH.

In the interim the doctor requested assistance from the GH company, humatrope. I spoke with a representative today and they are going to start their verification process to give us humatrope for hopefully free pending insurance approval.

So there's that. We'll see if this goes anywhere.

[mustardseed2007]

Also an update on school. After the school held the re-enrollment of some learning disabled kids, including a girl in DS' class (A) that he's close with, the school reversed itself and went ahead and offered her enrollment.

However, the mom is not having it and is looking at a transfer from her "crummy" public school to a "better one," which will free up her money for more tutoring anyway, which her daughter needs. It's a win for her and probably what she needs to do. Conversely, DS is doing amazing at school and seems happy.

But I was talking to DS last night. He told me his best friend is A. I asked about other kids and he likes several others. But the best part of the school is A being there. He eventually mentioned if she wasn't going to school there next year he wants to go where she goes. When I tried to say -- well you'd still see her at camp and karate etc. etc. He just asked me to stop talking b/c i was stressing him out.

It bummed me out.

[twinmomma]

Thinking of you supertrooper1, good luck telling DS!

We made a big deal about us being really good at being mom and dad, but really bad at being best friends with each other. It seemed to help my girls get it a little more.

[mae0111]

TWERK - I have just about finished my most recent project, and I need to start queuing up more work. I enjoyed the work even though it stressed me out.

DDOT - does anyone care about the Super Bowl (except me)? Or football in general? If so, I recommend the NFL Fan Therapy series of videos on YouTube. It’s so funny - group therapy for super fans of the various NFL teams. My favorite is the Bills fan, who completely deteriorates throughout the season.. Each video is only 3 mins long. Funny for a quick watch. Language is NSFW or kids.

[mommyatty]

Total DDOT. DD has this friend who is quickly morphing into a frenemy. The kid has issues. Like “has multiple diagnoses” issues. DD has really struggled with this little girl creating “clubs” and then allowing in and kicking people out of the clubs on her whim. DD on Friday was sobbing to my MIL because this girl said she wasn’t going to let DD be in her club anymore. The reason? DD refuses to say another little girl couldn’t sit with them at lunch anymore. I talked with DD and asked who had made this girl the boss of the club. No one. So why did anyone think she could do this? Dunno. Yesterday at recess, this kid informed everyone that she would not play a single thing DD was involved in. So DD, her BFF (a boy) and another little girl all just turned and walked away from the mean girl. Mean girl was apparently crushed and had a screaming fit. I told DD I thought she handled it perfectly. They weren’t mean to the girl but they did stand up for themselves and each other by walking away and playing together.

What I’m struggling with is not telling DD to shun this kid. I’m sick to death of her antics. I’ve always felt sorry for the kid because of all her issues, but frankly I think her biggest issue is she’s a spoiled brat only child who has always gotten away with acting like a jerk. Her mom blames it on her being one of the youngest kids in the class, but DD’s only 8 days older than this girl and DD doesn’t act like this. DD and the other girl who walked away are the only kids who are friends with this girl. The others are over her meanness and won’t engage with her at all.

[mae0111]

mommyatty - it sounds a lot like what my DD1 went through last year and the year before. Her Frenemy would pull the same stuff - “oh, sorry, tag is only for 16 people, you’re #17, can’t play.” I really struggled with coaching DD.

I finally settled on the idea of “you don’t have to be friends, but you do have to be kind.” DD couldn’t distinguish between the two, but maybe your DD can? Be nice, but keep her distance? It sounds like the kids are on to her a little...

This stuff sucks. Good luck...

[mae0111]

My family is stalking me. Truly.

It’s been a crazy week and the introvert in me is dying to be alone. My family WILL NOT ALLOW IT. It’s getting extreme. DD1 was screaming “WAIT FOR ME” when I started up the car in a parking lot to get the heat going. Same screaming when we got home because I didn’t stand in the freezing garage while she casually gathered her things.

DH is no better. I snuck off to our room to fold laundry for 5 mins and he followed me. THREE TIMES. Im hiding in my office. LEAVE ME ALONE for like 5 mins!!!

DH and I are also struggling with a division of household stuff and child care. I’m working much less than him, so I take on the luon’s share - all fine. But he stops working and... sits on the couch and plays with his phone. Unless I hide and make him interact, he just won’t. It’s maddening. Even after the kids go to bed, if we haven’t eaten he will sit there until I make him something. We divide and conquer at bed time, and if his kid is easier to put down, he would never take the initiative and start cooking. Nope. Sit there helpless until I make him something.

[traveltheworld]

DDOT: I've been complaining a little about how DH treats me like a limb (essentially, but neglected), so he planned this big Valentine's Day outing (dinner + live show), sent me a calendar event, I got all excited, THEN my calendar told me that I had a conflict. It was only then that I realized that I'm on a business trip that day and won't be back till the Saturday. It also involves a big strategic session over dinner with the business team. I asked my business team guys whether they realized it was Valentine's Day and they all said "yeah! DUH!" We typically don't celebrate on V-Day, so it's no big deal, but it made me a little sad; also compounded by the fact that DH will be away on business the first part of that week, so I won't see him for 6 days straight.

[waverly]

Captains log: Stardate J31 17:49 hours. It’s been 50 days since the alien inhabitants children have taken over the ship. We are orbiting a hostile planet uninhabitable due to its extremely low temperatures. The other inhabitants of the ship has disappeared, and I am the only one here. It appears we have entered a time warp.

[mae0111]

Jan 31, 2019 18:56:24 GMT -5 waverly said:

Captains log: Stardate J31 17:49 hours. It’s been 50 days since the alien inhabitants children have taken over the ship. We are orbiting a hostile planet uninhabitable due to its extremely low temperatures. The other inhabitants of the ship has disappeared, and I am the only one here. It appears we have entered a time warp.

😂

[twinmomma]

mae0111 you know I care about the Superbowl! Might be banished from this area if I didn't. I can't wait for the game!

Also, my children stalk me too. I lock myself in the bathroom. Even if they can slide stuff under the door and just keep talking incessantly, they are not physically touching me. I call that a win. Lol

[librarychica]

covergirl82, I heard that in NPR this morning! Insanity!

mommyatty, it is hokey but we used the Have you filled a bucket today? book with DD1’s Daisy troop last year. It is helpful for various topics involving kindness, bullying, etc. There is a part about people taking from buckets because their buckets are empty and it not making them feel any better that I’ve used with DD1 to explain some of those mean playground games. It’s hard for me to be compassionate with that nonsense too. Give me the kid whacking DD2 during aftercare over clique games any day!

[librarychica]

My poor big kid has a cold and the stomach virus from hell. I kept her home with a cold yesterday and then the stomach thing hit hard today. H stayed with her and when I got home from work he told me that she had been sleeping for hours and couldn’t keep down water. Long story short, by 8 she and I were at urgent care and we didn’t leave until almost 11. They threatened her with an IV but thankfully after a zofran shot and she was able to rehydrate some. Then we get home and the coughing keeps her from falling asleep ...

In other news, after being fixed over the weekend my car’s brakes now feel weird. H is pushing for me to get a new-to-me car and I don’t wanna, but it may be time.

[shakinros]

How did it go supertrooper1 ? Congrats on the start date and back pay.

[shakinros]

I got a raise! A 12% raise! Average at my company is 2.5%. I wasn’t expecting anything because I got a salary adjustment last year so this was a welcome shock.

3.5yrs ago I was really torn about joining this company. Agonized over it for weeks. But since making the leap, I’ve been promoted twice and am now making 65% more than when I started. So it seems to have worked out. 😂

My ED also asked me to work this year on drafting a plan for what my position would look like if it were Director-level with 1 or 2 additional direct reports. That seems to bode well for future growth.

[2chatter]

mommyatty - I tell my kids to avoid the obnoxious kids. But I don’t say it like that...it’s “surround yourself with positive people” and “build your friends up, that’s what friends do” and “if someone makes you feel bad, and makes other feel bad, by doing mean things repeatedly on purpose, are they a good friend” and “try to share kindness with kids who do mean things, but when it keeps happening, it’s not your job to make other people be kind”. I leave the choices to them but build the foundation without ever saying “don’t play with Mary”.

DD is struggling right now because a girl with a strict religious family has very conservative rules - no being out after dark, no soda, no Sunday play dates. Her mom has social engineered DD out since they came to our school in 3rd grade, no idea why, but the girl has told DD it’s her mom — and always asks if she can come over (she’s never allowed). I finally figured out why. She’s a pleaser parent. Her daughter was ding dong ditching us at 9:30 PM, she was at a boy’s house not near her home another night and FaceTimed DD drinking a soda and asking why she could not come play (like 8PM on a school night, DD was getting in bed). Last night she was playing in a field with some other kids - in the dark, nonparents, and I wouldn’t let DD go. I’m struggling with how to explain to DD that some parents SAY they have rules but in fact they will waive them for social climbing purposes.

My news: DD can have starch!!!!!!! I can make anything for dinner!!!!!! She’s making the enzyme again, maybe because she has been so sick. She’s still sick. But I can feed her! I will be watching the meals threads for real now!!!!

[supertrooper1]

shakinros, it went well, thanks for asking. DS was being a bit of a goof, so I'm not sure it fully sank in. But he seemed to understand and be ok that one week he would be at dad's house and one week at mom's house. I think once it actually happens, it might be an adjustment. But he didn't seem to care about the news.

[twinmomma]

supertrooper1, One thing that has helped my girls is to have something of mine at his house and vice versa. We went with pillow cases because for whatever reason, that's what the girls liked and wanted to make them think of us. They have a pillow case from XH's bed on their pillow at my house and one from my bed at his house. I feel like for them, it didn't sink in until a few months in and that's when they started to miss us and struggle more. At first it was just fun and novel and cool to have two houses.