This is probably a DDOT? Maybe 6 months ago, I gave up folding clean sheets. It was a hard thing for me to do. I took pride in the fact that I could fold a fitted sheet like Martha Stewart.. and it was so dumb. Now I just shove all the sheets from one set into the pillow case and call it a day. My linen closet is still organized and the world didn’t end. Heck, there was no one and no thing on the face of the planet effected by it.
What else should I be giving up or taking the easy route because it’s wasted effort and just doesn’t matter?
Also FFTC: I previously was folding each set of sheets perfectly and placing them in the pillow case thanks to the internet. It took forever to get them inside without messing them up. I’ve obviously got deep seated issues.
Things that don’t matter- pretty much everything but I pretend they do for the sake of the kids (kid activities and schedule/ random school stuff). I just spent $25 on 100 day bracelets on Amazon because F it.
We have 3-4 sets of sheets for each bed. We take off the sheets, wash them, and then put the exact same set of sheets on again. We never fold because they come out of the dryer and go immediately back on the bed. I don’t know why we have extra sheets. Lol.
I don’t fold kitchen towels carefully anymore. I have a basket they all go into that’s tucked on a shelf. I just kind of fold them haphazardly before tossing them in the basket.
Also FFC- I almost never clean my crockpot. I use a liner, take it out when dinner is over, and toss it. The crockpot is clean enough. DH thinks it needs to still be washed, so I totally lie to him. “Was it washed?” “Um hm” while thinking in my head “Like 2 weeks ago when you did it.”
mommyatty our cleaners change the sheets, so I need two sets. My old cleaner also folded the clean ones and it was glorious. But she also didn’t actually clean stuff like bathrooms.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 31, 2019 22:30:55 GMT -5
I let DS, who will be 6 in March, use a sippy cup for his milk and water. He can drink out of a regular glass no problem, but is still careless. This keeps me from cleaning up spills and I can put what he didn't drink back in the fridge.
I put the sheets in the washing machine the morning the cleaners are coming, switch to the dryer before leaving for work, and then the cleaners get them out of the dryer and put them back on. So no folding required.
That only works for our sheets. I don’t have the cleaners deal with the kids sheets because bunk beds and I’d feel bad having them climb around that high to change sheets.
Post by librarychica on Feb 1, 2019 0:55:46 GMT -5
I make my 7yo put away her laundry and I used to wince and straighten her drawers. But I have let that go. This letting go applies to most of her clutter. Are her shelves overly full of random stuff? Sure. But her floor is clean.
I have accepted that I eat at the office cafeteria a few times a week. Yes, it is overpriced salad or baked chicken. But I am constantly making dinners or packing lunches — if I end up spending $20 on salads in a week because I couldn’t face any more meal prep, well, I don’t have a Starbucks habit and a woman has to eat.
I've had to release Ds's room. He doesn't keep any food in there, but literally every surface is covered and the closet is full. His dresser has all of his clean clothes which I make him put up periodically. Other dresser and nightstand has random things like a snakeskin? Cans he shot and used for targets? 5 deodorants? Pocket knives and shotgun shells? Rocks? I just make him clear off the floor so he doesn't kill the Roomba.
Btw I have always kind of just wadded up the sheets and put. Them in the closet.
I have no linen closet so I store extra sheets in a plastic tub in the back of my closet. They are not folded nicely.
I have given up on folding kid clothes. I neatly stack and then shove in the drawers. Their clothes are still small enough that it really makes no difference and they just tear it apart anyway.
Also, matching socks for my kids. F that noise. Just put two socks on and call it a day.
Clothes shopping with kids, I just order them some stuff online and call it a day (unless we happen to be at the store). But then, unless it is something super special, we don't try it on. I just buy what should be their size, or a size up, and go with it. I mentioned this to my mom the other day, and she looked at me like I was nuts. No one has time to take their little kids (4 and 7) to go and try on everything.
I care about SO MUCH that doesn't matter. I hate to have people over, because our house is always a mess. But really, the people that matter don't care what your house looks like.
DD1 is super sloppy. Going into her room brings out every last drop of my anxiety. I really need to stop caring about that.
With the exception of towels, we don't fold any laundry in our house. All of our clothing that we wear out gets hung up. We built shelves to hold 5 laundry baskets in our laundry room. Each person has their own basket. Socks, underwear, pjs all get sorted in to each person's basket when the load is done. We also put random toys and books that get left downstairs in their basket. Every Sunday, they take their basket and hanging clothes upstairs and are responsible for putting everything away.
I gave up caring that no one makes their beds. I don't do it, and I don't care that my kids don't either. If someone is coming over and will be upstairs for some reason, we make them - otherwise, forget it.
With the exception of towels, we don't fold any laundry in our house. All of our clothing that we wear out gets hung up. We built shelves to hold 5 laundry baskets in our laundry room. Each person has their own basket. Socks, underwear, pjs all get sorted in to each person's basket when the load is done. We also put random toys and books that get left downstairs in their basket. Every Sunday, they take their basket and hanging clothes upstairs and are responsible for putting everything away.
I think this is genius. Off to google laundry basket shelves!
I have planner fatigue. I am so tired of planning events that get us out of the house on the weekend, Scout, sports and school stuff. I should be coming up with something to keep kids busy today or me so we don’t stay inside all day, and I explode somewhere around 4 because we never left the house.
But I just can’t think of anymore fun things or try something new which involves driving somewhere I never been before and buying tickets and weather stuff.
And DH after being gone all week works on finances all day and ignores the kids. I want to ignore the kids too so I am just up here doing that but I can’t do that all day likes he does.
So then I feel like I should tackle my to do list but that’s boring and I am tired of doing laundry. We need a vacation but traveling in the Midwest in winter sucks and isn’t even worth it.
Post by ilovelucyvv on Feb 2, 2019 20:07:15 GMT -5
Sometimes I kick toys out of the middle of the floor so that i have a safe path to walk without actually cleaning them up. And them sometimes when I get around to cleaning them up i gather them in a plastic bag which i dump in one of the many plastic tubs lurking around our house. Not into organizing them.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 4, 2019 12:59:05 GMT -5
Maybe this is a thing that doesn't matter, at least I'm trying to tell myself that.
I'm on our neighborhood HOA and we just redid our neighborhood pool with new coping, plaster, and spray decking. I picked out the coping and it's a nice, unoffensive color. The HOA president picked out the spray decking. I saw the color and I was fine with it on the paint chip....but you know it's hard to know what color something is when you're looking at a paint chip. It looked like a cream on the square. But when you put it all over every inch of concrete around the pool it looks bright bright lemon yellow.
Post by covergirl82 on Feb 4, 2019 13:47:16 GMT -5
librarychica, +1 to buying lunch more than I'd like because I'm so over packing lunches for the kids and making dinner when I get home.
mustardseed2007, don't feel too bad. Yellow is the weirdest paint color because it does look fine on the swatch and then super bright when it goes on. We picked what looked like beige with a hint of yellow for our basement, and it looks like a soft light yellow - definitely more yellow than beige. I do like it, but glad we didn't get anything more yellow.
I usually wash the sheets on our bed and put them right back on so as to avoid folding. My mom washes the kids' sheets when she comes down and does the Martha Stewart fold.
I've given up most days with eating at the table. I want to, but half the time we don't have a common dinner because of activities or practices, so it hasn't been a habit.
I've also given up lamenting that the peninsula part of our kitchen counter is never cleared off. It's the dumping ground for papers and mail at the end of the day, and DH and I aren't great about going through the piles everyday, so usually the piles sit sometimes until the weekend, and not everything seems to get cleared off.
I think I’ve just given up. There’s a twin mattress in our front entry that I need to donate. Too overwhelmed to donate. It’s great for Nerf wars? There’s .... stuff everywhere. I mean, still cleaner than a messy home, but for me who hates clutter I am freaking out. It took me three days to remove a dead fish from the fish tank. The dogs smell like dogs. I changed the BBW plugin? My workout clothes are now for two seasons and don’t fit in one drawer so they are on the floor. In a stack.
I'm fuming. This is something I shouldn't care about, but I am pissed.
My kids eat school breakfast and school lunch 75% of the time. It makes all our lives easier and less stressful.
Mom in my FB feed posted that making breakfast for her kids is a huge ordeal, tons of work, etc. I commented that I just have my kids eat breakfast at school now to make all our lives easier. Some other woman responded "OMG. Don't let your kids eat at school! I hear nothing but horror stories! It's not good food, not nutritious. You keep making them your homemade, loving food, don't do that!"
"Loving Food"?! Are you serious?! It just totally rubbed me the wrong way.
twinmomma, That would piss me off too. Something I should probably let roll off my back, but it would get to me.
My kids eat breakfast and lunch at school...
I don't know what I am going to do when he goes to elementary school. I guess it will depend on what time he gets there, and whether or not he likes it.
I'm fuming. This is something I shouldn't care about, but I am pissed.
My kids eat school breakfast and school lunch 75% of the time. It makes all our lives easier and less stressful.
Mom in my FB feed posted that making breakfast for her kids is a huge ordeal, tons of work, etc. I commented that I just have my kids eat breakfast at school now to make all our lives easier. Some other woman responded "OMG. Don't let your kids eat at school! I hear nothing but horror stories! It's not good food, not nutritious. You keep making them your homemade, loving food, don't do that!"
"Loving Food"?! Are you serious?! It just totally rubbed me the wrong way.
All of the eye rolls to that comment 🙄🙄🙄. I wish my kids would buy lunch at school. It would save a ton of time.
I'm fuming. This is something I shouldn't care about, but I am pissed.
My kids eat school breakfast and school lunch 75% of the time. It makes all our lives easier and less stressful.
Mom in my FB feed posted that making breakfast for her kids is a huge ordeal, tons of work, etc. I commented that I just have my kids eat breakfast at school now to make all our lives easier. Some other woman responded "OMG. Don't let your kids eat at school! I hear nothing but horror stories! It's not good food, not nutritious. You keep making them your homemade, loving food, don't do that!"
"Loving Food"?! Are you serious?! It just totally rubbed me the wrong way.
I guess I could knock myself out and make homemade, loving food, but my kids would rather have a honey bun. So the sausage biscuit he gets at school, would probably be better. I guess I could lovingly open the honey bun package for him. I lovingly put more money into his meal account? I've released breakfast also. Just eat something kid and get on about your day.
Hmmmm. Would I rather my kids look back on their childhood and think “My mom was a stressed out bitch rushing around every morning cooking eggs for breakfast for us to prove she was a good mom” or “My mom was relaxed and laughed and talked to us in the car on the way to school. She let us eat breakfast at school with our friends in the morning.” I’m going with Option B every time. Also, there are nutrition guidelines for school breakfast. Not so much for home.
I'm fuming. This is something I shouldn't care about, but I am pissed.
My kids eat school breakfast and school lunch 75% of the time. It makes all our lives easier and less stressful.
Mom in my FB feed posted that making breakfast for her kids is a huge ordeal, tons of work, etc. I commented that I just have my kids eat breakfast at school now to make all our lives easier. Some other woman responded "OMG. Don't let your kids eat at school! I hear nothing but horror stories! It's not good food, not nutritious. You keep making them your homemade, loving food, don't do that!"
"Loving Food"?! Are you serious?! It just totally rubbed me the wrong way.
I wouldn't be able to resist responding "I guess breakfast at school means I don't love my kids?" but I'm a bitch. Actually no, that lady is a bitch.
Can we give ourselves permission to take assistance offered to us so that we're not overwhelmed all the fucking time but our kids still get a hot meal that they enjoy and that probably is nutritious? ("I've heard" is no evidence that anything is bad!!)
Can we leave off making comments that are going to clearly insult another mom's parenting? Particularly when there's a another mom asking for help because making her "loving food" is not working her household otherwise she wouldn't have posted!!
Maybe making breakfast for your kids is your love language. Great! But maybe you love on your kids in other ways and this is not your thing. Give other mom's space to do things differently without commenting on it in a judgmental bitchy way.