I responded with "Huh, well, when my kids eat breakfast at school they get something like an egg and cheese bagel sandwich or hot pancakes. At home I'd have time for a bowl of cereal or a pop tart. I'd prefer they eat the school food."
She came back with some kind of stuttering "oh, I didn't realize they get food like that" answer. Jerk.
This reminds me of the idealistic time in my life when DS was starting K. I was determined that I was going to give him a hot, ready breakfast every morning. I went out and bought some semi homemade things like frozen sausage patties and waffles. I thought I could handle cooking a couple of eggs or pancakes. Got some nice fruit. That lasted to about Wednesday the first week. Kid wouldn't touch any of it. If I got a bowl of cereal down him, it was a miracle. He'd rather have a poptart in the car.
My kids look at me like I'm insane if I offer them eggs or pancakes in the morning. They eat some combination of a yogurt, Vitamuffins, frozen waffles, small bagel, and a granola bar every day. Sometimes I make banana muffins if I have bananas to use up, but that's about as homemade as I get for breakfast. Otherwise, homemade = I opened the yogurt and stirred it up.
Mornings are such a sh!t show here. We could not handle adding anything like that.
I'm fuming. This is something I shouldn't care about, but I am pissed.
My kids eat school breakfast and school lunch 75% of the time. It makes all our lives easier and less stressful.
Mom in my FB feed posted that making breakfast for her kids is a huge ordeal, tons of work, etc. I commented that I just have my kids eat breakfast at school now to make all our lives easier. Some other woman responded "OMG. Don't let your kids eat at school! I hear nothing but horror stories! It's not good food, not nutritious. You keep making them your homemade, loving food, don't do that!"
"Loving Food"?! Are you serious?! It just totally rubbed me the wrong way.
My kid eats school breakfast. Its free and we just don't have the time to rush around making breakfast. Also it is a whole lot warmer sitting eating breakfast in the cafeteria than standing outside for 20 minutes waiting for the classroom door to open. There are days DD doesn't like what is being served (breakfast pizza, breakfast sandwich and French toast sticks-she says they are always burnt) those days she can choose cereal or bagel or if I make muffins over the weekend or have a freezer stash she will take a couple muffins to school. Right now she has pumpkin muffins with mini chocolate chips to grab if she wants them.
I'm fuming. This is something I shouldn't care about, but I am pissed.
My kids eat school breakfast and school lunch 75% of the time. It makes all our lives easier and less stressful.
Mom in my FB feed posted that making breakfast for her kids is a huge ordeal, tons of work, etc. I commented that I just have my kids eat breakfast at school now to make all our lives easier. Some other woman responded "OMG. Don't let your kids eat at school! I hear nothing but horror stories! It's not good food, not nutritious. You keep making them your homemade, loving food, don't do that!"
"Loving Food"?! Are you serious?! It just totally rubbed me the wrong way.
My kids eat breakfast at home AND at school every day. I'm not sure that I consider the two bowls of cheerios and Activia that I feed them any more loving or nutritious than what they get at school...
Also I've found for most of these sanctimommies, the response "umm.. your privledge is showing" will usually shut them down real fast, regardless of topic. They're just terrified of being called privledged. I don't really get it, but it works.
The "loving food" phrase is just the worst. Like a phrase that makes you instantly hate a woman.
Also, FFTC, I've edited my posts about this topic to take out all but a few choice curse words. I definitely cuss too much.
I think I am giving up cussing for lent. I usually have to do it every year. It takes for several months, but by January, I again am starting to sound like a sailor.
k3am, My kids would love to do that, and were for a while until I caught on, but I finally told them to just have breakfast at school. I was killing myself to fit in food at home and then they were spending lunch money on breakfast anyway. They don't seem any worse for wear.
mustardseed2007, That's what really pissed me off. What does that even mean?! LOVING food? Oh sorry. Guess I don't love my kids like you do. I immediately creeped her profile after that comment. She's a SAHM mom who is "self employed" by an MLM company. So that just added to my loathing. Maybe I'm a jerk too? lol
I know that being a SAHM is hard work especially when they are not school age. (Is it hard when they are school age?) However, if I was a SAHM with only school age kids I might actually make their breakfast and pack their lunch for them. Unless they asked or continued to eat school food as well. I am a morning person though.
As for the MLM stuff. That crap makes me mad. Luckily I only have one friend on FB doing it right now, but it drives me nuts every time she post about how this MLM allows her to be more present in her kids life. She does work part time as a physical therapist as well.
xctsclrx, If I didn't work, I'd make them food. But to comment on a post by a working mom asking for advice, calling out the "bad choices" of another working mom, I have no time for that BS.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 5, 2019 12:12:16 GMT -5
twinmomma, the MLM situation in my neighborhood is out. of. control. And I can hear all of them saying that kind of thing. Plus I'm from the south so you have to make everything sound so syrupy sweet. Bless her heart.
I’ve reached the point in my life where my actual response would be “bitch, please”. I’d probably spell it “b!t$@, please” because that’s the polite thing to do.
But then again, I am the person people call when they need to be direct with someone. Like I’m the “just say it, nicely” coach or something. It always makes me feel weird. But I don’t have time to worry about what other people think. Also, IDGAF.
I don’t really work, and I still don’t make them breakfast foods. They eat at home because eating at school isn’t an option. I make “loving” food for dinner a few times a week and dinner usually ends in tears.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Feb 5, 2019 13:38:42 GMT -5
2chatter Are there any charities in your city that pick up furniture donations? I just donated a headboard to Habitat for Humanity and it could not have been any easier. I just left it in the garage and they took it from there (our garage is detached so that might have made a difference). My house is the same as yours; stuff everywhere. And I just cannot get myself to get any more cleaning done. The pisser is the problem really isn't my kids, it's my husband. Pretty certain my boys clean up after themselves better than he does and it is driving me nuts.
twinmomma DS1 eats frozen pancakes (with an abundance of syrup) pretty much every day and DS2 eats a Chewy granola bar. I've tried to get them to eat better, but it is not a fight worth fighting. I love my boys dearly, but I am not making pancakes and eggs at 6 am while I am trying to get 2 kids ready for school while wrangling a toddler. I'll pour cereal and get milk, but there is no cooking that early. At best I would microwave an egg in a cup, but that would be "special" for a day when DS1 has some sort of field trip and is eating lunch later than usual.
We had such a stressful morning today where DD1 refused to get dressed and almost missed the bus. She still wasn't dressed and the bus was at our driveway. DH asked the driver to wait while I started screaming at her (since the first 10 times of stern voices didn't work). I can't even fathom adding making breakfast for her and getting her to eat it into the mix.
My question is how much time do you give your kids to get ready and out the door? Maybe I'm not getting her up early enough? She currently has 30 minutes and it's like pulling teeth every morning to get dressed and brush hair/teeth. She's in 1st grade.
greenmonkey1 - yes, that’s not the issue though - currently three sick kids, a total of 7 doctor appointments this week and I’m managing 20some projects and I don’t have time to do one more thing. So ... there’s a bed in the foyer.
Does anyone else wish for conference call free days??? I just need a day to not talk to people.
mellym, We have about 30-45 minutes. They are literally dressed in less than 7 minutes (because I sent a timer on Alexa for them to race) and then the rest of the time they wander aimlessly, forgetting every single piece of the daily routine, and I yell at them to do things like put a snack in their lunch box or put their glasses on or find gloves or something dumb.
mellym, less than 20 minutes and a 2nd grader. She gets up, pees, gets dressed, shoes on, brushes her hair and I throw it up, and on a good day she puts her lunch into her backpack. DD isn't a morning person and neither am I we both need as much stay in bed time to function. Both of our internal body clocks say we should get up between 7:40 and 8 not 6:45-7am.
2chatter, I'm looking forward to working on Sunday with the office closed so I don't have to answer the damn phone or talk to anyone for a few hours so I can actually get something done. I know I should WFH Sunday but I really want the quiet alone and DH just can't leave me be when I WFH.
Sanctimommies 1. lie 2. are not worth listening to 3. don't try to sell me you MLM 4. Have other issues.
I had one rip into me for not forcing the school district to pay for PT and OT which would A. Be illegal under state law and B. Was different because her child was early intervention and mine was school age and C. She had very little money so she had to focus on cost cutting and saving money because she didn't work. No judgement of SAHM, but the fact you have to pick a cheaper option is not MY problem that was YOUR choice. And I love EI and am totally for it, it just doesn't apply to a 7 year old.
DD pretty much never eats breakfast. Homegirl doesn't get hungry until 11 am even on weekends, and it was ruining our relationship to fight with her every morning. She is 80% on the growth curve, so obviously doing fine.
We had such a stressful morning today where DD1 refused to get dressed and almost missed the bus. She still wasn't dressed and the bus was at our driveway. DH asked the driver to wait while I started screaming at her (since the first 10 times of stern voices didn't work). I can't even fathom adding making breakfast for her and getting her to eat it into the mix.
My question is how much time do you give your kids to get ready and out the door? Maybe I'm not getting her up early enough? She currently has 30 minutes and it's like pulling teeth every morning to get dressed and brush hair/teeth. She's in 1st grade.
Technically an hour, but she doesn't always get up on time. I would say 30 minutes is not long enough.
Teenagers so DH gets up an hour and a half before he has to leave. Technically, he moves his sleeping nest onto the couch, turns on the tv, and goes back to sleep. Gets up 15 minutes before we leave, gets dressed, brushes his hair and teeth, out the door. Why? No one knows.
DD gets up an hour early and sometimes follows her brother to the couch. Much of her process is on whether or not she is going to fix her hair or it is a ponytail day. She doesn't like to be rushed. Last week she didn't get up until 30 minutes before she leaves, and she comes bawling through the kitchen about not waking up on time.
mellym my first grade daughter only needs 30 min, but she sleeps in her clothes. We put them on after bath each night. So all she has to do is go downstairs and eat, and I put her sunscreen on and do her hair while she eats. Sometimes I also put her shoes on while she eats if we’re running late. ffC - my kids don’t brush teeth in the morning.